Monday Randoms

shellbell3845

Hi F14!

shellbell3845

I had a little (?) meltdown before 8am. So the rest of the week can only get better? Right? LO didn't sleep well, he was up 90 minutes earlier than usual (again), and the thought of being his human jungle gym for the next 14 hours was just too much. I got angry at DH because he knew I was in bed with a fussy baby (who needed a diaper) while he was sitting on the couch eating breakfast. I didn't really get any kind of break over the weekend, and I just kind of lost it. 

I'm contemplating calling the pedi to get LO's stuffy nose checked out and also discuss sleep. But I know it'll be futile, because my pedi doesn't have anything to offer in that area. So I'm also contemplating asking to see someone else. 

I'm also thinking to get enough sleep, I need to go to bed when LO does. But then no time with DH.

And now LO is screaming. 

shellbell3845

DreamingBabies said:

(( @shellbell3845‌ )) sounds like a rough start to your day. Can you ask DH to take tonight's and tomorrow mornings baby wake ups? A good night of sleep can do wonders for mom!

How does this work with BF? Can I skip a night? I fantasize about this. Although, at one of last night's wake ups, we attempted a bottle, and LO refused it. It was one of his hard screaming wake ups, which we haven't had in a while. I gave him Tylenol because nothing else seemed to help.

iwubrory

I'm sorry @shellbell3845‌, I know how you feel. I've been going to bed pretty early since DD has been waking up so much. I've decided that I'm starting sleep training tonight. Waking up 1-2 times every hour can't be good for her and I know it's not good for me. I wish I could call in but we have a shortage of subs and sub plans would be a ton of work..

I'm going to read the sleep training section of Ferber's book as a refresher today. I hope it helps her like it did with DS but he was never this bad and was much older when we sleep trained.

TessyMessy

CiaoMama I really want to love tit your post about free DD but you mentioned the Eagles won. I just can't love tit that shit.

shellbell3845 (((hugs))) I'm sorry you are having a rough day. I hope you and LO can get a nap in today!

I brought DS1 to the bus stop this morning and got a call from the school that they were closed due to an emergency. Thankfully MiL watches LO today so it was NBD to leave him with her too!! I just spoke to a friend of mine in law enforcement and she said there was a break in at the school and they closed it for the investigation. Awesome.

shellbell3845

@ciaomama I wonder if I can get a free coffee because the Bills won!

shellbell3845

@elf828‌ (and whoever else mentioned sleep training) we were thinking about it and even doing a little... But with his cold, I feel guilty doing it. And when he wakes up with the hard screaming, that's not the time to do it either, I don't think. Also...three nights ago, he slept 7 hours without a peep. So is 4 wake ups a sleep issue or because of other issues?

shellbell3845

Guise, I don't mean for this to be the ShellBell Show.

I was just feeling all the feels and had no one else to talk to.

shellbell3845

@bluedot818 Is t's stuffy nose gone? I hope so!

We may also have some teething going on. I wish babies could just be born with teeth to save us all the trouble. 

Guise, HowTF am I supposed to shave my legs without wearing my contacts? I can't see anything past my boobs (which isn't always a bad thing) with no glasses or contacts, and I can't exactly wear my glasses in the shower. 

Codypup

shellbell3845 said:

Guise, I don't mean for this to be the ShellBell Show. I was just feeling all the feels and had no one else to talk to.

lol I love you.

I'd have had a meltdown, too. And I completely relate to the human jungle gym thing. Once in awhile I'll get a good (10 minute?) stretch of what I refer to her "working." That's when she's super focused on picking up a toy, eating it, putting it down, picking it up, banging it on the floor, then dropping it for another toy. Repeat repeat repeat. She's thuper therious during these stretches, but then it's right back to looking for me and wanting to climb all the things.

I agree with you about delaying sleep training during a cold. We just went through the same thing, except in my case, the solution was to bring her back to the bed with us. So now we're officially bedsharers again, and probably will be for the forseeable future. With Mr. Pup leaving this weekend, I'm in survival mode. 

Codypup

I'm here at work early because we're conducting interviews for my job. EEEEEEEEEEEEK! I'm nervous, which is silly, because it's not like I'm the one interviewing. My hope is that after today we'll have a clear path and a plan.

I am dying for a plan. I have one in my head, but I'm just hoping my owner agrees with me and doesn't insist on something stupid.

Codypup

OH AND you know what's fun?

