~*~*IF check-in 9/7/14~*~*

Frenchteachermama

THERE IS A BFP AFTER THE QOTW, PLEASE SKIP IF YOU ARE HAVING A BAD DAY!!

This is the weekly check-in for TTCALers who are also dealing with infertility. If you'd like to join us please feel free to intro with your diagnosis and history. We've had a few extra challenges thrown at us, ladies. Come here for snuggles from people who get what you're dealing with. 

Fill us in, along with any other updates or vents you need to get out, TTCAL or NonTTCAL related.

If you get a BFP, please PM me and let me know. If we haven’t heard from you in a few weeks please come back in with an update; or are new and want to join please post a brief intro with your DX and current/future treatment plans and then you'll be added to next week’s check in!  

@beckynsean11  How was your week?  Any updates for us?
CandST2014  Hope you had a good week.  Is your surgery still planned for the 18th?  How are you feeling about it?
@Frenchteachermama   
@ky29   How are you?  Did you have ER yet?  Hope it went well!
@Lesliem0901 How are you feeling?  Any plans to POAS before the 11th?
@MBJune   How was your week?  Any updates for us?
@O2girl    How are you feeling?  How did your appointment go on Friday?  Hope DH’s results came back perfect!
@Feegan  How was your week?  When is your beta?  
@Rachaeleigh  How did your appointment go with your RE?  Hope you had a great week.
@Rocks526  Hope you had a good week.  Did AF arrive yet?
@rubysi  How was your week?  Did you end of triggering on Thursday?

QOTW:  If you could start a new business what would it be?

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Congrats to @LizBlue on your BFP!  We will keep everything crossed for a great beta tomorrow AND a H&H 9 months over on pgal!!!

Frenchteachermama

AFM:

Well, AF finally arrived on Labor Day so I was able to call my practice and find out what my FET schedule will look like.  I was pretty bummed to hear that it won't be until the end of October!  My practice cycles women like they do for fresh IVF cycles and I guess the FETs are all at the end of the month.  On the bright side I have another month to lose more weight and get back into a healthy eating pattern.  AND to focus on my doctorate classes which started last week.  I'm in that "what the heck was I thinking?" stage!  

QOTW:  I would either open my own children's boutique where I could sell some of the items I love to sew or my own professional organizing company!   

Rachaeleigh

@Frenchteachermama‌ , thanks for the check in.

Well, the RE still believes that we're not at the point of needing IVF, but will fully support us if we choose to go that route after 3 failedIUIs.
Since he's new to the office, he's been reorganizing things and rewriting prices. He offered to code all of our monitoring as diagnostic, not treatment, thus eliminating a large portion of cost because our insurance covers diagnostic. Also, that then gives us a credit because he started coding everything like that on our last cycle

Essentially, we can do a few more IUIs at no cost. I think for sake of switching things up, I'll even try oral meds for a cycle or two.

If needed, IVF will happen at beginning of next year

Frenchteachermama

Rachaeleigh said:

@Frenchteachermama‌ , thanks for the check in. Well, the RE still believes that we're not at the point of needing IVF, but will fully support us if we choose to go that route after 3 failedIUIs. Since he's new to the office, he's been reorganizing things and rewriting prices. He offered to code all of our monitoring as diagnostic, not treatment, thus eliminating a large portion of cost because our insurance covers diagnostic. Also, that then gives us a credit because he started coding everything like that on our last cycle Essentially, we can do a few more IUIs at no cost. I think for sake of switching things up, I'll even try oral meds for a cycle or two. If needed, IVF will happen at beginning of next year

Thats awesome that your RE is going to do that for you!  Insurance companies really anger me!  My Gonal F is $5 a pen if I was doing an IUI but since it's IVF it's $900 a pen and I needed 6 pens!!!!!!!!!!!  I think it's good to switch things up and see if you have a different response.  My RE reminded me after my 3 failed IUIs that there really is only a 10% success rate of IUIs so not to beat myself up on getting BFNs.  It's hard not to when you're putting so much effort in!!  FX that IUIs will work for you and you won't need to move to IVF!

Rocks526

@Frenchteachermama- Thanks for running the check in. Sorry your FET won't be until the end of October.  Hopefully the next couple of months go by quickly.

@Racheleigh- Thats good that you won't have to pay anything for your IUI! Hopefully you won't need IFV.

AFM-  AF still hasn't arrived, hopefully in the next week or two. I know I have to be patient, but it's hard because I want to start TTC again.

QOTW: I am a huge animal love and would want to open a no kill animal shelter.

Frenchteachermama

Rocks526 said:

@Frenchteachermama- Thanks for running the check in. Sorry your FET won't be until the end of October.  Hopefully the next couple of months go by quickly.

@Racheleigh- Thats good that you won't have to pay anything for your IUI! Hopefully you won't need IFV.

