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mrssantos07

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rslh10

Hi, welcome. I am so sorry for your losses. I am sorry you're feeling the way you are. It's normal.

Could you please place a living child warning in your title? A lot of women on the board don't have any living children, and it's out of respect. If they're having a bad day, they know not to click your intro. Also, check out the blog for some great information. 

Thank you

mrssantos07

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PinkCamino

I'm rolling my eyes.

OP I'm sorry for your losses. But, this board isn't the place for vents about when you're going to have ANOTHER baby. I (and the majority of the ladies here) are currently negotiating deals with the devil to have our first living child.

mrssantos07

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paintdadanta

I'm sorry for your losses, but welcome to the board. As the others ladies mentioned, please check out the pinned post at the top of the board as it makes a transition here so much smoother. Feel free to PM if you have any questions that I can help with.

rslh10

budgetbride2007Wed162312 said:

I'm very sorry you feel that way PinkCamino and please forgive me if I've offended you in anyway, that was not my intention. Please correct me if I misread but, after reading the intro to this board and blog I was under the impression that I could post here As long as I gave warning that I do have a living child which I realize I failed to do initially and quickly corrected. While we adore our 9 yo, the pain my husband and I have gone through in trying to expand our family is still very much real and not many people understand it, so it was a relief to find this community. Again, it is not my intention to offend anyone but If it's an issue that I already have a child I will no longer post here.

There are some ladies here who have LC already. They just aren't brought up in any conversation. It's out if respect for the women who are living an every day battle with ttc, TTCAL, possibly being child free not by choice. You name it. This is the safe place and that's why it's ok for you to mention your LC during your intro, but not really in any other convos, KWIM? That's why your thread title should simply be like "intro-LC mentioned" or something along those lines. The ladies having a bad day who don't have a LC don't really want to see that you're trying for a second. It could be very hurtful. I hope you stick around and join in on some convos. There are many helpful women here who would love to get to know you.

mrssantos07

I'd just like to clarify, It was not ever my intention to speak about my LC, I only changed it when asked to give a warning. It was also never my intention to hurt or offend anyone, I just need somewhere to turn for a little support. Thank you to those who did extend their support and to those who pm'd me but I am not sure about staying on this board, I am feeling worse than I did when I originally posted. I am sorry for all your are going through and I truly hope all works out for you.

meredithcarole

So sorry for your loss. Welcome.

ellebelle2384

I think the PPs have covered warnings and reading the blog so I will just say I'm sorry for your loss and that you're in this place.  There also is a new board, Trouble TTC a Sibling and there is a Loss check-in on that board as well.  It may be a good fit for you.

PinkCamino

This post was a perfect example of what not to do on TTCAL. I know people are focused on the warnings with this post but did anyone read the original post closely? Did anyone see that she was venting about being asked when she'd be having ANOTHER child?

TTCAL is not the place to discuss issues about TTC for a sibling. This is not the place to vent about how long it's taking you to give your LC a sibling. This is not the place to vent and complain about age gaps between children. This is just not the place for ANY of that discussion.

TTCAL has changed over the last few months. There are so many new ladies here who apparently aren't phased by these ladies with LC throwing in discussion about TTC a sibling into their posts. It makes me really uncomfortable to open up posts day after day and be slammed in the face with all this LC talk. Seriously, this is NOT the place.

mrssantos07

Yes wicked sugar, I felt that it was best as it seemed to offend and/or hurt several people. Some have made it painfully clear that this is not the board for me. I get that I made a huge mistake PinkCamino by mentioning my LC and I do apologize if it was hurtful to anyone. However, we're all human, we make mistakes and there's a better way to convey that message rather than minimalizimg my or anyone else's feelings. Lesson learned, no hard feelings on my end at least, post has been deleted, we can all move on and hopefully heal. I truly wish you all the best.

Menrandes

So I'm reading all this and I'm not seeing anywhere that anyone said this wasn't the board for you. 
All I'm seeing is support in your direction and some comments about reading the sticky at the top of the board.  Everyone should be doing that anyway.  Unless you've gotten some comments privately, I'm not seeing the minimizing of your feelings.
I know when I read your original post last night, when I saw you had a LC, it was like a punch to the gut for me because I wasn't expecting it.  All anyone did was ask you to respect the people on this board and post an appropriate warning.
I am sorry for your loss and hope that you will find comfort wherever you end up.  

gscoville

ashtog said:

also, I'm curious as to why you deleted your comments and now it look as though you changed you sn as well?

I am sorry for your loss.

To be honest I was already thinking she should change her SN, budgetwhatever&#$%$Wed&#82362  was pretty ridiculously unwieldy. @-) Just reminded me of the scene in Fifth Element where Corbin asks for the girl's name, and she spews off a thirty syllable monstrosity, so he whittles her down to the short version 'Leeloo". 

mrssantos07

Thank you Ashtog. Yes I've changed my SN. As I said before I'm new to the bump boards, so my old Knot username was still up from 2007. And I think I've already apologized more than enough for jumping the gun with my post and not following proper etiquette. I've deleted the post so that we can all just MOVE ON. I will be more careful in the future. I did it out of respect for you all and so we could just drop the whole thing.

PinkCamino

mrssantos07 said:

Thank you Ashtog. Yes I've changed my SN. As I said before I'm new to the bump boards, so my old Knot username was still up from 2007. And I think I've already apologized more than enough for jumping the gun with my post and not following proper etiquette. I've deleted the post so that we can all just MOVE ON. I will be more careful in the future. I did it out of respect for you all and so we could just drop the whole thing.

Yes you apologized, thank you for that. I sincerly hope that you understand why that was hurtful to us.

ETA: Talking negatively about TTCAL elsewhere on TB is really not a good idea. Many ladies who post here also post on boards like SAIF or TTTC a sibling.

mrssantos07

I'm sorry that's how it was taken but I did not "bash" anyone. I simply wrote that I got flack for mentioning my LC which I did and still am despite several apologies, that I FELT TERRIBLE (about my mistake), and that I hoped this was the right board. I will edit if that's how it was taken. Now seriously, can we just drop it?! This isn't helping anyone.

blackbird818

:ar!