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sangriapirate said:

OP you must have been trolling because you got amazing advice, and nobody was mean. We all tried our very best to help so thanks a lot for trying to delete. I poured my heart into my answers for you.

Not trolling. Didn't brush it off. Took it on board. Text can be interpreted many different ways. Didn't mean to seem ungrateful

icaughtfire

I noticed that every thread OP posts goes something like this:

OP: Guyz, I have a problem! HALP!

Everyone: Here's some solid advice from many different perspectives..

OP: (interjects with a lot of "Yeah, but.." along the way) Thanks for the advice! I have decided to do the exact opposite of everything suggested! You guys are the best!!

Rinse & repeat every few days.

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Just because you suggested it doesn't mean I have to go with that suggestion. It's my decision at end of day

icaughtfire

C6091 said:

Just because you suggested it doesn't mean I have to go with that suggestion. It's my decision at end of day

K. Bye.

thiscoffeechick

.... And since this is now 200 entries long, I shall place this here (and it's lovingly dedicated to @trntyrebrth‌ for correctly guessing 4 am in the pool).

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suzysurparis said:

Since this turned into a DD and I'm up WAY past my bedtime, I'm going to give my advice to OP:

1. You're whole explanation of the situations with the classmate tells me you were giving him "fuck me" eyes. The fact that you retold those in-class stories to your bf tells me that you need attention. I think you have a need for men (maybe everyone) to find you attractive/like you/pay attention to you. You should look into the source of this, possibly with a therapist.
2. Your classmate sounds like he wants to have sex with you. Since he knows you have a boyfriend and he's still trying his best to get you to think about him and his dick, I doubt he'll really care about you after.
3. Your boyfriend is discussing hours later that you said his name while dreaming and he's suspicious? He sounds jealous to say the least and possessive/controlling at worst.
4. It sounds like you want your relationship to be perfect more than anything else. This is stupid. Your future and happiness, your boyfriend's future and happiness should all come before the relationship. You can both be potentially happy with other people, there is no such thing as "the one."
5. I think you should step-back your relationship and consider having sex on different days with each guys. Maybe throw in a third. Promiscuity is not that bad.
6. Cheating is not the worst thing you could do to someone. For example, your boyfriend would hate you if you cheated on him now with this other guy but imagine if you got married and pregnant because you loved him but you two were actually not a great match for each other and you ended up divorcing and there would be a kid involved. If you had just cheated and ended it in the beginning, it would be a lot less painful for all.

Now I'm off to bed to dream on the college boyfriends I loved with all my heart but somehow put myself in situations where I cheated on them.

suzysurparis said:

Since this turned into a DD and I'm up WAY past my bedtime, I'm going to give my advice to OP:

1. You're whole explanation of the situations with the classmate tells me you were giving him "fuck me" eyes. The fact that you retold those in-class stories to your bf tells me that you need attention. I think you have a need for men (maybe everyone) to find you attractive/like you/pay attention to you. You should look into the source of this, possibly with a therapist.
2. Your classmate sounds like he wants to have sex with you. Since he knows you have a boyfriend and he's still trying his best to get you to think about him and his dick, I doubt he'll really care about you after.
3. Your boyfriend is discussing hours later that you said his name while dreaming and he's suspicious? He sounds jealous to say the least and possessive/controlling at worst.
4. It sounds like you want your relationship to be perfect more than anything else. This is stupid. Your future and happiness, your boyfriend's future and happiness should all come before the relationship. You can both be potentially happy with other people, there is no such thing as "the one."
5. I think you should step-back your relationship and consider having sex on different days with each guys. Maybe throw in a third. Promiscuity is not that bad.
6. Cheating is not the worst thing you could do to someone. For example, your boyfriend would hate you if you cheated on him now with this other guy but imagine if you got married and pregnant because you loved him but you two were actually not a great match for each other and you ended up divorcing and there would be a kid involved. If you had just cheated and ended it in the beginning, it would be a lot less painful for all.

Now I'm off to bed to dream on the college boyfriends I loved with all my heart but somehow put myself in situations where I cheated on them.

In regards to you saying I like male attention. It isn't like this at all. I do not go out of my way to throw myself at the feet of men. I didn't at any point give the other man 'fuck me' eyes. I wouldn't have sex with two men no. I wouldn't cheat. I'm not that type of person. I think he has taken my friendship in the wrong way. My bf isn't controlling in the slightest. We have a lot of trust there. He was just confused as I don't normally talk in my sleep. Like I say I would never cheat. I appreciate you taking the time to comment though.

Yes I was confused by feelings but I am no longer. I appreciate everyone's advice. I apologise I got touchy. I did take it on board. I did speak with my partner and discuss it. He was glad that I told him about it. We have spoken about it now and have let it go as we are in the middle of moving all of our stuff from one place to another and we are busy. I also told him I came on here first and he said I should have spoken with him beforehand. Which I now realise is the truth. I'm sorry I came off ungrateful and some thought I was a troll. I'm not smart enough or scheming enough to troll. I agree with everyone's advice. it's best not to put yourself in a situation with someone who had admitted an 'attraction' to you. This is why I am so glad I received my new class schedule today and I am not in as many classes with college dude. Today I realised there's nothing attractive about someone who tries to pursue someone who is in a relationship. There's also nothing attractive about someone in a relationship who has given the wrong signals. I didn't mean to appear like that. I was just being friendly. I was making a joke when I commented on lecturer talking about chemistry but instead he took it as me asking if he liked me. I shouldn't have went to the dock anyway but I thought we were friends. I realised today he isn't as attractive as I first thought. I am happy with my partner my mind is at ease. That's partly due to you ladies giving me advice and me doing some thinking. I can now relax. I haven't forgotten quote boxes. But anything I said was the other day. I've resolved the issue now. You'll be happier to hear we are no longer TTC. We have decided to focus on each other and focus on our house and careers. Thank you for everything you have told me. My FertilityFriend will be looking rather empty for awhile. As I'll reintroduce myself when I am back TTC. Sorry if I caused anyone to feel offended.

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CFearsy said:

C6091 said:

Just because you suggested it doesn't mean I have to go with that suggestion. It's my decision at end of day

Then why bother asking if you're not seriously interested in our advice?

PenguinMG said:

C6091 said:

Just because you suggested it doesn't mean I have to go with that suggestion. It's my decision at end of day

This is why no one likes you.

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Here's your prize @trntyrebrth (sorry if I got that tag wrong)

Thank You.
What I meant by the above was that I don't have to follow every suggestion word for word. I read everyone's and took the advice then I went and thought about it using my what I'd read and my own initiative to come to a decision.

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CFearsy said:

Please just stop.

I was just posting my response to everything, you didn't need to respond to it. It didn't need a response. But thank you I shall 'ride into the sunset'