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notkateanymore

Chapter79 said:

cjcouple said:

notkateanymore said:

I think family only birthday parties for school age kid's are sad.

If the kid wants a school party I agree but not all kids do. Neither of my kids have wanted classroom parties.  I have asked/offered.  Little freaks 

Same.  I have offered to invite her classmates EVERY year since grade K (and have even encouraged it and told her how fun it would be) and she wants no part of it. She wants family and just a few closer friends from her class (so like 3-4 kids, maybe). That's it. I figure at her age she can decide, so I go with it.  And she has a blast at her parties.  She's more of a "best friend" girl vs having a ton of friends she's not as closer to her, so this is probably why. (I'm the same way).  In general, however, I agree.

That's totally fine. I'm talking about the people who do family only and don't offer friends. They're out there. Trust me.

notkateanymore

amy052006 said:

spring_time said:

amy052006 said:

I'm not having a big birthday party for either boy this fall.  

Plan one was to combine them since their birthdays are so close, but DH's travel schedule got more and more insane, and he is basically OOT five weeks between now and Thanksgiving, including weekends.  That many weekends off the table, and all the other assort fall shit going on, and going away over Coloumbus Day, and it was never going to happen.

So Chuck E. Cheese with us and the grandparents it is.

My FFC I won't save until tomorrow -- I'm probably going to change the venue to Dave and Busters, because beer.

I think Chuck E Cheese serves beer, although I don't know what kind.  I have never been to Dave and Busters, maybe they have more variety.

Not in the greater Philadelphia area -- trust me I have visited them all!  But they used to!

I wish we had a Dave and Busters. L and I went to the one in Times Square this summer...she was blown away.

notkateanymore

OMG Essential Oils in general drive me nuts. Not to mention they give me fucking headaches...the oil to get rid of my headache is NO FUCKING OILS.

spring_time

Kimbus22 said:

spring_time said:

cjcouple said:

Andrewsgal said:

cjcouple said:

diapersnwipes said:

You're an idiot if you pay full price at kohls.

You're a fool if you think you are ever getting a good deal at Kohls. Everyone knows they raise their prices to put shit on sale.

I don't think I'm getting a deal per say but I do like going back and spending my kohls cash. I have $10 that I intend to spend on a shirt for DD.

Oh I think I get deals.  lol

My last sneakers I got there were Asics and I paid $32 dollars. I could not get those anywhere else for that price.  Again, it's not 60% off BUT it is still cheaper.  

It's like my grocery store.  They have Buy 1 get 2 free weeks on food.  There prices are jacked up so olive oil is $10 a bottle but I am getting 3 bottles for $10 and 3.34 a bottle is a great price for olive oil.  

you do realize that a lot of those brands are items specifically made for that store right? So while the price is lower so is the quality compared to an ASIC you would buy at a running store.

Are you sure?  I see my same model sneaker (same color, name etc) for $40 at Olympia.  I also still get the same manufacturer warranty. They seem to last me a couple years as well. I don't think spending an extra $8 at Olympia will do anything additional for me.    

They also sell the original carters clothes and not the cheap knock offs that Target has.

    

 

And the cheap knock-offs at Target actually turn out to be more expensive than using a bunch of coupons at Kohls.

Another UO: I think Target is way overpriced for the quality of their kids clothes. Sometimes I like their clothes, but once I see the price I pass it by because I can buy something similar with a much better quality for cheaper.  I think I am doing it wrong because there is a lot of love for Target clothes for kids.

Yeah I get lots of t-shirts there for Joey for $3-4 and they've never worn out before being outgrown.  I like their Cieco stuff for playclothes.

This is why I think I am doing it wrong.  I never find those deals there, but lots of people do.

Andrewsgal

spring_time said:

Kimbus22 said:

spring_time said:

cjcouple said:

Andrewsgal said:

cjcouple said:

diapersnwipes said:

You're an idiot if you pay full price at kohls.

You're a fool if you think you are ever getting a good deal at Kohls. Everyone knows they raise their prices to put shit on sale.

I don't think I'm getting a deal per say but I do like going back and spending my kohls cash. I have $10 that I intend to spend on a shirt for DD.

