Thursday Thoughts

hmp1

MarisaKathleen said:

Yesterday I got a FB email from my FIL's ex-wife.  They were divorced around 13? 14? years ago?  Anyway, she emails me (she's friends with DH's ex wife, who I am also friends with on FB) and says "Dear Marisa, back when our family fell apart, Tim loaned me some money.  I am now financially able to pay him back.  Can you please send me your address so I can send out a certified check?  This has always weighed on my mind, and I'm sure with your expanding family you could use the money."

Told DH about it.  DH never lent her money.  Come to find out through the longest conversations ever with a specialist at Chase today that DH's Dad took his nuc school bonus & his submarine back pay and gave it to the step Mom while they were going through their divorce because he was POA on his accounts while my DH was in the Navy.  DH is very, very, very angry.  This whole time he thought it was his ex-wife who took the money.  Turns out it was his loser dad. 

I swear my DH was raised by responsible wolves.

1st, I love your new siggy.

It hurts my heart to hear about parents doing this to their kids.

hmp1

AlinnJo said:

I have not even begun to think about Christmas gifts. I won't shop until November at the earliest! We won't be home for Christmas so she won't get anything big. It will have to be something portable!

We solved this problem by Santa making a stop at home for the big gift drop off

BeebopandBuddy

hmp1 said:

MarisaKathleen said:

Yesterday I got a FB email from my FIL's ex-wife.  They were divorced around 13? 14? years ago?  Anyway, she emails me (she's friends with DH's ex wife, who I am also friends with on FB) and says "Dear Marisa, back when our family fell apart, Tim loaned me some money.  I am now financially able to pay him back.  Can you please send me your address so I can send out a certified check?  This has always weighed on my mind, and I'm sure with your expanding family you could use the money."

Told DH about it.  DH never lent her money.  Come to find out through the longest conversations ever with a specialist at Chase today that DH's Dad took his nuc school bonus & his submarine back pay and gave it to the step Mom while they were going through their divorce because he was POA on his accounts while my DH was in the Navy.  DH is very, very, very angry.  This whole time he thought it was his ex-wife who took the money.  Turns out it was his loser dad. 

I swear my DH was raised by responsible wolves.

1st, I love your new siggy.

It hurts my heart to hear about parents doing this to their kids.

This. After DH's ex was outed for stealing from us, SD found out she was also stealing from her. She was direct-debating bills from her account. When SD confronted her she said it must be a banking error. She still won't admit it. I thought she couldn't surprise me anymore, but this really did. How do you steal from your own child??

Holly_1007

H is watching the kids so I can go out with a few mom friends tonight. I feel so guilty spending any money on myself, but really, how much is one drink and a dessert? Totally justified, right?

melody921

Holly_1007 said:

H is watching the kids so I can go out with a few mom friends tonight. I feel so guilty spending any money on myself, but really, how much is one drink and a dessert? Totally justified, right?

You need the break. Enjoy and don't feel guilty. Probably not even $20 when all is said and done.

redneckmomma25

My husband's parents "borrowed" tons of money from DH while he was in Iraq. MIL had the access to his accounts while he was over seas. They tried to pay him back with a wood splitter and some other things. DH didn't care. They are more than generous now that they have excess money. Even if they didn't they give whatever they can and when. I remember being angry about it when we were first going out and he was telling me. 

G is getting ridiculous with eating. She will want to eat dinner at 7pm or right before bed. She starts asking for a snack so I give her the dinner that she didn't eat and she will eat some of it.  Or she doesn't want to sit and eat. She wants to play and eat at the same time.  Or she will love something one day and not the next.  I feel so bad when she asks for a snack when I lay her down in bed but it's not as if I haven't given her ample opportunities to eat food I know she likes.  

willy_gert

I am about half done with Christmas shopping and I plan to finish the rest no later than Black Friday.  I can't handle the anxiety of not finishing early.  My friend and I are going to do a big Holiday Open House online with Pampered Chef, Thirty One, Jamberry, Mary Kay, Tastefully SImple, Origami Owl, and Scentsy.  I plan to get several gifts through that.  I'm pretty excited about it....

jenndub

@BobKat22‌ I'm really glad that you talked to your doctor, that was a HUGE step. I know it was hard and I understand why you're emotional about it. You definitely did the right thing and you will feel so good about it later.

melody921

The FB post reminded me of this. While I think social media is sometimes a great way to get a company to reply to you (like if you have an issue with a retailer), it is not OK to use to to bash your former employer.

I handle our social media accounts for work, which I swear is a full-time job some days bc people are so stupid. And we have a woman who's on our Twitter account, bitching about some parting gift card she didn't receive from her boss. When I responded to her post, encouraging her to reach out to the department she worked for, or to HR, she started trash-talking the organization.