Dealing with a highchair blowout after both of us are dressed, beautified, and ready to head out the door. This is especially fun because W refuses to lay still for diaper changes, and wants to stand, even though she had poop running down her leg and all over her clothes. So I had to strip myself, and then strip her naked, clean her, and manage not to get poop all over myself and/or the carpet. 

Mom level up.

shellbell3845

ugh @ivedonethisb4 I hope you feel better soon!

Codypup

DisneyPeanut said:

@codypup Don't you feel like a pro wrestler while trying to change a diaper? There is no standing up here yet, but all he wants to do is flip to his stomach and get on his knees. So I spend the diaper change trying to pin him down with my forearm across his chest, with the hand of that same arm holding the legs in the air, while the other hand is busy quickly taking off the dirty diaper, wiping the butt, and putting a new diaper before pees goes out flying or K tries to touch his own poop.

This is pretty much my lyfe. I literally take a deep breath before heading in for the change. And then sometimes, she'll be completely naked and I'll plop her on the bed, and basically straddle her in an attempt to get her clothed.

Seriously, between the song and dance production that is mealtime, and the diaper changing wrangling, I am glad no one is watching me care for my child.

shellbell3845

Gosh. Babies need to just act right during diaper changes. It's not like we told them to blow out their diapers.

iwubrory

@elf828 @Mamosey @Sakura0019 @BlueDot818 Can one of you PM me Mamosey's sleep training notes. I was planning to reread the important parts of Ferber's book at lunch today but then I fell asleep this morning while pumping...Seriously, one minute I'm bumping and the next minute I-) So I'm thinking I might take a nap at lunch instead of reading. I definitely want to start ST tonight and I don't want to go just off of my memory from last time. Thanks!!! 

shellbell3845

@JoyBaby5‌ I know leaving LO is going to be so hard, but this vacation is going to be so great. It will give you some time with DH and a chance to relax and recharge. You'll come home energized and ready to be a great mommy.

TessyMessy

shellbell3845‌ I like the shellbell show.. you just need a plot twist soon! I agree with the ladies, all bets are off for sleep training when LO doesn't feel well. We have boogers and teeth everywhere so I've been doing a lot of comfort nurisng at night. My nips my poor nips.

On a completely unrelated note: I was talking to a (younger) coworker about drinking alcohol before a work function and I made a "Donna Martin graduates" reference and I got a blank look. WTF??  I HEART 90210 forever!!

ETA: grammar. Mondays are hard.

Meghan14

@Shellbell3845 :  So many hugs to you.  I would love to share my iced coffee with you.

@Codypup : EEEEEEEEE!!!!!! Excited for you!   The blowout sounds awful.

@Elf828 : I'd like the say I haven't forgiven the NFL as a whole, but really I just don't give a crap about professional football.  (UO, I know.)

Random: Went to a meet-up walk this morning.  Only 1 other mom showed up, but she's really cool and has a F14 baby and we're going to walk again next week.     I hope she's not a lurker here because I'll be all embarrassed.  

breadpudding

Good morning everyone. I hope your weekends were great. I haven't had much bumping time, but I've been thinking of you all.

My weekend has been great. DH surprised me and showed up early on Saturday morning, and we've just been having fun ever since. DS1 is so excited that his Daddy is home that he can hardly stand it. So is LO. All day for the past two days we've heard, "Dadadada. Dada. Daaaa. Dada. Dadadadadada." I'm sure it's just him exploring new sounds, but it's so stinking cute. LO has wanted DH to hold him and play with him non-stop. (Read: I got a break. And a shower ALONE.) \:D/

Meghan14

@KatyBriggs : Are you sure she's a sane cousin?

Could someone please PM me the info @iwubrory asked for?  Please, please please?

narcissticbeaut

@shellbell3845 i find comfort in knowing that I'm not the only one having break downs from the lack of sleep bc baby isn't sleep trained. I thought it'd be soooo easy bc LO was STTN at two months! until 4 months! no problem. every night. 830-630. and then we got rid of the rock and play and ATTEMPTED to put him in the crib. yeah i shouldn't read all the reviews about the RnP and how hard the transition was. now LO sleeps in his crib for naps no problem. and at night i nurse him to sleep and put him in his crib, but by midnight he wakes up and won't go back to bed in said crib. or if he does, he's up every stinking hour  (

and the BF is no help.

this morning is his day off and we were all laying in bed. LO woke up and decided he wanted to crawl all over me. so i redirected him to crawl over daddy!.....who SLEPT THROUGH THE WHOLE DAMN THING! 10 minutes! 10 minutes i let charly crawl all over him and he didn't even budge. pissed me off. its just great knowing that my BF won't wake up when the baby is trying to play with him. 

