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Hi! My name is Rachel and I just hit the 1 year mark of TTC so I figured I would join in this community to relate to others who are struggling TTC. Any advice would be appreciated.  

So I am 23 and I have been married to my husband who is 26 for a little over 2 years. When we first started ttc we had no idea that it would be this difficult.  At the 6 month mark of ttc I went in for a check up and a consultation. All my tests came back normal and so my dr. put me on clomid 50mg. Hope was restored because I had heard that clomid was the "magic" pill and that we would for sure be successful on it. The 3 months passed and no luck. My dr. bumped me up to 100mg clomid and I had my thyroid tested (was normal) and my husband had his first SA; which everything came back normal except his morphologhy which was 14%. 

My dr. referred us to an RE and we got in right away. And last month we did our first IUI which resulted in bfn. We are getting ready to do our next IUI and I am just worried that I'll get another bfn... I'm so used to it. every month I get my hopes up just to feel the heartache so much more. Its hard to talk to my friends/family about this because they can't relate and they always say "dont worry it'll happen"... which what else can they say... 

If anyone can relate or give me some advice I would really appreciate to know that I am not alone in this process.

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  • Welcome! I'm glad you found us. And very glad that you are now working with an RE who will take good care of you.

    There are different ways of measuring morphology, so perhaps your 14% is different from someone else's 4%, for example. However, if you have 14% with strict Kruger morphology, that is an excellent number. Perhaps something to check with the office to give you some peace of mind?

    Totally understand the expectation of a BFN!! I have tried, and can't really imagine what it would be like to get the good news at this point.

    I understand, too, about the friends and family. Just today I saw a good friend struggle to say "the right thing" - she said something like, "It will happen in time," but then added, "I know that doesn't make you feel any better!" I realized, there's probably nothing she could say that would be just "the right thing," unless she had experienced IF or really knew how it feels. I feel her love and know she cares, but it doesn't help my heart the way talking to friends on this board does. :)

    I hope your time here is nice and short. 

    My only advice is...stay far away from the OB who prescribed Clomid to you without even checking on your husband's SA first!!! And, know that the time between year 1 and year 2 of TTC has a pretty high success rate even for natural pregnancy, as there are many causes of subfertility that are likely to be overcome through more chances within those first 2 years...so know that your chances for success are quite good, especially at your ages! :D

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  • Welcome, Sorry your here. Good luck IUI # 2
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  • Welcome to 3T. Glad to hear you're seeing an RE. Good luck.


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  • Thanks for replying! And the 14% morphologhy is what my OB said but my RE said that they use a different criteria in their lab that judges harder. 

    With the failed IUI I had this past cycle I had 16 million washed sperm and 16% morphologhy and good sperm motility. No idea why it didn't work. I have not had my tubes checked for blockage, and when I go in for ultrasound tomorrow I'll make sure to ask about that. Have any of you done IUI before checking your tubes? I really like my RE and they say he's the best and I've done my research on that. Its just an overwhelming process and hard to absorb all the information. 

    Baby Dust to all!!!

  • Just FYI, The term 'baby dust' is extremely offensive on these boards.

    Welcome to the boards! We have a few women (myself included) with unexplained infertility. I understand the frustration of not knowing what's wrong. HUGS. I hope your stay is short and sweet.
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  • Some RE's give the option to start the first treatment cycle even if HSG (tubes/uterus test) has not been able to be scheduled yet. But the HSG should be part of the first plan of attack. It's not typical that a patient would need to request an HSG from the RE. Perhaps you want to ask your RE why he has not yet scheduled one for you and see if you are comfortable with the answer.

    Your IUI#1 may not have worked just from sheer chance, since even a healthy, fertile couple only has a 20-25% chance of pregnancy each month, and IUI usually doesn't give better chances than that.


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    Me (29), DH (30) TTC actively 54 55+ cycles | All BFNs
    MFI (low everything) | Endo Stage 1 & Stenotic Cervix (treated) | PCO
    Married - July 2008 | Started TTC - Jan 2009RE Visit #1 - Mar 2014 
    IUI #1 ICI #1 - June | IUI #1.1 Laparoscopy - Aug
    IUIs #1.2, 2, 3 - Sept, Oct, Nov (Letrozole) - BFNs 
    IUI #4 - Dec (Bravelle) | IUI #5 - Dec/Jan (Bravelle) - 5 follies + TI - BFNs
    IUI #5.1 - Jan (Bravelle) Cancelled 
    Planning to start IVF in March!
    ***All Welcome***
  • O sorry about the term still learning the ropes around here! And it's nice to know that there are others who can relate.
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