WTF? Why are people so entitled? This is a non-profit. No one has seen a raise in years. There are no bonuses unless you're an exec. The fact that we even at one point gave parting gift cards boggles my mind. And she's been gone for nearly 2 years, so why is she bringing it up now?

kelbel527

Holly_1007 said:

H is watching the kids so I can go out with a few mom friends tonight. I feel so guilty spending any money on myself, but really, how much is one drink and a dessert? Totally justified, right?

Don't feel guilty and enjoy yourself.  You deserve the break.  Have fun!

tyrannasaurusjess

@Holly_1007, you DEFINITELY deserve a little time to yourself!! Enjoy it!

@BobKat22, good for you for taking that first step!!! I know, it's hard-- I was in a similar situation as well. Hopefully you'll be feeling more like yourself soon!!

@watercolor5, I always struggle with our grocery bill, too. I wish I was better at couponing, but... I am not. The biggest thing that helped us was paying attention to what things should/could cost. Frozen vegetables were on sale a month or so ago for 69 cents a bag, so we stocked up. Now they are 2.00-2.50 each. We have run out of a few things, so it sucks on nights when I'm really wanting corn or whatever, but knowing that I can get them for 69 cents a bag, there is no way in hell I would pay 2.50 for it now. Some items are non negotiable-- we wouldn't go without toilet paper or anything like that, but... knowing about what items can cost on sale really helps us keep costs down, we just have to plan our meals a little more knowing we may not be able to get certain things this week. We also started gardening, which could be a good option for you, too! Produce can get expensive, and just growing a few items-- the stuff you use the most of, if you live in the right area-- could really cut your bill too! Plus, it sounds lame, but there is something so satisfying about growing your own stuff!!!

AlinnJo

@holly_1007 You go out and don't feel guilty at ALL. Get dressed up and feel good about it. Have a great time, you definitely deserve it!!

@BobKat22 You took the brave first step and brought it up. Now you can be ready to take the next step to make it better. Hopefully you will start feeling more like yourself soon!

watercolor5

jessk86 said:

@Holly_1007, you DEFINITELY deserve a little time to yourself!! Enjoy it!

@BobKat22, good for you for taking that first step!!! I know, it's hard-- I was in a similar situation as well. Hopefully you'll be feeling more like yourself soon!!

@watercolor5, I always struggle with our grocery bill, too. I wish I was better at couponing, but... I am not. The biggest thing that helped us was paying attention to what things should/could cost. Frozen vegetables were on sale a month or so ago for 69 cents a bag, so we stocked up. Now they are 2.00-2.50 each. We have run out of a few things, so it sucks on nights when I'm really wanting corn or whatever, but knowing that I can get them for 69 cents a bag, there is no way in hell I would pay 2.50 for it now. Some items are non negotiable-- we wouldn't go without toilet paper or anything like that, but... knowing about what items can cost on sale really helps us keep costs down, we just have to plan our meals a little more knowing we may not be able to get certain things this week. We also started gardening, which could be a good option for you, too! Produce can get expensive, and just growing a few items-- the stuff you use the most of, if you live in the right area-- could really cut your bill too! Plus, it sounds lame, but there is something so satisfying about growing your own stuff!!!

Yeah, I think actually following sales and/or meal planning based on sales would be the next step to lowering the bill without changing the recipes we like.  It probably won't happen until the littles are slightly older though.  I will definitely be planting more next year.  My tomatoes were a little lower yield than I would have liked, but we've been eating fresh basil and italian parsley and rosemary all summer, which really ups the taste on a lot of dishes.  I agree growing your own is super satisfying... I've been hesitant to plant too much in the back because I'm not sure if the dog will rip it up or not.

watercolor5

@Holly_1007 It's definitely worth it!  Have a fun, relaxing girls night out!

@BobKat22 You did the right thing to bring it up!  Feeling better right away once you have a newborn will be SO worth it.

redneckmomma25

Have fun holly!

bosha711

I'm turning into a creepy creeper on this board.

DD has had a total sleep rebellion for the past week. She fights bedtime & is waking like every two hours at night. It sucks! I'm hoping it's teething b/c she's still missing her canines & 2 yr molars.

I haven't shopped in stores in years. I hate shopping & loathe the mall, so online it is.

It rained for DD's party last Saturday as I feared. We all crammed in the house, but it wasn't so bad. It helped that we had a few no-shows. Today was her actual bday & was MH's bday also. We had a great fun day & the weather was gorgeous, so that made up for it!

I'm sad I don't have any babies anymore

kelbel527

bosha711 said:

I'm sad I don't have any babies anymore

I am starting to feel this way with the upcoming 2nd birthday. Somedays I love the idea of never going through the baby phase, other times it makes me sad I may never go through that phase again.

Why can't they be adorably little forever?

melody921

kelbel527 said:

I'm sad I don't have any babies anymore

I am starting to feel this way with the upcoming 2nd birthday. Somedays I love the idea of never going through the baby phase, other times it makes me sad I may never go through that phase again. Why can't they be adorably little forever?

DD looked so big to me today! She was wearing her little jeans and big-kid sneakers and suddenly it was like BAM, I have a 2-year-old.