Sleep Check In

dizzycooks

I thought I'd see how it's going for everyone else.  

Currently DD2 doesn't sleep more than 2 hours at a time and almost always requires I nurse her back into a milk drunk state in order to sleep.  This is serious backwards movement since a month ago we could pat her back and she'd settle back down.  Granted we were doing that every few hours as well...I need more sleep!  DH has been helping and really great about taking a shift, but generally that means he takes her to the couch to sleep.  Which is fine because I get sleep, but I doubt it's helping us out long term.  I am at a loss.  I seriously feel like just saying I give up.  Sleep, don't sleep, nurse, sleep with me, I don't care as long as you SLEEP child.

Share your own battles.  We can pin our eyeballs open together

Andrewsgal

DS was sleeping 1.5-2 hour stretches. We started sleep training yesterday. I fed him three times last night and he only ended up crying 5 minutes total. My goal is to get it down to two feeding at 12 and 3. I think we will have or down by next week.

dizzycooks

@andrewsgal

Tell me your methods.  We've been sleeping training for two months...Of course I gave up about three weeks ago.  I want to try again soon.

yanakimou

@dizzycooks, I share your misery and exhaustion. 

Sleep sucks at our house. DS woke up 5 times last night, and was up from 1:45 to 3am "talking", fussing, screaming. The longest stretch I got was 1.5 hrs.  When he was 6 weeks old he went to his own room and crib, and at 8 weeks was sleeping through the night. Then 3.5 months hit and it's been all down hill. We are just regressing more and more each night and it's so freaking frustrating!!!

He does really well with a morning nap in the swing, I can put him in at 8am and he goes down just fine (however he is rapidly outgrowing the thing  and when that happens I'm screwed since he won't nap more than 20 minutes in his crib). The rest of his naps are pretty much the same, sometimes he has a bad day, but nothing compared to nighttime.

Nighttime I put him to bed about 7pm, we do a quick routine of diaper/jammies, put on sleep sack, turn on the baby Einstein ocean, nurse/rock til drowsy, and down to sleep. Works fine, no problem. But then he wakes up about 2 hrs later and from about 9-10pm on the rest of the night is a disaster. 

We have tried nursing/rocking back to sleep, not nursing and using a paci and rocking, not rocking and just picking up to soothe, not picking up at all and just patting (this one is disaster) but he won't stop screaming until I nurse/rock, and when I do put him down in his crib he screams the second his body touches the mattress. I think the thing may be made of nails.  And I think he's a strong willed child, I tried cry-it-out and he cried for an hour. It wasn't even crying really, just screaming, and he wouldn't calm down unless I nurse/rocked him which goes against what the book says to do. 

So I have no idea what to do. And it doesn't help that all the books and websites basically say it's your fault that they have sleep issues. I wish I could meet those authors in person and beat them over the head with their own book.  I'm sorry this was so long, we had a particularly bad night last night.

Andrewsgal

I have decided I will feed him every three hours during the night. Last night I fed him at 10:00 and he woke at 1:00 fed him and put him back down he was up again at 2:00. I went in put his pacifier in rubbed his head for a second and walked out he cried I waited 3 minutes went in replaced his pacifier and blanket rubbed his head and left. He cried for 2 more minutes fell asleep until 4:00. I fed him and he went right back down. He was up for the day at 6:00. Tomorrow I will not get him up until 7:00. My goal is put him down at 7:00. Dream feed at 10:00, feed again at 1:00 and 4:00"up for the day at 7:00. I am sure he will cry more tonight but I am perfectly okay with this. As it is he is not getting enough sleep and he needs it. I don't feel bad at all.

dizzycooks

diapersnwipes said:

We did something similar to AG when B's sleep was super shitty. I put him down for bed and just decided he wasn't going to eat until X time.  I was willing to do whatever else to get us to that time.  I would rock him, rub his back, etc but I wasn't going to feed him.  Finally I got him down to eating twice a night.  That's still too much at 1 year, but it works so I'm willing to keep going with it.  Last night he only ate once, but got up at 5:30.  Win some, lose some. 

So do you let him sleep with you? Take him to the couch to snuggle?  She will totally accept that, but I am not sure that's really developing a better habit.

orangegoggles

I feel your pain. DS was an awful sleeper until about 1. Then things really got a lot better. However- I am now.... at 21 mo. back in sleep hell. He is too smart for his own good and still remembers THE ONE TIME OVER 2 MONTHS AGO when we took him out of his crib and let him sleep with us. Now he wakes up about 1-2 times a night screaming for us. Ahhhhh I guess I am going to have to do some sort of training again but now that he talks its torture...he begs for us. 

snowbound

We don't sleep in this house.