When did you find out gender?

transplantedhawkeye

goofygoff said:

chilibeansm0m said:

WHERE IS THE BINGO CARD??? @goofygoff‌

Ooh, I get to bust out the updated card!

Hey we got a Mod visit, we just need a GBCB and calling us hormonal and we have a BINGO!

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transplantedhawkeye

rach250315 said:

So what's the difference between gender and sex? Or a you crazy hormonal bitches going to jump down my throat or be sarcastic morons for me asking a question.. Your gender has everything to do with your genitals. Stop trying to please everyone! If someone decides they don't feel as if they are the GENDER they were born as they usually end up getting GENDER reconstruction surgery.. Relax!

Oops, missed that! After the initial BSC all I see is 

Avatarless: BSC BSC BSC GENDER is the same thing as SEX BSC BSC BSC

Reg:  Stop please stop, we tried to teach you the difference, and we are tired

Avatarles: BSC BSC BSC BSC

Reg: I give up here's a gif

Avatarless: WK

Reg: gif?

caro5931

@bmarble11‌ Wow, I honestly cannot believe the responses you are getting to your question. It's disgusting how rude these people are being to you. It is obvious that you didn't use "gender" instead of "sex" to be malicious or mean to anyone. Many people don't know that there is a difference between "gender" and "sex." For those who consider this extremely important to them that others know the difference, I would think they would kindly point it out and correct someone. Not be rude and sarcastic as is seen in the post. That is much less effective towards their cause (belief, something really important to them, something they think everyone should know, etc. since I'm sure my post will be nitpicked word for word as well) than kindly spreading the word and educating people would be.

Anyways, to answer your question (which I'm sure everyone knew you were intending to ask.) I just found out the sex on Monday at 13 weeks 3 days from my cell free DNA test. We had this because the nuchal translucency was slightly higher than the doctor would have liked. Friends of mine have been told the sex between 12 and 20 weeks from ultrasound depending on the position of the baby. Generally if the baby is in a good position at 12 weeks a doctor can give you an idea they say is 85% accurate, accuracy increasing weekly. Hopefully you will be able to find out at your appointment:)

transplantedhawkeye

And because it hasn't been posted to this thread

But the WKs will probably trample over it.

kcbizme

caro5931

@earthian‌ @estamos_tomamos‌ Better a wk than an unoriginal bully. Did any of you even take the time to read the rest of her post? Your all so busy focusing on the single word use of "gender" vs. "sex" you probably didn't notice any of the other words. How about someone answers the question you know she was intending to ask? How about someone notices the words "cancer doctor" and realizes that the last thing she needs is for people to be rude and cause drama for her. How about someone wishes her well with any cancer she may have going on and the pregnancy in general? But no, I guess that's too much to ask from the bullies who can only focus on the one word that bothered them and nothing else.

FrecklesInside

caro5931 said:

@earthian‌ @estamos_tomamos‌ Better a wk than an unoriginal bully. Did any of you even take the time to read the rest of her post? Your all so busy focusing on the single word use of "gender" vs. "sex" you probably didn't notice any of the other words. How about someone answers the question you know she was intending to ask? How about someone notices the words "cancer doctor" and realizes that the last thing she needs is for people to be rude and cause drama for her. How about someone wishes her well with any cancer she may have going on and the pregnancy in general? But no, I guess that's too much to ask from the bullies who can only focus on the one word that bothered them and nothing else.

I don't think you know what the word bully means. Also, your vs you're. - it's a good thing to master.

transplantedhawkeye

Also a diagnosis of cancer or news of remission from cancer does not give one license to act in a stupid manor, to be ignorant, to ignore rules of grammar and spelling,to use text speak only, to confuse gender with sex or any other behavior of an asshole.

caro5931

Firstly, yes grammar police, you found my one typo, congratulations.

Secondly, I was a victim of bullying as a child so I do understand the meaning of it. I also understand that there are many different levels and forms of bullying. Cyber bullying of any level is still bullying.

Thirdly, she obviously came for support. So saying she shouldn't be here if she can't handle rudeness and drama is ridiculous. There shouldn't be a need to "lurk" as you say, to "find out how things work" in a pregnancy support forum. You post what you want and people who are interested and have something kind or supportive should respond and others should move along.

Now that I see how this "supportive community" is I honestly wouldn't want to "lurk" to find out anymore.

