*~*~*THROAT PUNCH THURSDAY*~*~*

theholmanherd

It's my favorite day of the week!

TP to DH's job. We want a final start date so we can start moving and not lose out on this awesome place we found (that is costing us half of the average for the town). %^&**^&*  I just really hope nothing is wrong and that the results of his physical aren't going to make them rescind their offer (he had some minor hearing loss, evidently).

Kcheese

TP to family that I overheard talking about how DH & I are so lucky that we have SO much money that we can afford to do IVF. Yeah we won't mention how we've been saving for years, spent our life savings, cashed out 401k, on a payment plan for every bill we can be, & taking out a loan to cover expenses. Your right this has been a breeze - I can't believe we didn't "choose" to do this earlier. Yeah I'm gonna be cranky today.

@theholmonherd I hate being at the mercy of other people in order to make a decision that affects me.  Hoping you get a final date soon!

BunnyBerry

@theholmanherd Congrats on finding a place, and I hope the timing all works out perfectly!

@kcheese Ooh, that is so wrong. I would read that TP to them verbatim - they should know!!

mrskimmell

I second @BunnyBerry Even if you were millionaires thats still a pretty crappy thing to say to any one! 

@theholmanherd Fingers and Toes crossed! 

mmmKayy

@kcheese Ugh.. Some ppl just have no clue!

@theholmanherd FX that is all works out! And in time!

**LO/PG mentioned**

 

My TP goes to 2 friends/coworkers for telling me that if they were in our shoes and dealing with IF, they wouldn't waste the money and time going thru treatments.. because they would be ok with not having kids. One of them is currenly PG, and the other one already has a 5 year old. My response was "You don't know that because you already know what it's like to have a baby". One said, "well I'm just that selfish and even though I love my kid, I would love to be kid free"... The other said "I couldn't handle all the dr appts and shots" (<< she's PG!)

My feelings were really hurt. I tell these 2 all about what we go through, and when they said that, it's like they think I'm making a big deal out of nothing. And that really got to me.   

mrskimmell

@mmmkayyy Well they don't actually have any idea what you guys are going through. So don't let them get to you. They have never been in your shoes since the already mother and the PG friend haven't gone through the treatments you guys are doing. 

dancerspose

@theholmanherd so sorry you're stuck waiting, hope it all works out!

@Kcheese I wouldn't have actually punched those people, that's so awful!  None of their business and how dare they make those assumptions!

@mmmKayy that is so awful!  I don't know how people can be so oblivious and insensitive as to say things like that!

I would like to TP my doctor for all these pills I have to take as prep for my HSG.  I have a course of antibiotics that's 2/day for a week.  Then because I've had mild allergic reactions to shellfish in the past I have to take prednisone 3 times today (had to wake up at 2am to take the first dose), one benadryl and the ibuprofen.  The hour before my test I'll be taking like 6 pills!  I understand the medical necessity, but all those pills do not sit well mixed together in my stomach!

typo31

TP my body, for dragging out this last natural cycle before starting letrozole. Of course this cycle would be the first one to reach 10dpo after months and months of 8 day LPS... I've been spotting consistently since ovulation and HPT this morning was negative, so I'm not even hoping anymore. Just impatient to get on with it!

@mmmkayy - that's awful. I hope you do tell them how their words hurt you. Why can't people just commiserate, why do they always have to make it about themselves somehow??

chicory

@Kcheese‌ unbelievable. It blows my mind that people can make such assumptions about how much money others have and how they spend it. I finally opened up to my SIL about our IF a few days ago and she was floored by how much our IVF is going to cost us. She said "well, at least you really know you WANT to have a kid." Ya think?? It hadn't crossed my mind before, but after reading your TP, now I'm paranoid she'll be talking to family about "how much money we have." My TP this week goes to the general public's ignorance on how conception and reproduction works. Specifically: same SIL, same convo, I was explaining how we will probably transfer two embryos with IVF and our chances at multiples. She then brought up how DHs grandma had twins, so we would probably have twins because "it runs in the family." There are so many levels of stupid going on there. I tried to explain how I myself am not actually related to grandma, and that us having twins BECAUSE WE PUT BOTH OF THEM IN THERE is completely different than double ovulation or embryo splitting, but I don't think she got it. *sigh*

