Should I tell my kids, or wait?

lgsdesigner

I have two young children from a previous marriage. They are ages 6 and 3.

This weekend is my weekend to have them, so it's the first time seeing them since I discovered my pregnancy. 

I really want to tell them they are going to have a baby brother/sister! They both have been asking for us to "make them one". But...I know once I tell them, they will more than likely tell their dad who will tell his family and any mutual friends we might have, so I don't want the secret out yet. I want to go to the u/s at 8.5 weeks, see for myself the baby is okay, and THEN reveal.

But...part of me feels bad for not letting them know right away. Especially in about 2wks when I will probably get m/s, and will be too sick to play with them like I normally do. 

WWYD?

marijaa333

Play it by ear! If you do get M/S and fund yourself slowing down, make the decision then. On another note, how did your pickles and ice cream dinner announcement go?

lgsdesigner

@marijaa-

It went awesome. So last night I came home from work, and had the pee stick in my purse (hiding it). He was in the bedroom laying down and playing on his tablet. I lay down beside him and say "Man...I'm so hungry." He goes "Yeah? For what? So am I." I go "I don't know...how does pickles and ice cream sound?" He says loudly "OMG...you're sooo pregnant!" and sits up and looks at me. I grin and reveal the pee stick and his eyes get really big, gets a HUGE smile and hugs me hard and was kissing me for like....2 minutes straight.  

He kept telling me "A baby? I'm so happy! Awww...our baby." Then he was rubbing my bloated belly and smiling. It was adorable. He then says "You know I won't let you do ...like...anything now, right? Don't lift that loaf of bread! It's too heavy for you!" We had a good laugh and went to dinner for my current craving: pizza and subs

Sharon&Paul

My kids are similar ages to yours (6,4, and 2 next week). I choose to wait. Godforbid we loose the pregnancy, I don't want them to go through the pain. Also 9 months is a long time when they are so young. I have had morning sickness and fatigue. They know I am not feeling well, but too young to associate it with pregnancy.

In the end you need to do what you feel is right. Everyone has a different opinion on this. I am currently 9 weeks and have not told them yet.

lgsdesigner

@Sharon&Paul- That's true. I don't want to go through having to tell them something bad happened (God forbid). I will wait until the ultrasound at 8.5 weeks. Thanks!

1more78

My kids are 10 and 7.  I waited until after 9 week U/S to tell them.  I didn't tell family etc until a few weeks later and it was torture for my girls to keep their mouths shut LOL!  I would wait :0

NicoleWI

I would definitely wait until after the u/s!

jcdorsey74

I would wait.  I had to tell work because M/S is so bad.  My parents know, because they live with us and keep DS during the day, but DH's family does not know.  We probably won't tell them until after I receive the results from the NT scan/bloodwork and any other tests we decide to do.

Mrs.McIrish

Please don't tell them. They won't understand if you have to "un -tell" them.