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bmarble11

Hey ladies,
Yes I realized I made a mistake and I apologize. Sorry I didn't know the difference in the terms. I do now and I won't make the mistake again. Yes I do have ovarian cancer, and no I was not using the cancer card. I was just simply stating that my oncologist talked to me about finding out the sex of my baby a little sooner if I went to my regular dr. I did not mean to cause drama. Once again, I'm sorry.

eschnee

You don't owe anyone an apology!! Good luck with everything.

JEPES1348

bmarble11 said:

Hey ladies, Yes I realized I made a mistake and I apologize. Sorry I didn't know the difference in the terms. I do now and I won't make the mistake again. Yes I do have ovarian cancer, and no I was not using the cancer card. I was just simply stating that my oncologist talked to me about finding out the sex of my baby a little sooner if I went to my regular dr. I did not mean to cause drama. Once again, I'm sorry.

Thank you for taking the correction of term usage for what it's worth. It was actually the WK's who were so adamant in their defense of gender and sex being the same thing. We just truly hear these terms being used interchangeably ALL day, EVERY day, and it gets exhausting.

Best of luck with your cancer treatment/recovery and your pregnancy. Wishing you a healthy self and baby. 

Also, FWIW, unless the tech/doctor tell you they're quite certain about the sex of the baby, I wouldn't paint the nursery based on what they see at 14 weeks. That's pretty early to truly discern developing genitals. 

stine28

transplantedhawkeye said:

Also a diagnosis of cancer or news of remission from cancer does not give one license to act in a stupid manor, to be ignorant, to ignore rules of grammar and spelling,to use text speak only, to confuse gender with sex or any other behavior of an asshole.

"Stupid manor" has had me chuckling to myself for an hour now. Sometimes I feel likeI work in a stupid manor!

(Edit: half an hour. Bad at judging time...)

JEPES1348

stine28 said:

Also a diagnosis of cancer or news of remission from cancer does not give one license to act in a stupid manor, to be ignorant, to ignore rules of grammar and spelling,to use text speak only, to confuse gender with sex or any other behavior of an asshole.

"Stupid manor" has had me chuckling to myself for an hour now. Sometimes I feel likeI work in a stupid manor! (Edit: half an hour. Bad at judging time...)

Okay, but it's "manner," right?

kellbell1982

bmarble11 said:

Hey ladies,
Yes I realized I made a mistake and I apologize. Sorry I didn't know the difference in the terms. I do now and I won't make the mistake again. Yes I do have ovarian cancer, and no I was not using the cancer card. I was just simply stating that my oncologist talked to me about finding out the sex of my baby a little sooner if I went to my regular dr. I did not mean to cause drama. Once again, I'm sorry.

Stick around and lurk a little. Many of the ladies on this board have had awkward first posts and have recovered. I think this post shows you have maturity and can handle criticism and you will probably fit in great here. I hope all goes well with the cancer diagnosis, that goes for @saucylittlemonkeygirl‌ as well, cancer sucks and I hope you both overcome it and have healthy beautiful babies and lives.

k0k0911

bmarble11 said:

Hey ladies,
Yes I realized I made a mistake and I apologize. Sorry I didn't know the difference in the terms. I do now and I won't make the mistake again. Yes I do have ovarian cancer, and no I was not using the cancer card. I was just simply stating that my oncologist talked to me about finding out the sex of my baby a little sooner if I went to my regular dr. I did not mean to cause drama. Once again, I'm sorry.

The responses in these boards is why I don't bother posting anymore. Some people here are ridiculous. I totally agree that your post was fine. The trolls out there are just crazy.

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k0k0911

estamos_tomamos said:

k0k0911 said:

bmarble11 said:

Hey ladies,
Yes I realized I made a mistake and I apologize. Sorry I didn't know the difference in the terms. I do now and I won't make the mistake again. Yes I do have ovarian cancer, and no I was not using the cancer card. I was just simply stating that my oncologist talked to me about finding out the sex of my baby a little sooner if I went to my regular dr. I did not mean to cause drama. Once again, I'm sorry.

The responses in these boards is why I don't bother posting anymore. Some people here are ridiculous. I totally agree that your post was fine. The trolls out there are just crazy.

@k0k0911 Yes, your response was just what was missing here!  While you're around would you mind explaining why you don't post because the Bump is so full of meanies, yet you still lurk?  Just curious.