AFM-  AF still hasn't arrived, hopefully in the next week or two. I know I have to be patient, but it's hard because I want to start TTC again.

QOTW: I am a huge animal love and would want to open a no kill animal shelter.

I'm sorry AF hasn't arrived.  This whole process is waiting!  I'll come work at your no kill shelter!  I used to work at a doggie day care part time and loved it!

O2girl

Hiya!! :-h
Good morning to all my fellow IFers.

@Frenchteachermama‌ thanks for the checkin! I'm sorry you have to wait on your FET.... Waiting stinks; but I'm happy you found some positive in the wait.
@LizBlue‌ -- OMG congrats sweetie!! I'm so happy for you and I am wishing you a very H&H 9 months!
@Rachaeleigh‌
Fx that the next round of IUIs is the ticket for you and you don't need IVF.
@Rocks526‌
I'm sorry AF hasn't arrived; waiting on our bodies to get with the program can be so frustrating.....FX your body gets it together soon!

AFM:
SHG on Friday went well. My RE says my ute looks "beautiful now" and that the transfer will be easy. Unfortunately the SHG triggered a nice parting AF from my Lupron, complete with nasty cramps...... :-q but I started estrace yesterday so hopefully that will stop the bleeding and my headaches. My RE said they will thaw ALL six embies the day before we do our FET and do the PGD on them.....then they will leave them ALL thawed until the next morning (transfer day) and decide then which one to transfer and re-freeze any that are left; this is anxiety inducing for sure.....and I don't know that I'll be sleeping the night before my transfer..... :-SS

On the bright side: DH's cancer screens all came back normalish. Nothing looked too weird to me (a couple of values on his labs look a but whacked but I doubt it is related to cancer)....... But I'm no doctor so we are still waiting for the official "all clear" from his oncologist.

ky29

Good morning! I had my ER on Thursday. It went well, but I was pretty sore. They got 17 eggs, and 12 fertilized. We won't get another update on them until our transfer Tuesday. I've been pretty lazy and working from home. But, the PIO shots are no fun! But worth it if it works...

CandST2014

Happy Sunday, everyone! My surgery is still scheduled for the 18th. AF is here and I've never been happier to see her. This is my first since the d&c and even though we can't do anything this cycle because of the surgery, it's just very reassuring to see things return to normal. So next cycle will be medicate IUI. I'm excited!

Rachaeleigh

@Frenchteachermama‌ waiting sucks but im glad that you are able to find the silver lining!

@Rocks526‌ (((hugs)))

@O2girl‌ I'm glad you have a beautiful uterus ) , I do too, supposedly. Also, good news about your husband's stuff

@ky29‌ fx for Tuesday!

@CandST2014‌ glad to hear that you're returning to normal

Frenchteachermama

O2girl said:

Hiya!! :-h Good morning to all my fellow IFers. @Frenchteachermama‌ thanks for the checkin! I'm sorry you have to wait on your FET.... Waiting stinks; but I'm happy you found some positive in the wait. @LizBlue‌ -- OMG congrats sweetie!! I'm so happy for you and I am wishing you a very H&H 9 months! @Rachaeleigh‌ Fx that the next round of IUIs is the ticket for you and you don't need IVF. @Rocks526‌ I'm sorry AF hasn't arrived; waiting on our bodies to get with the program can be so frustrating.....FX your body gets it together soon! AFM: SHG on Friday went well. My RE says my ute looks "beautiful now" and that the transfer will be easy. Unfortunately the SHG triggered a nice parting AF from my Lupron, complete with nasty cramps...... :-q but I started estrace yesterday so hopefully that will stop the bleeding and my headaches. My RE said they will thaw ALL six embies the day before we do our FET and do the PGD on them.....then they will leave them ALL thawed until the next morning (transfer day) and decide then which one to transfer and re-freeze any that are left; this is anxiety inducing for sure.....and I don't know that I'll be sleeping the night before my transfer..... :-SS On the bright side: DH's cancer screens all came back normalish. Nothing looked too weird to me (a couple of values on his labs look a but whacked but I doubt it is related to cancer)....... But I'm no doctor so we are still waiting for the official "all clear" from his oncologist.

Whoo hoo!  I am going to be following you so closely in this process!  I had no idea that they could thaw and then re-freeze them.  I hope that the PGS testing will all come back normal and you'll have 6 healthy embryos to choose from.  So happy that DH's results came back normal too!!!

Frenchteachermama

ky29 said:

Good morning! I had my ER on Thursday. It went well, but I was pretty sore. They got 17 eggs, and 12 fertilized. We won't get another update on them until our transfer Tuesday. I've been pretty lazy and working from home. But, the PIO shots are no fun! But worth it if it works...

Keeping everything crossed for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Please keep us posted on what happens on Tuesday!