Oh I think I get deals.  lol

My last sneakers I got there were Asics and I paid $32 dollars. I could not get those anywhere else for that price.  Again, it's not 60% off BUT it is still cheaper.  

It's like my grocery store.  They have Buy 1 get 2 free weeks on food.  There prices are jacked up so olive oil is $10 a bottle but I am getting 3 bottles for $10 and 3.34 a bottle is a great price for olive oil.  

you do realize that a lot of those brands are items specifically made for that store right? So while the price is lower so is the quality compared to an ASIC you would buy at a running store.

Are you sure?  I see my same model sneaker (same color, name etc) for $40 at Olympia.  I also still get the same manufacturer warranty. They seem to last me a couple years as well. I don't think spending an extra $8 at Olympia will do anything additional for me.    

They also sell the original carters clothes and not the cheap knock offs that Target has.

    

 

And the cheap knock-offs at Target actually turn out to be more expensive than using a bunch of coupons at Kohls.

Another UO: I think Target is way overpriced for the quality of their kids clothes. Sometimes I like their clothes, but once I see the price I pass it by because I can buy something similar with a much better quality for cheaper.  I think I am doing it wrong because there is a lot of love for Target clothes for kids.

Yeah I get lots of t-shirts there for Joey for $3-4 and they've never worn out before being outgrown.  I like their Cieco stuff for playclothes.

This is why I think I am doing it wrong.  I never find those deals there, but lots of people do.

Check out their sale flyers they have these deals at least once a month.

jensriot

I only go into Kohls because they send me those $10 off $10 coupons in the mail. I got a shirt and pants fir DS for $4 total yesterday. It's also right next to swim lessons. I'm not sure I would go if I wasn't right there anyway.

I'm drawing such a blank today. I'm trying to come up with a uo, but got nothing so far.

dizzycooks

I love cartwheel. :x (not that this is u/o, but I had to say it.)

bumpuser8448316

I don't think kids should have homework.

spring_time

I need to get this cartwheel thing.  Unfortunately I am still rocking the flip phone :-(  I think you need to be able to bring the app in or print something out, and that is a real PITA since I also have a super old printer that won't work with my new computer.  Looks like I need to spend a couple hundred dollars on electronics, so I can save money on clothes!  

Saving money by going broke.

Andrewsgal

QueSyrah said:

I don't think kids should have homework.

my kid go to a no homework school. Other than reading 30 minutes a night there is no homework. They also had some of the highest scores in the state on our standardized tests last year so something is working.

Andrewsgal

I don't consider shopping or strip clubs dates.

spring_time

QueSyrah said:

I don't think kids should have homework.

I don't think homework should be graded.  It should be credit or no credit based on whether it was attempted.  It is supposed to be practice, and any grades should be based on work done in school where the teacher can control the variables.

This comes from my experience seeing a a huge variation in home life.  Some students have parents who will do the work, and the child will simply copy the answers.  Other students are completely left to their own devices.

Aussie45

Mine is I like BF shopping. We hardly ever buy anything. DD sleeps over at IL's house. We get up earlier than normal to go look around. We hardly ever buy anything so it's not like we have to go shopping. I just like being out, watching people walk around buying stuff and being part of a big crowd with my hot cocoa on a cold winter morning. I just like overall feel of it.

hmd

I love Kohls, but usually shop the clearance, etc.  I watch the prices to make sure it is actually cheaper.  I do not find as many clothes that I like there for the boys as they get older.  I am not a huge fan of the Jumping beans line, but I did find a few cute things for DS3 this summer.  

I love the Osh Kosh line at Target and sometimes the Cherokee, but I usually don't buy it unless it is on clearance because of price and quality.  Again, not a fan of their clothes for older boys.

DS has rarely had homework so far (he is in second grade), except for reading.  And I love that.  

I am ok with teens/tweens having smart phones. For safety.  I think that is one of the only ways I will feel better about them going off on their own.  I do agree on the upfront monitoring.

DH loves to go shopping on Black Friday with me.  We usually end up going out on Thanksgiving evening/night since we have nothing else to do.  We are not early risers.  

I do think there is such a thing as skinny shaming.  I have experienced it.  I won't speak as to whether it is as bad as fat shaming because I haven't experienced that.  Please don't accuse me of bragging.  : )  However, even as mostly a lurker for years, I have seen this issue come up before on this board with this poster.

