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Stillborn 39 weeks

RheadawnDavisRheadawnDavis member
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My first son Owen was stillborn at 39weeks on 7-21-14, he had an umbilical cord accident. I want to try again but I am terrified it will happen again. The Dr said there was nothing I could have done differently to save him. How do I start to trust myself again? How do I give myself the confidence to try again? I don't want to be someone who makes baby's suffer. I am 24 years old and for the first time I don't know what to do to get my hope back.
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  • meredithcarolemeredithcarole member
    I am so sorry for your loss. Give yourself time to mourn. Don't rush into anything to try and "fill the void." Someday the desire to try will out weigh the fear, but it may take a while. Take care of yourself.
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  • KingLEDKingLED member
    I'm so so sorry for your loss. 
    Son: Jackson, 11/02/06, stillborn due to PPROM and IUGR. Over the next ten years we had 9 miscarriages from 8-14 weeks. On May 18, 2016 my daughter, Ridley, was born. We're OADNBC.
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  • erin4322erin4322 member
    Oh sweetheart, I am so sorry for your loss.  This happened to a friend of mine and it took her a while to recover.  I would strongly suggest seeing a therapist - it was really instrumental for my friend's healing process.  I am sending you love.  
    BFP 8-14-14; discovered ectopic 8-28-14
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  • follourdestinyfollourdestiny member
    I'm so sorry this happened to you. Thoughts and prayers are with you as you find some inner peace and trust again.
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  • katie0919katie0919 member
    Oh no, I am so, so, so, so very sorry for your loss.
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  • ctk181ctk181 member
    I am so very sorry for your loss. BIG hugs to you. Please take care of yourself and give yourself time to heal emotionally.
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    BFP: 7/2/14 ;  1st US 7/21/14 Baby measuring 7w5d, HB of 138;  Discovered MMC 8/18/14 at 11w2d, baby measuring 8w5d, no hb ; 8/19/14 D&C
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  • LimaDLimaD member
    I am so so sorry... i wish i knew what to tell you.  You've had a devastating loss and it's understandable for it to take some time until you feel truly ready.  I agree with PP's suggestion of therapy. ((Hugs))
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  • purduepat2004purduepat2004 member
    So very sorry! Take care of you, I know that is hard after such a loss!
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  • 4N6s4N6s member
    I am so sorry for you. Crying for you...

    You can do it. Try again, girl.
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  • inti79inti79 member
    I am so, so sorry. It is so common to feel like maybe there's some way the outcome could have been different, and that there was something you could have done. An umbilical cord accident is one of those situations over which we have no control. A grief group for women who have lost full term babies may help you go through your feelings in a supportive setting. So many hugs!
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