I came here expecting people to have normal comments as to when they found out if they are going to have a boy or girl. After reading the comments I felt really bad for the OP and wanted to stick up for her. I came to this thread to see when others found out their baby's sex/gender since I don't know yet myself.

blinksmb

k0k0911 said:

estamos_tomamos said:

k0k0911 said:

bmarble11 said:

Hey ladies,
Yes I realized I made a mistake and I apologize. Sorry I didn't know the difference in the terms. I do now and I won't make the mistake again. Yes I do have ovarian cancer, and no I was not using the cancer card. I was just simply stating that my oncologist talked to me about finding out the sex of my baby a little sooner if I went to my regular dr. I did not mean to cause drama. Once again, I'm sorry.

The responses in these boards is why I don't bother posting anymore. Some people here are ridiculous. I totally agree that your post was fine. The trolls out there are just crazy.

@k0k0911 Yes, your response was just what was missing here!  While you're around would you mind explaining why you don't post because the Bump is so full of meanies, yet you still lurk?  Just curious.

I came here expecting people to have normal comments as to when they found out if they are going to have a boy or girl. After reading the comments I felt really bad for the OP and wanted to stick up for her. I came to this thread to see when others found out their baby's sex/gender since I don't know yet myself.

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Then call your fucking doctor and ask when you should schedule your anatomy scan.
PROBLEM SOLVED, YOU'RE WELCOME.
No need to post about it anymore. We don't know any more about when you guys personally get to peep on tiny baby junk than you do.

k0k0911

Why the fuck should I call my doctor? The thread is supposed to be about when other people found out. Do you know how to read the title of the thread?

blinksmb

k0k0911 said:

Why the fuck should I call my doctor? The thread is supposed to be about when other people found out. Do you know how to read the title of the thread?

I am aware of the basics of reading, yes. Thank you for your concern. My answer is still the same.
Want to know the sex of your baby? Call your doctor, set up your appointment.
Want to know the gender? Invent a time machine.

k0k0911

MandJS said:

k0k0911 said:

Why the fuck should I call my doctor? The thread is supposed to be about when other people found out. Do you know how to read the title of the thread?

Okay. If we're going by the words of the title, then the answer was given back on page 1. The gender is usually found around age 10, but may be earlier or may not be until college. 

Lost cause

You're welcome.

jnowosielski

goofygoff

GUISE!  Two bingos!

k0k0911

MandJS said:

k0k0911 said:

MandJS said:

k0k0911 said:

Why the fuck should I call my doctor? The thread is supposed to be about when other people found out. Do you know how to read the title of the thread?

Okay. If we're going by the words of the title, then the answer was given back on page 1. The gender is usually found around age 10, but may be earlier or may not be until college. 

Lost cause

You're welcome.

Clearly you are. I can't help that, but can suggest that if you can't grasp this
simple concept, this board may not be the best fit for you. 


What a good comeback. Why don't you grasp the concept to get a life.

transplantedhawkeye

JEPES1348 said:

stine28 said:

Also a diagnosis of cancer or news of remission from cancer does not give one license to act in a stupid manor, to be ignorant, to ignore rules of grammar and spelling,to use text speak only, to confuse gender with sex or any other behavior of an asshole.

"Stupid manor" has had me chuckling to myself for an hour now. Sometimes I feel likeI work in a stupid manor! (Edit: half an hour. Bad at judging time...)

Okay, but it's "manner," right?

God Damn It, I did it again. Damn you auto correct, so close yet so far! 

k0k0911

If you're a moderator then I don't think a good job is being done against cyber bullying in a lot of these threads. Why would you tell someone they are a lost cause if you are a moderator. I was saying it was a lost cause for me to respond to that since it would just keep going back and forth. But I don't appreciate someone calling me a lost cause when I am trying to offer support for the person who started this thread since the comments left have been so negative.

stellarsoundz

bmarble11 said:

Hey ladies, Yes I realized I made a mistake and I apologize. Sorry I didn't know the difference in the terms. I do now and I won't make the mistake again. Yes I do have ovarian cancer, and no I was not using the cancer card. I was just simply stating that my oncologist talked to me about finding out the sex of my baby a little sooner if I went to my regular dr. I did not mean to cause drama. Once again, I'm sorry.

I am an ovarian cancer survivor. I was told I was terminal when I was only 22. I have been in remission for nearly 6 years. I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through being pregnant while fighting this insidious ailment. I can however, and would be more than happy to offer an ear and a shoulder if you want another survivor to talk to. I say "another" because I already consider you to be one, and from the way you speak about it, and most notably by the fact you never identify yourself by your illness, I get the idea that you think the same thing yourself.