GRRRR. so my day started off badly! 

...sorry for the long one. i am not having a good day so far

Meghan14

Thanks! 

Mazingmommyof6

Just wanted to say hello to everyone. I'm on here almost everyday... And comment when I can. Sorry to all you ladies with lack of sleep and moms of wiggle worms during diaper changes. E loves to grab her poopy bottom while changing. It's pretty disgusting and often results in both of us smelling like poo.

I think I'm just in some kind of funk .... Feeling like I need a good cry for no reason but to cry. Probably just tired

TessyMessy

Bookshelves said:

I really am trying to work in a daily pumping session to build up my freezer stash again, but fussy baby wants to comfort nurse 24-7 lately. And my pumping sessions usually only yield about 2.5-3 ounces total, so, yeah... this will work.. ~X( /vent

@bookshelves Does LO use both sides during a feeding? My LO does not so I normally pump the opposite side after he goes down at night and in the morning when I have a surplus.

shellbell3845

Back to the ShellBell Show please...

H's cousin just stopped over, and I can't decide if I was scolded or commiserated with. I mentioned somewhere else that mil hasn't held LO in months. Apparently mil told cousin that I don't let her, she's scared to ask because I'll say no, that she's desperate to have a relationship with him, and basically, I'm a meanie.

So.

I don't even know. This is not what I needed to deal with today.

shellbell3845

@BlueDot818‌ I also mourn the end of those poops, especially since LO only pooped about every 2-3 days. Now he poops everyday, multiple times.

And my LO always naps better for DH. I'll break free, and LO will nap the whole time.

SuzyQq02

I'm exhausted today, and it's totally my own fault. LO was up a bunch last night, or at least I think she was, because we'd hear her chattering over the monitor (we have audio only), but she'd go back to sleep in about 2 minutes and I'd be up for a half hour waiting to see if she'd make more noise. 

Also, when I went in to get her this am, little miss was pulled up on the side of her crib on her knees smiling at me. Thanks, ninja baby... time to figure out how to lower the mattress!

BB0214

Hugs to all the tired mamas!

I have to try to pump more. I'm afraid that I am drying up. From over supply to barely having enough to feed LO. What a sick joke! The worst part about it is that I have a freezer stash I can't use. I built it up before I had to give up dairy because of LO's milk protein allergy. Right about that time my supply started evening out, so no non-dairy stash.
I really want to make it a year BFing. I HATE pumping!!!

Meghan14

@Mazingmommyof6 : 1. LOL and EW about grabbing the poopy bottom.  

2. I'm so sorry.  If you can find the time, have a good cry, you may feel better.  ((HUGS))

@Shellbell3845  :   My MIL never asks to hold the baby and she won't pick him up if I put him on the floor.  Then as we're leaving I often realize we've been with them for 3 hours and she didn't hold him and I feel bad.  Just ask people, trust me most of us would love to hand off during visits. Maybe we should remind each other to pass LO off to them more often? 

Random list of stress over friend's wedding:

We have a wedding to go to in less than a month. I am so stressed.  I really do not want to fly with LO again.  DH is the best man and so will be no help once we arrive.  We just found out that the bride's parents went super perfect on etiquette and already booked and paid for our room.  This is a problem because we were going to leave LO with my mom for the rehearsal dinner and drive to her place after the wedding on Saturday. DH also has to fly out internationally for business the Sunday, so we really need to go to my mom's because it's closer to the airport.  I'm planning to wear a pre-baby dress, but I haven't tried it on yet.  I keep putting this off, but I really need to just do it just in case it doesn't fit.  And just a ongoing rant, the next ANYTHING (wedding invite, baby gift, Christmas card, whatever) that comes to me addressed as Mrs. Kevin ________ is getting sent back.  I've been married 9 years people! If I had taken his name don't you think my Facebook and return address stickers would be updated????

MissDemeanor

My little monkey has decided he wants to be included in the sleeping issues. Last night at 11 he started crying. I went in to get him and he was standing up in his crib. But the weird part was, I think he was still asleep. When I picked him up he just snuggled in. I don't think he could have settled down and fallen asleep that fast. I put him back down and he was up again 30 minutes later. And every hour after that. Is there a seven month wakeful I don't know about?