Frenchteachermama

CandST2014 said:

Happy Sunday, everyone! My surgery is still scheduled for the 18th. AF is here and I've never been happier to see her. This is my first since the d&c and even though we can't do anything this cycle because of the surgery, it's just very reassuring to see things return to normal. So next cycle will be medicate IUI. I'm excited!

I'm so happy that AF arrived and that things are returning to normal.  I'm already starting to send you positive thoughts and vibes for the 18th!

MBJune

@Frenchteachermama‌ Thanks for the check in! Sorry I missed last week, we are setting up a satellite office at work and things are nuts!

I just finished my Letrozole last night so I go on Wednesday for a follicle check. If this cycle follows the others iui will be on either Friday or Saturday. DH is in the middle of harvest so it may be difficult to get him there but I will make it happen!

FX for everyone! (((Hugs)))

Frenchteachermama

No worries!  Will be keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you!  What is your husband harvesting?  Hope he's able to fit in his job for the IUI (LOL)!

rubysi

I am sorry I am having a bad week. At the monitor scan the Dr said " I have never seen that before" gave me no advice and sent me on my way. My dominate follicle was abnormally shaped with no fluid. No follicle was larger than a 16 mm and my lining was very thin. I had a great response to Femara the last 3 cycles and now I am feeling a bit hopeless. I haven't heard back from my Dr yet. She was not there to do my scan.

QOTW: I would probably open a pub.... or a doughnut shop. Everyone needs beer and doughnuts.

@Frenchteachermama I am sorry you have to wait but the healthy eating plan is a great idea. I am about to get back onto mine.

@Rachaeleigh I am glad they have started to code your ultrasounds differently. Femara/Letrozole is not technically a fertility drug and my insurance does pay for it. My oop for it is $4.62.

@Rocks526 FX for the start of a new cycle. 

@02girl It looks like things are going well for you FX everything continues smoothly. 

@ky29 those numbers sound great to me... good luck.

@CandST2014 Yay for AF. It is nice to feel normal.

@MBJune FX thus is your cycle.

CandST2014

@rubysi hope things start to look up soon! And, beer and donuts?! Sounds amazing!!

Lesliem0901

Hi lovelies,
Thanks for the check-in @Frenchteachermama! GL with your doctorate and I'm glad you have a plan with the FET!

@Lizblue - so, so happy for you!
@ky29 - awesome results, lady! FX for ET!

AFM: I will probably test Wednesday night, so I can mentally prepare myself. The biggest test will not be checking my vm until I get home, b/c I don't want a breakdown at work if it comes back negative.

QOTW: I'd open an antiques shop. I def need and want a less stressful job!

Frenchteachermama

rubysi said:

I am sorry I am having a bad week. At the monitor scan the Dr said " I have never seen that before" gave me no advice and sent me on my way. My dominate follicle was abnormally shaped with no fluid. No follicle was larger than a 16 mm and my lining was very thin. I had a great response to Femara the last 3 cycles and now I am feeling a bit hopeless. I haven't heard back from my Dr yet. She was not there to do my scan.

QOTW: I would probably open a pub.... or a doughnut shop. Everyone needs beer and doughnuts.

@Frenchteachermama I am sorry you have to wait but the healthy eating plan is a great idea. I am about to get back onto mine.

@Rachaeleigh I am glad they have started to code your ultrasounds differently. Femara/Letrozole is not technically a fertility drug and my insurance does pay for it. My oop for it is $4.62.

@Rocks526 FX for the start of a new cycle. 

@02girl It looks like things are going well for you FX everything continues smoothly. 

@ky29 those numbers sound great to me... good luck.

@CandST2014 Yay for AF. It is nice to feel normal.

@MBJune FX thus is your cycle.

UGH that is so frustrating?!  Please let us know what your doctor says.  I wonder if that follie was actually a cyst?  I think you should open a pub that is also a donut shop.

Frenchteachermama

Lesliem0901 said:

Hi lovelies,
Thanks for the check-in @Frenchteachermama! GL with your doctorate and I'm glad you have a plan with the FET!

@Lizblue - so, so happy for you!
@ky29 - awesome results, lady! FX for ET!

AFM: I will probably test Wednesday night, so I can mentally prepare myself. The biggest test will not be checking my vm until I get home, b/c I don't want a breakdown at work if it comes back negative.

QOTW: I'd open an antiques shop. I def need and want a less stressful job!

I am keeping everything crossed for you!!!!!  Sending you positive bfp vibes!!!!

bunnybun4

Hi ladies, can I join?  I don't usually bump on the weekends so I will prob. always be a day late but would love to support and get some more info.

I've had three losses...my first was at 19 weeks and the other two were miscarriages around 7-8 weeks.  I always thought just staying pregnant was my issue until they tested my OAR a month or so ago and got terrible scores...so my DX is low ovarian reserve.  I'm on bcp currently prepping for an ER in October and then hopefully a transfer in nov-dec after PGS testing.  looking forward to getting to know you ladies better.