theholmanherd

@Kcheese‌, That is so incredibly insensitive. People assume stuff like this about us. We're pretty open about being debt free. People assume we must be well off, but really we're pinching every penny trying to save for adoption. We've even put off saving for a house because we don't want to wait longer than we have to. But we're not "out", so almost no one even knows. It's too bad you can't go back in time and just walk in and say some snide remark about how ignorant they are. (((HUGS)))
@mmmKayy‌, WTAF...who says shit like that??? I don't know if I would have actually had the courage to say it (I'm fairly non-confrontational), but I would have wanted to say "Just because YOU can't decide if you like motherhood, doesn't mean *I* will have the same problem. Just as it's insensitive for me to say that, it's insensitive and hurtful for you to say what you said. To imply that I'm wasting my time and money for something you could flippantly imply is so easy to live without, is incredibly insulting."
@chicory‌ Your SIL needs to get educated. I'm sorry you have to deal with her ignorance.
(((BIG HUGS))) to all who need them. EDIT: fix html

Kcheese

Thanks for the replies- I definitely would have said something if it was my side if the family, but it was DHs. We are very open about our IF, costs, etc. Apparently I need to start giving the play by play on our penny pinching. I think it just really got to me because the way it was presented it was like we make no sacrifices. Some people get new cars, houses, etc we are just going for a baby.
@mmmKayy‌ - they would have hurt my feelings too! Sometimes I have to try really hard not to be offended by peoples comments just because they don't have the same outlook I do.
@chicory‌ I second your TP to the general public

laubee85

TP to my cousin in law. Shes pregnant. Again. For the 4th time in 5 years and shes not even 30. She told me that its easy as long as I "let it happen". Then said that she must have been blessed by the fertility fairy....Im a little bitter today. A big fat TP to her "fertility fairy" too.

CarSaidYes

I would like to TP my lesson plans and all the paperwork I am behind on. Oh yeah and also the new guy that is here pushing is work off on others.... I'm a hop and skip away from printing our contracts and showing him my job responsibilities and asking what his are because everytime I see him he's talking to someone about nonsense and stuffing his face with a freaking snack size snickers!!!! And 35 snack size snickers equals about 2 king size bars so stop fooling yourself you lazy POS!!!!!

ALSO..... A big TP to every single bill that's due this month and next.

Sorry for everyone's TP. Glad we can vent to each other!! Hugs.

meld42

I am so sorry that they were saying those things about your situation @kcheese  

I absolutely HATE when people assume things about money, and how a couple/anyone chooses to spend their money. Everyone has a different budget, and everyone has different things that make them happy! Which is why money is such a sensitive topic! 

ronniesgirl1981

I would like to TP middle of the work day Target. It's a stay at home mom fest in there.

dancerspose

Well, I officially change my TP. I am now punching my right tube, which after watching my HSG, is very much blocked. So- painful HSG and shitty results. Yay... Now all I need is for uterus abnormalities to show up Monday on the sono and we'll have a trifecta.

Now, if you'll excuse me I'm going to go drown my sorrows in mac n cheese, ice cream and wine, lots of wine.

Hollowvic

@shafwilson‌ I'm sorry about your painful and shitty HSG. I want to TP the lady I interviewed with 2 weeks ago that told me they will definitely call me for a second interview. Never called, I got my hopes up. Thanks lady.

stace2524

@triathlete23‌ and @ronniesgirl1981‌ try working there! I'm a pharmacist for Target and all I see all day is moms! I also get daily questions about PNV or HPT. Thankfully I've built a tolerance but some days it's overwhelming!!!

emmuffy

Tp to my body. I've had every illness, infection and gross ailment this moth. Now I feel like AF may be coming on (meaning IVF probably didn't work). What a horrible month. I'm ready for October already and a much needed break from ttc.