Here is my unpopular opinion: I don't have a Facebook account.  I have one for my work, but I don't have a personal one and neither does DH.  I have recently thought about getting one because all my sisters, etc. have one, but I have held out so long, I feel like this would be giving in.  Also, what if no one wants to be my friend?  : )

Aussie45

I like phones for tweens and teens too. I can't tell you how many times my mom would've forgotten me at school had I not had a freaking phone. She forgot even when I did have one, so it was nice to be able to call and remind her.

jesselayne8

Andrewsgal said:

You're an idiot if you pay full price at kohls.

You're a fool if you think you are ever getting a good deal at Kohls. Everyone knows they raise their prices to put shit on sale.

Kind of like Carter's and their 50% off sale that happens 364 days a year.

jensriot

I think those giant homecoming mums with all the ribbons and crap on them look ridiculous and are a waste of money.

I will however get my kids the most hideous, silly looking one they want when the time comes.

magentawarped

scatteredtrees said:

I don't get why there is so much judgment about where people spend their money. Calling people idiots for shopping at Kohl's? Buying second hand clothes when you can afford new? Hokay. 

I don't even like Kohl's, so I'm not offended by that, I just think it's really stupid that people care so much. 

I'm with you. If your kids are fed and appropriately clothed and your bills are paid, you can flush money down the toilet for all I care.

Andrewsgal

scatteredtrees said:

I don't get why there is so much judgment about where people spend their money. Calling people idiots for shopping at Kohl's? Buying second hand clothes when you can afford new? Hokay. 

I don't even like Kohl's, so I'm not offended by that, I just think it's really stupid that people care so much. 

No I don't think you are an idiot for shopping at kohls like I said I have done it. I think you are an idiot if the reason you shop there is because you buy their "sales" crap.

Aussie45

rainbowdasher said:

Aussie45 said:

I like phones for tweens and teens too. I can't tell you how many times my mom would've forgotten me at school had I not had a freaking phone. She forgot even when I did have one, so it was nice to be able to call and remind her.

omg you are so young. We did not have anything close to cell phone when I was in HS and somehow we all managed.

Anyone remember the bag phones?

I'm looking at you @iheartthe80s

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I wouldn't have cared. I didn't ask for one and it wasn't for texting. Just merely to call and remind my mom that she had forgotten me....again

Aussie45

magentawarped said:

scatteredtrees said:

I don't get why there is so much judgment about where people spend their money. Calling people idiots for shopping at Kohl's? Buying second hand clothes when you can afford new? Hokay. 

I don't even like Kohl's, so I'm not offended by that, I just think it's really stupid that people care so much. 

I'm with you. If your kids are fed and appropriately clothed and your bills are paid, you can flush money down the toilet for all I care.

Actually, if people are just gonna flush it, I can just take it off their hands.

Andrewsgal

rainbowdasher said:

I don't get taking a picture of your kid's art work so you can throw it out. If you are going to all that trouble to take picture, print and then make them into a book why not just keep it in the first place?

Here kiddo, it's a picture of a picture. Huh?

Um because a rainbow on a huge sheet up paper takes up a lot more room than a picture. Seriously my kinder kid comes home with crap everyday I don't have the space. But then most of it I just throw away without a picture gasp!

Andrewsgal

scatteredtrees said:

I don't get why there is so much judgment about where people spend their money. Calling people idiots for shopping at Kohl's? Buying second hand clothes when you can afford new? Hokay. 

I don't even like Kohl's, so I'm not offended by that, I just think it's really stupid that people care so much. 

Oh and I think it irritates me so much because to me it is false marketing and people buy it.

Andrewsgal

jesselayne8 said:

Andrewsgal said:

dizzycooks said:

You're an idiot if you pay full price at kohls.

You're a fool if you think you are ever getting a good deal at Kohls. Everyone knows they raise their prices to put shit on sale.

Kind of like Carter's and their 50% off sale that happens 364 days a year.

It makes me laugh when people on my BMB are all zomg carters is having a 50% off sale. Um yep like everyday.