Welcome to the board and I hope you stick around. The girls here can be a little intimidating at first, I admit, but they are genuinely a bunch of sweeties, even the ones who won't admit it. These are some of the most supportive and helpful women I've ever interacted with. You definitely get back what you put in here, which is why you see some of the stuff like what happened in this thread.

When I first joined the forum, I didn't post for a while. I was waiting to see if it was "clique-ish" or "mean" as some have accused us of being. What I discovered is that these women are not trying to push away anyone who wants to be a part of this group, but rather that they are fiercely protective of the community itself and as a result have a tendency to go all "mama bear protecting her cubs" when something threatens to undermine or disrupt this little oasis of eloquent and honest gals that many of us really rely on for support and help. I have come in a very short time to be very grateful for that response, and of course for this forum and every person on it.

I know that was long, but I felt I would be remiss if I did not take the time to express this information to you. Again, feel free to send me a pm anytime, and welcome!

k0k0911

Examples of what constitutes cyberbullying include communications that seek to intimidate, control, manipulate, put down, falsely discredit, or humiliate the recipient. The actions are deliberate, repeated, and hostile behavior intended to harm another. Cyberbullying has been defined by The National Crime Prevention Council: “When the Internet, cell phones or other devices are used to send or post text or images intended to hurt or embarrass another person.


Seems like a few of the criteria was met here.

k0k0911

MauiBliss said:

k0k0911 said:

Examples of what constitutes cyberbullying include communications that seek to intimidate, control, manipulate, put down, falsely discredit, or humiliate the recipient. The actions are deliberate, repeated, and hostile behavior intended to harm another. Cyberbullying has been defined by The National Crime Prevention Council: “When the Internet, cell phones or other devices are used to send or post text or images intended to hurt or embarrass another person.


Seems like a few of the criteria was met here.

Disagreeing passionately and with strong language on the internet is not cyber bullying, sweetheart. You can keep posting your little snippets out of context, but do you want to  know what my practice area was out of law school? Cyber law. It included cyber crimes. 

So, I can say with complete understanding of the law and what cyber bullying actually is, when I tell you to fuck right off out of here, that is not bullying. It is making a very strong suggestion about what to do with the rest of your day. 

I offer you the same suggestion to fuck off.

cinderella105

I'm so blown away by how much stupid is in here I have nothing to add. Speechless.

But I do have this: OP, you rock with your response when you came back with big girl panties on and I hope you stick around and wish you the best, especially with your fight against cancer.

We have the best mods here.

Just lots of love to all the Haggard Troll Bitches!

kcbizme

k0k0911 said:

If you're a moderator then I don't think a good job is being done against cyber bullying in a lot of these threads. Why would you tell someone they are a lost cause if you are a moderator. I was saying it was a lost cause for me to respond to that since it would just keep going back and forth. But I don't appreciate someone calling me a lost cause when I am trying to offer support for the person who started this thread since the comments left have been so negative.

NOT.

k0k0911 said:

Examples of what constitutes cyberbullying include communications that seek to intimidate, control, manipulate, put down, falsely discredit, or humiliate the recipient. The actions are deliberate, repeated, and hostile behavior intended to harm another. Cyberbullying has been defined by The National Crime Prevention Council: “When the Internet, cell phones or other devices are used to send or post text or images intended to hurt or embarrass another person. Seems like a few of the criteria was met here.

Ooh look! It can google!

MommyOfAMiracle

Not gonna lie, but you M15'ers get alot more excitement than our F15 board. Not sure if it's a blessing or a curse.

But...I've been entertained all day! Thank you.

 

 

crunchymamaof2

The OP has been nothing but awesome and received the advice on here exceptionally well ( @bmarble11‌ you rock!) and yet there are still WKs making themselves look like fools.

MommyOfAMiracle

jessuhmarie said:

Not gonna lie, but you M15'ers get alot more excitement than our F15 board. Not sure if it's a blessing or a curse.

But...I've been entertained all day! Thank you.

 

 

Curse for sure. I can't even keep up most days. Feel free to take a few strays back with you. We won't miss them!

I appreciate the offer, but I think I will enjoy from a distance. hahah

MommyOfAMiracle

@MandJS - Done!

nazdad

Hey pregnants, get a hold of your pregnancy brain, you know what she meant by that question! No need of any sarcasm. We found out that we are having a Girl a week ago when I was 15 weeks and one day. Don't get your hopes up let it be a surprise if they were able to find out.
Good luck.

transplantedhawkeye

And here's another one!