Weird to not tell family yet?

Ifeellikeamammal

Hi all... This is my first pregnancy and I'm just about 7 weeks. I'm in my mid thirties and have been married for almost a decade. My parents have been obsessed with the state of my uterus for years and it has driven me crazy (I made the choice to focus on career before starting a family). Anyway, I'm noticing that other ladies have begun telling close family, but I was honestly going to wait until 12 weeks. I just want a little more time to let it sink in for DH and me before letting the cat out of the bag. Do you think it's inappropriate for me to wait that long?

Ifeellikeamammal

Thanks gals! This is exactly the reassurance I needed. I think I was mentally prepared for the physical symptoms but not the emotional complications!

redneckmomma25

It is a personal decision. What works for one does not have to be the same for everyone. I don't think it's a rule that you tell family right away and everyone else at 12weeks. It's whatever you want it to be. We happen to be very close to our family, everyone knew we were trying and praying for us so I couldn't wait to tell. If you want more time with it to yourself, take it.

Anne1387

We haven't told anyone yet. I think I want to tell my parents fairly soon (have my first doctor appointment today) but want to wait on telling MIL - mostly just because she cannot keep a secret to save her life. When SIL was pregnant she told us all at like 5-6 weeks, and made MIL wait to tell any of her friends for only another 2 weeks or so and it was constant complaining about having to wait. I just don't want to deal with that, so I'm tempted to wait to tell her.

I do worry that her feelings will be hurt though if she finds out my mom knew sooner, or if she feels that we waited too long to tell her. Not sure how to navigate all of this.

MamaToAddi2010

Hi! As all PP's said, it's totally up to you! I just wanted to add to the "I haven't told yet either' tally. I am 7 weeks today and I am waiting until 12 to tell.

H&H 9 to you!

kmerkle1

It's definitely your choice! Enjoy this time for just the two of you.
My brother is deployed and he wants us to wait until he is here to tell everyone...which will be around the end of October. 12-14 weeks. I told him I would try my hardest!

Alicia_R1

It's really a personal choice and you do what feels right to you and don't worry about anyone else, this is your news. 

We didn't have too much of a choice with close friends and family, it was either tell or lie since they knew we were doing IVF, granted I didn't tell my brother until this week, when I was 9 weeks along. 

Sharon&Paul

We did not tell family with our last one until after our anatomy scan at 18 weeks. I always wanted tot ell our kids first before family, but I feel it is a long wait from the beginning. So by waiting until the anatomy scan we could tell them they were having a sister and only had to wait 3 more months (she came a month early). We are 7 weeks too and still have not told anyone.

NaughtyNiner

This is my third and I haven't told any family yet.  I told some neighbors and work friends, only because they were concerned why I kept feeling sick and I felt weird looking fat all of a sudden.  We are going to tell family after our first ultrasound.  Whatever works for you is good.

mab87

I think it's when ever you feel like its the right time is when you should tell. I am 6wks 3 days and we are telling my family on Sunday, only because I am VERY close with my family and they see me all the time. I haven't been drinking wine with them anymore so I'm sure they already caught on. The only two people who know, other then my DH, are my two best friends.

SunnyBeachBum

No, I don't. Our baby will be my parents first grandchild, so I want to tell them in person... I am in MA, they are in FL. In two weeks we are going down to tell them and I will be 12 weeks by then. It's whatever works for you, best wishes!

4N6s

Nope. I'm 9 weeks and 2 days. We haven't told our parents.

Mazur11

Not at all!!
We are also waiting until the 12 week mark to tell family
My doctor appointment isn't until next week and this early you never know..
I think it's best to wait it's definitely not easy though!

mamabernsteinbear15

Definitely a personal decision!! We decided to tell our parents at 6 weeks but mainly because my parents had a vacation planned for early April and I didn't want them losing money on airfare, etc. (My EDD is April 1)

Although I was planning on waiting until 12 weeks to tell anyone else we started telling close family and friends around 9 weeks. I'm also in my thirties and this is our first. It's been wonderful having so much support around us.

