Hiring help question

SBmomma

For those of you that have been through the first several months post birth with your multiples:
What did or would have helped you out the most? Help at night? Help during the day? Help with housework/babies/both?? Hubby is self employed & will help at night...but daytime he needs to work.
My hubby & I don't have family close by & literally all our friends have babies/kids of their own to tend to. So getting hired help is our only option. I "plan" on breast feeding so I don't see how having hired help at night will really help since I'll be up with hubby anyways.
Just looking for some helpful suggestions! Thanks!

legaleagles

We had a lot of help from family and hired help. I was hoping to breastfeed, but had a lot of difficulty. So I pump mostly, supplement and nurse occasionally. We hired a night nanny for 12 weeks and will probably bring her back when I return to work if the boys sleep doesn't improve - it recently went to shit. Initially she brought the boys in to nurse, but would change diapers, and get them back to sleep in the nursery, which added up to a few extra hours of sleep a night.  I then switched to formula at night so i could get 7-8 hours of straight sleep. Best choice I ever made. It's not for everyone, but I had/have pretty bad PPD and needed the sleep. 

My mom has come over almost every day during the week to help out, sometimes all day, sometimes for just a couple of hours. She'd help if I couldn't get one of the boys to sleep, or needed help with my DD> I was usually able to grab a bit of extra sleep when she was there. 

If you can swing it - some kind of help will make your life easier, but it's not necessary. 

twins4kim

We had a night nanny for 12 weeks a month after they were born and it was unreal. I formula fed and she went from doing 3 feeds, 10, 2 then 6 O clock to have them sleep through the night by the time she finished best thing ever. I find if you get a good nights sleep you are ready to tackle anything for the day time! Good luck!

rachelkongsore@hotmail.com

I EBF with very little help. I am a SAHM so that makes a difference. My mom woul come over once a week while the twins slept so I could go for a walk or run to target. The BEST thing I did was hire a biweekly house cleaner. It was great. Other than that I basically lived sleep deprived for a long time as my little ones didn't STTN until 15 months :-)

1blueridgemama

Following this.  We are in the process of looking for a part-time helper, mostly for cleaning and doing house stuff since I plan on breastfeeding, which is what I'll be doing all day for months, I'm sure. I'll be a SAHM and I know there's no way I'll be cleaning/laundry/cooking with two newborns.

Wishing35

I paid my neice to come by a few hours once or twice a week sort of like a mothers helper. She would help with the babies while I napped or did housework, or I would hang out with the babies and she would do some housework for me. Just a few hours of this saved my sanity! I don't think I'd personally feel comfortable having someone take care of the babies at night but it would have been great getting some sleep!

LittleLady77

We were in almost the exact same boat. We hired a mommy's helper with the intent to convert to a nanny when I went back to work (which we did). Early on she would make me food, hold a baby so I could get one on one time, watch them both so I could sleep, do laundry, go shopping for me basically anything I needed. It was super helpful. She came for four hours a day, three days a week. It was always in the morning.

twinmama920

My in-laws are from out of state and they stayed with us for the first two weeks. My mil did all the cooking and cleaning and I could focus on taking care of my boys. I had a rough road with nursing so I was also pumping every 2 hours around the clock. She always cleaned my pump parts and made sure I always had what I needed. My advise to you would be to have someone during the night even if you plan to nurse. She could bring you the babies and get them changed and back to sleep. My dh and mil were somewhat helpful during the night but honestly it was still tough. By the time I nursed, changed diapers, got them back down, and pumped I sometimes only had an hour to sleep before having to do it all again. Good luck!