WTF Wednesday

amom2four

@KATILLAC1‌ So sorry you have such an unreasonable person around you. I would not be able to handle myself around that kind of thing, you are a far stronger woman than I!

Jenner37

WTF DD1, naptime is not optional, mama wants to eat ice cream without sharing

trebekastan

My WTF goes out to a lot of you ladies. Standing up for yourself doesn't make you rude. Allowing yourselves to be talked to in such a rude manner makes you a doormat. Please, for the love of future generations of women, stop apologizing for your feelings and put a stop to these things at the beginning. No one has a right to say these horrible things to you and calling people out on their shit does not make you a bitch. It makes you a strong woman.

teenybean

WTF to horrible MIL everywhere. Mine isn't too bad, but here's the thing. I have 2 boys and an unknown baby on the way and all I can think when I hear these stories about bad ones, is that its super important to remember that someday I will have to share my kids and hopefully I will raise them in a way that encourages them to pick partners that will appreciate me, but mostly I realize that I am not raising them for me, so to future daughter/son-inlaws of mine (who knows right?) I will try to do my best to be a good one for you and any grandkids I should be fortunate enough to have one day.

JustCricket

@katillac1 ugh I'm so sorry you're dealing with that. I'd have a talk with hubby and let him know how MIL made you feel and that you hope he doesn't get swayed by his mother to actually listen to that shit advice.  I'm sure he's already 100% on your side, but I'd make sure he knows what your mother is trying to say and tell him you are not okay with it (which I'm sure he already knows, but doesn't hurt to let him know again) and you won't tolerate any further comments like that. MAybe he can have a chat with her in regard to how much of a an ass she's being to you. Also I'm so sorry your parents aren't around to experience this. I agree with pp's in they're looking over you stil.

conradraging

trebekastan said:

My WTF goes out to a lot of you ladies. Standing up for yourself doesn't make you rude. Allowing yourselves to be talked to in such a rude manner makes you a doormat. Please, for the love of future generations of women, stop apologizing for your feelings and put a stop to these things at the beginning. No one has a right to say these horrible things to you and calling people out on their shit does not make you a bitch. It makes you a strong woman.

Preach

amom2four

As some of you have also stated, dh is not my first marriage. I was in a shitty, emotionally abusive marriage to a "man" that was abusing drugs, cheating on me and the whole 9 yards. I absolutely know what you are going through in regards to the awful in laws, constant stress and always being on high alert watching and wondering what is coming next and how you are going to have to defend yourself. I sincerely hope and pray that these things change for any of you that are in these kinds of circumstances no matter whether it comes from your own actions or your partners standing up for you if it's is solely an issue with his parents.

You never deserve to be spoken to the way some of these people in your lives are speaking to and treating you. Stand up for yourselves and show that you are strong and won't take their shit anymore. I know it is not an easy thing to do, but be strong. It took me years to walk away from my ex and many more years after our divorce was final and I was married to my dh before I finally got up the nerve to say what I needed to say to my former mil. She now leaves me alone and I do realize that if it's a current mil, it's much more difficult of a situation, but in the end, you still need to put your foot down for what is right. Their behavior is not just going to impact your life negatively but also your lo for many years to come and I know I didn't want someone toxic like that around my kids.

RedBaramid

@KATILLAC1‌ and @Ambershaw512

I would burn your MIL's with fire if I thought I could get away with it. You both deserve so much better. 

KATILLAC1

Well at the time of the conversation with MIL I was so shocked I didn't really say anything and she left shortly after. I do however plan on discussing this with her at some point. She is kind of oblivious when it comes to others feelings so this is not the first time something like this has happened. Pregnancy hormones definitely were not helpful. DH is definitely aware of the situation between his mother and I and he is very supportive of me and the decisions we have made together. I just don't want him to feel like I'm putting him in the middle. In laws are always a tricky situation.

SingleMom31

@KATILLAC1‌ OMG. I'd have totally lost it with her. Hugs to you.

formerwigirl

WTF false labor and doctor I had to see yesterday. He didn't answer any of my questions and just sent me to the hospital to be monitored for high blood pressure. I hope I don't have to see him again. Also these braxton hicks or whatever they are hurt!!! I thought I had a high pain tolerance but apparently not.

Also to myself for being hormonal/irrational. I am starting to think this baby will never come and I know how stupid that sounds.

bainidhedub

WTF lady down the hall at work who asked me "is the baby dilated yet?" One, seriously is that appropriate lobby conversation? We aren't even friends, you just yell at me when things go wrong with your AC. Two, I know you've done this before and I haven't, but I'm PRETTY sure the baby is not supposed to dilate.

amom2four

We seriously need some good to come to my family. Tonight my kids ferret passed away. They are devastated. We got him when he was a tiny little baby and they raised him. Ugh. Life stinks sometimes.

JustCricket

wtf gas that has turned my sweet baby into a crying machine. I honestly don't care too much about sleep anymore... its the blood curdling cries that are getting to me go away gas! I wish I could make it go away.

conradraging

katieb32611 said:

WTF self... I've spilled breast milk 2 times today. Pull it together Katie!

I can't count how many times I've dropped the pump during sessions and spilled a great portion of my milk. Awesome, since I think she's going through a growth spurt and I'm having trouble keeping up with her. Hopefully the new pump solves this problem and I don't have to supplement.