Frenchteachermama

bunnybun4 said:

Hi ladies, can I join?  I don't usually bump on the weekends so I will prob. always be a day late but would love to support and get some more info.

I've had three losses...my first was at 19 weeks and the other two were miscarriages around 7-8 weeks.  I always thought just staying pregnant was my issue until they tested my OAR a month or so ago and got terrible scores...so my DX is low ovarian reserve.  I'm on bcp currently prepping for an ER in October and then hopefully a transfer in nov-dec after PGS testing.  looking forward to getting to know you ladies better.

I'm sorry you have to join us but we are very happy to have you!  I just went through my first IVF cycle after being diagnosed with DOR and low AMH (.20).  We were going to do PGS testing but since we only got 7 eggs my doctor decided against the PGS testing in the end.  My cycle was so touch and go that I was excited to get any eggs in the end!

I'm not an expert but just went through what you are about to.  If you have any questions please feel free to ask!!  I hope that everything will be worth it in the end and you'll get your rainbow!

Lesliem0901

@rubysi - I hope the doc give your answers and advice moving forward. Very frustrating....

@bunnybun4 - Welcome to the check-in...I hope everything goes smoothly in Oct.

LizBlue

Hi all. Thank you so much for the congratulations. Unfortunately I am in the middle of a chemical pregnancy. Beta was 7. I say it again, this is horseshit. ((Hugs)) to y'all.

Frenchteachermama

LizBlue said:

Hi all. Thank you so much for the congratulations. Unfortunately I am in the middle of a chemical pregnancy. Beta was 7. I say it again, this is horseshit. ((Hugs)) to y'all.

I f'n hate this for you so much. We are here for you Liz. Sending you a million hugs through this post.

Feegan

Thanks for the check-in @Frenchteachermomma, and hugs to all that need them today. 

I'm totally going to copy/paste from my month check-in and then close up shop as I am just not in a good place today. No beta for me as yesterday (10dpo) I awoke to spotting. At first I held out hope that maybe it was a late implant, as there was a little bit of bright red in the mix, which has never happened when I've spotted before and given the early timing of it, but it was only that one and first wipe. (The earliest I have ever spotted in previous cycles is 12dpo) Since then it has continued and despite the increase, I took a test this morning (11dpo) and it was a BFN. Queue break down, followed by emotional run around town at 5 AM because getting back to sleep was impossible. DH is so disappointed as he was convinced this cycle had worked based on other symptoms leading up to the spotting. 

So now I just have to wait for it to actually kick in full force to count as cd1 and schedule a cd3 ultra sound to find out if we can start the injectible cycle or have to sit it out on bcp. I really don't think I will be able to handle having to sit out a cycle after this on top of dropping $1,200 OOP on the injectibles because we have to have them in hand when we go in for the cd3 appt and our insurance hates infertiles. 

I'm really sorry that I'm a Debbie Downer today ladies. I think I'm going to take a step back from the boards for a little while because I'm not in the best place to offer up support. I appreciate you all tremendously so here's a round of chocolate martini's as a way of thanks for being there for me the last few months:

Lesliem0901

I'm so, so sorry @LizBlue and @Feegan...IF is so unfair and heartbreaking. Big hugs, ladies.

Frenchteachermama

Feegan said:

Thanks for the check-in @Frenchteachermomma, and hugs to all that need them today. 

I'm totally going to copy/paste from my month check-in and then close up shop as I am just not in a good place today. No beta for me as yesterday (10dpo) I awoke to spotting. At first I held out hope that maybe it was a late implant, as there was a little bit of bright red in the mix, which has never happened when I've spotted before and given the early timing of it, but it was only that one and first wipe. (The earliest I have ever spotted in previous cycles is 12dpo) Since then it has continued and despite the increase, I took a test this morning (11dpo) and it was a BFN. Queue break down, followed by emotional run around town at 5 AM because getting back to sleep was impossible. DH is so disappointed as he was convinced this cycle had worked based on other symptoms leading up to the spotting. 

So now I just have to wait for it to actually kick in full force to count as cd1 and schedule a cd3 ultra sound to find out if we can start the injectible cycle or have to sit it out on bcp. I really don't think I will be able to handle having to sit out a cycle after this on top of dropping $1,200 OOP on the injectibles because we have to have them in hand when we go in for the cd3 appt and our insurance hates infertiles. 

I'm really sorry that I'm a Debbie Downer today ladies. I think I'm going to take a step back from the boards for a little while because I'm not in the best place to offer up support. I appreciate you all tremendously so here's a round of chocolate martini's as a way of thanks for being there for me the last few months:

I am so sorry.  I was really hoping this would be your cycle.  My insurance hates us too.  I wish we lived next door and could enjoy those cocktails in person. xxoo