Hi Ladies, I'm mostly a lurker and have written in a few times. The short story is that H is a very grumpy guy, and is unkind at best, bullying at worst, especially to DS. I have worked with him on this with counseling, medication, my own modeling, educating on child development, etc., various methods of self control, etc. Etc. Nothing sticks. H nit picks, hollers, and acts completely rigid and inflexible with every interaction they have. Tonights argument between them was about turning pages in the bedtime story. The child is 3 years old for F sake, and H is 40.
DS is now telling me that he doesn't like Daddy, wants us to go away from him, and even while I'm there, wants very little involvement with him. My heart is breaking. I contemplate getting us away from this jerk, but honestly, I can't imagine sending my kids to him unsupervised for weekends, etc per a divorce decree. He may be grumpy and unpleasant, but he thinks he's trying to be a good dad, and would argue that pretense in court. At least I can keep my eye on things under one roof.
Does anyone have experience with a situation like this? No idea what to think, but my baby is hurting and I need to do something. Thanks for reading.