Ifeellikeamammal

You are all awesome! Thank you for this positive and much needed support at the end of a long Friday at work. I feel much better about our decision to wait.

jk3610

Not weird. We are waiting til 11/12 weeks to even tell our parents. It will be the first grandchild on my husband's side and i'm terrified to tell people earlier and get them excited and have something go wrong :-/

PinkDahLia44

My mom knows, but only for practical reasons (she will watch my son for doctors appts and I can't enjoy wine with her now). We are waiting to tell my in-laws until I am 14 weeks bc we will see then in person. We will tell my brother at 10 weeks for the same reason.

kjones115

9w 1d here. We are waiting to tell our families until we have an u/s. I don't think I could deal with our families if something bad were to happen. We did tell a few very close friends though. We both needed at least someone to talk to.

picklesx

Whatever makes you feel most comfortable. We told my parents at 5.5 weeks, but haven't told my in laws yet and I dont plan to share with them or make it public until after the NT scan at 12 weeks.

kitc101

I agree- do what feels right for you! We haven't told anyone yet and it's kind of a fun secret. I thought for sure I'd tell my family the minute I saw the BFP but I didn't. We are going to wait until 12 weeks bc it's also the same week as our wedding anniversary :-)

kariemomo

We haven't told our families yet. Probably won't until around 14 weeks. We've told a handful of people but we live overseas and didn't want to tell them over the phone. I remember a few years ago my dad saying he didn't like that people waited so long to tell them. And they know my husband and I have been trying. So they hint everytime we call. But I ordered gifts for both our parents and siblings to open together as a fun way to announce it to them. I can just tell that they will say "why did you wait so long?" But it's our first pregnancy, and if something went wrong I think it would be harder to tel them than the few friends I've told(1 pregnant, and 1 with a 1 year old who had a really rough pregnancy). You're not alone. 8 weeks today.

Rski15

Neither of our families are physically nearby so we are gonna wait to tell them till after the 1st trimester. We have already told the people we interact with regularly. So, No, I don't think it's weird at all. Congrats!

mtothep

It's totally your choice. We've told our parents and sibling, but we won't tell anyone else until 13 weeks or so. 

yellowdaisies84

We are also waiting until 12 weeks to tell out families!

nycitygirl1

Ifeellikeamammal said:

Hi all... This is my first pregnancy and I'm just about 7 weeks. I'm in my mid thirties and have been married for almost a decade. My parents have been obsessed with the state of my uterus for years and it has driven me crazy (I made the choice to focus on career before starting a family). Anyway, I'm noticing that other ladies have begun telling close family, but I was honestly going to wait until 12 weeks. I just want a little more time to let it sink in for DH and me before letting the cat out of the bag. Do you think it's inappropriate for me to wait that long?

I think it's totally normal, especially given how much pressure they've put on you. We didn't tell our families until after the 20 wk a/s last time and will probably do the same this time (we live far so we had this option).

carynewright

I'm 8 weeks and we have our first appointment on the 16th. We are still going to wait until about 12 weeks to tell anyone. Just seems too soon until we confirm it appears to be a healthy pregnancy. It's our first and I'll be 31 tomorrow. So, I think its very appropriate to wait until 12 weeks. whatever makes you comfortable.

Ncountrygal

Not weird! Totally up to you :-)

nyc2015

Hi- I'm right with you. Waiting for 12 weeks before telling family!

houser1406

I waited until 14 weeks just to be safe, not to mention I had my first ultrasound very late (insurance issues, of course). Plus, it's so nice to have that secret for yourself so you have a chance to enjoy the excitement!

mnharkcom

Hello zombie thread!

KatyInNH

nyc2015 said:

Hi- I'm right with you. Waiting for 12 weeks before telling family!

Where's a "she doesn't even go here" Mean Girls gif when you need one?

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ewilson74

Or maybe she is waiting until 12 weeks left.

Goodness knows if I had it my way, I would only be telling my MIL now.

ktplusbby

I went to the birth month clubs just to click on April 2015 to make sure. Mind blown!

NagaWater

If you haven't told anyone yet I'm pretty sure they know.
We didn't tell until after the AS. That was mostly because we didn't want to be asked what we were having ever 3 days like last time.

Ifeellikeamammal

I posted this in September. Trust me, everyone knows by now.

KatyInNH

Ifeellikeamammal said:

I posted this in September. Trust me, everyone knows by now.

I'm assuming most of us were referring to @nyc2015‌'s response

...or the fact that this thread has made it back from the dead.