I sent bf and LO to Starbucks while I stayed in bed. And then LO slept another hour with me.

@bookshelves Can you at least use your pumping as "me" time? Hand off LO, make a cup of tea, grab a good book. I SAH and don't pump at all either....

Codypup

Holy shit. We just hired someone to take my job. I can't decide if I want to celebrate or burst into tears. It's MY job. 

This is surreal.

MissDemeanor

@Codypup‌ I'm watching Nashville on Netflix right now, and it's making me think of you. Have you watched it yet?

ETA: Also mixed emotions about moving is normal. You'll always be the one who made that store into something great. And you can be proud of that. And sad, because you'll miss it

shellbell3845

Codypup said:

Holy shit. We just hired someone to take my job. I can't decide if I want to celebrate or burst into tears. It's MY job. 

This is surreal.

You get to feel all the feels today! Deep breath. This is good and should be one less thing to worry about.

shellbell3845

@Meghan14‌ I have no problems passing LO off. Basically, if you're not a total stranger, you can hold my baby. But I'm also not going to push him on someone who has no interest. If I can't tell that you want to hold him, I'm not going to assume you want to.

Just because I'm not a mind reader doesn't make me a meanie.

DH is going to fly off the handle when he hears this.

ETA I don't mean it like you think I'm a meanie. I assume you know that. Buuuut I can't afford to upset you. You could kick me out of the SAHM check in.

Codypup

shellbell3845 said:

Holy shit. We just hired someone to take my job. I can't decide if I want to celebrate or burst into tears. It's MY job. 

This is surreal.

You get to feel all the feels today! Deep breath. This is good and should be one less thing to worry about.

I do have all the feels. I just called with job offers, and the excitement was amazing. So I smiled. But I am so fucking jealous that someone else is taking what I built, and they're in that omgomgomg happy over the moon happy phase that people get when they get job offers. 

It's the best fit, and the one I pushed for, and I trust her and have high hopes for her.

But the job, and the store...it's mine, and it's absolutely surreal to think that a month from now, it won't be anymore.

I feel like I'm being super dramatic about it and I'm not meaning to be. I guess it's hard to explain how much of a part of me this job has been, you know? It's also impossible for me to consider that I'll find another job that fits me as well as this one did.

AHHH SO MANY FEELS. I'm watching Grey's and eating string cheese and alternating between crying and smiling. Hello, mood swings.

shellbell3845

Codypup said:

shellbell3845 said:

Codypup said:

Holy shit. We just hired someone to take my job. I can't decide if I want to celebrate or burst into tears. It's MY job. 

This is surreal.

You get to feel all the feels today! Deep breath. This is good and should be one less thing to worry about.

I do have all the feels. I just called with job offers, and the excitement was amazing. So I smiled. But I am so fucking jealous that someone else is taking what I built, and they're in that omgomgomg happy over the moon happy phase that people get when they get job offers. 

It's the best fit, and the one I pushed for, and I trust her and have high hopes for her.

But the job, and the store...it's mine, and it's absolutely surreal to think that a month from now, it won't be anymore.

I feel like I'm being super dramatic about it and I'm not meaning to be. I guess it's hard to explain how much of a part of me this job has been, you know? It's also impossible for me to consider that I'll find another job that fits me as well as this one did.

AHHH SO MANY FEELS. I'm watching Grey's and eating string cheese and alternating between crying and smiling. Hello, mood swings.

I don't think you're being super dramatic at all. I completely understand. I still think back to a couple of my jobs and wonder if the work I did there has been undone (in one case, it has, and I'm sad for that) or if someone took the good thing I started and really ran with it.

Gosh, it's hard being so awesome.

MissDemeanor

So, Home Depot was having a sale, and now we're redoing our flooring in the whole house. This week! And we're having a party on Saturday!! WTAF were we thinking??

iwubrory

I extra freaking love my job today. My kids are killing it today. Super engaged, impressing me with their problem solving skills, and owning their writing. Lovin' it! I totally needed this today!

iwubrory

@Codypup‌ You aren't being dramatic at all. It's totally normal to feel the way you do. I'm happy that you feel good about the person. Has your replacement been with the store or someone brand new?

@MissDemeanor‌ What kind of flooring did you pick? I still want pics of your bathroom floor lady!

shellbell3845

I'm trying to pick music for my choirs. It's too hard. There's too much good music. #fwp