Andrewsgal

@jensriot‌ this is for you

caybeh

I can count on my hands how many times I had a friend birthday party. It wasn't much. I'm not scarred. My birthday is near Thanksgiving, which makes the weather in ND very unpredictable.

One time we couldn't have my aunts and uncles come because we had 3 feet of snow and were snowed in. I was super bummed.

So most of the time, we had family only parties on Thanksgiving. And you know what? I loved it. And yes, I did have friends.

I will probably have some friend parties for my kids. Once they are school aged, that is.

magentawarped

Oh, and also, I just got a par of really cute boots at Kohl's for $20 with coupons, so I'm not knocking that.

penguingrrl

Andrewsgal said:

@jensriot‌ this is for you

What on earth is that picture about?

Andrewsgal

penguingrrl said:

Andrewsgal said:

@jensriot‌ this is for you

What on earth is that picture about?

Mobile right now. Google homecoming mums

notkateanymore

Oh my 8th grade homecoming mum was AMAZING!!!

jensriot

Andrewsgal said:

@jensriot‌ this is for you

Ugly as hell, but I would've killed for one in high school. Mine looked like the baby offspring of those monstrosities. But that was all my mom could afford. My kids will have to tow theirs in wagons...j/k. .maybe.

dizzycooks

amy052006 said:

Stop with "I didn't have a cell phone when I was a kid and I was fine".

We also had pay phones and my mom made me memorize her AT&T calling card number.  those aren't even things anymore.

On this note, my mom tried to call me collect last night.  I guess my cell refused to accept the call?  She was all confused and my only thought was "Calling collect is still a thing?"

jensriot

The mums are worn the day of homecoming and to the game that night. Around here, boys give them to the girls. When I grew up parents got them, not the date. It must be a southern thing. Although, I moved to AZ halfway through my junior year. They did not do mums.

jensriot

It's a giant fake (mostly) mums surrounded by ribbon with ribbon hanging from the bottom with all sorts of gawdawful stuff attached. Some even have full size stuffed animals on them. All done in school colors of course. They get so heavy, the girls hang them around their necks. Mine was small enough to be pinned to my shirt

notkateanymore

I had my pinned on my shirt back in the day. I wish I could find a pic of it. My mom was so pissed at the cost, still remember that.

meglew

dizzycooks said:

I think we should just stfu about people's weight in general. I don't comment on you needing to lose a few pounds still after baby, you don't comment how nice it must be to lose the weight so easily.  Both have their pros and cons.

Yes, this!  I went back and forth about posting in yesterday's thread, but I got busy last night.  My sister was/has been skinny her whole life.  No, she didn't have an eating disorder, but everyone said she was too skinny and accused her of such.  I witnessed every day how that affected her.  She a great diet, a really high metabolism and a small frame.  People telling her she was too skinny hurt her like you wouldn't believe.  She cried a lot.  She didn't want to participate in activities because she was afraid of what people would say.  And there was virtually nothing she could do because it was who she was.

So for people to minimize her pain because "at least she was skinny and the societal ideal" is complete and total bullshit.  I rarely get worked up about stuff on this board, but I guess this has struck a personal cord.  No one should be shamed, period.  One is not better or worse.

penguingrrl

Okay, so what I'm googling looks like it's a corsage gone wild. How wild depends on the person? That's interesting! It definitely wasn't done in NJ, at least in my part. But then even the homecoming game brought very few spectators. People went to the dance that night but nobody bothered going to the game.

Aussie45

I never heard of mums either. We didn't do that in GA and to this day I still can't figure out exactly what they are/what their purpose is.

Aussie45

When A goes to school, I will be throwing a lot of her art stuff away and I don't feel bad about it.

My mom drug out a HUGE container this past Christmas of school shit the she had kept from me and my two brothers. I looked at hey like she had grown a second head and said, "Why the fuck do you have all this?!?" I had to help her de-clutter her attic and closet because she just keeps too much crap. No mom, I do not want my panties from when I was 5.



She didn't actually keep panties, I'm over exaggerating

jensriot

Here's a great article that describes it. I honestly don't know if I'd pay $500. https://www.reuters.com/article/2011/09/25/us-homecoming-mums-texas-idUSTRE78O2Z420110925