Hi ladies! I've lurked here a fair amount and have also participated minimally over the last year, but thought it was time to finally introduce myself if I was going to ask a question. I'm a SAHM to my 20 month old son and we are expecting our second child in October. There really isn't much to say about me, but feel free to ask any questions.
My question - How do you get time to yourself? I feel as if I never have time to myself but it always ends up that my husband ends up with something. It's not frequent, but he still gets it and I seldom do. Last night for example, he had to work overtime and then went to a going away party for a co-worker to help keep good ties since we might relocate there and he wants a good standing relationship. He was supposed to be home around 6-7 and he didn't get home until 10. I was furious and just went to bed since I wasn't feeling well anyway. Of course, my son picked last night (and the night before) to be up and was up from 12:15-3:00 and I'm so tired. He did sleep until 6:30 in his crib and thankfully went back to sleep with me until almost 9:00. I was in a terrible mood all night because my husband was snoring beside me since he had to get up for work at 2:45. It took everything I had in me not to freak out on him when his alarm went off at 2:45 and he hit the snooze button for 15 minutes instead of going in to console our son, and then he had the audacity to ask what his problem has been the last two nights. Ummmmm, I don't fucking know but you're not dealing with it, so why do you care?
We took a trip to Alaska to visit some of our friends and his was a planned guys weekend and I ended up going to help host a bridal shower and visit with my friends. It was a great time, but I was with my son the entire time since what they were doing wasn't safe or appropriate for a baby. He got guys time yet again and I got baby time while trying to still enjoy myself. These two guy friends (who I absolutely love) came to visit us in February over a long weekend and he had a guys weekend then as well. I'm just over it. I need a break but don't know how to get one for myself. I won't get a weekend and I'm not wanting a weekend despite how glorious that sounds, but I NEED SOMETHING before I lose my ever loving mind.
So, my question to you is this - how do you find a happy medium of a balance?