How do you start working again?

TricksyPixie

Hello ladies!

So.. Let me kind summarize what I mean. I've decided that since everyone was so awesome to me during my pregnancy, l&d, and postpartum care, I wanna be a nurse in that particular field. I wanna be that awesome. I want others to look back and say how awesome the whole process was and be a part of it.

I can't drive due to anxiety. I never got my license. And I'd need to go back to school. Then find a job. And all this, but I still want to be in my daughters life every day. It all seems like so much! HOW DO YOU DO IT?!

TexasGirl81

It is a lot to do, but if I don't do it we would be broke and without a home. Working for me now is all for the kids. Not much buying stuff for me, it's all for them now.

I think I may look at it like, "how can I not do it." My goal is to get further in my career than ever before. If I had the ability to stay home and be with the kids while someone else made both of out salaries then maybe I would consider. Until then, I will work my fingers to the bone.

TricksyPixie

Hmm... Well... I wasn't really thinking about the salary. It's more for the career itself. But I'd miss my daughter so sorely. I love spending every day with her! And I want more kids! But I crave the rewarding career. I crave a second purpose, my first being a mommy! But it's so much work... And like I said, I love being with my daughter. I just don't know how to do it. How do I have it all?

TexasGirl81

TricksyPixie said:

Hmm... Well... I wasn't really thinking about the salary. It's more for the career itself. But I'd miss my daughter so sorely. I love spending every day with her! And I want more kids! But I crave the rewarding career. I crave a second purpose, my first being a mommy! But it's so much work... And like I said, I love being with my daughter. I just don't know how to do it. How do I have it all?

I know exactly what you mean. This may sound cheesy but do what your heart tells you to do. Or raise the kiddos for a little but, then start that rewarding career that you want.

shortstack930

In terms of going back to school-- there are a ton of colleges that offer full or at least partial online programs. This way you wouldn't have to drive or leave your daughter to get your degree.

marsalisails

For me, I think I'm a better me with my career, and there for a better mom than I would be without it right now. It's enabling me to fulfill a promise that I made to myself a long time ago, and it is enabling my family to grow and to live the way we want/need to live. Also, working like a dog to make a name for myself in my industry will enable me to take a few steps back later and consult and possibly make my own hours down the line.

It is a ton of work to juggle both, and i have to rely on my mother a ton in order to be able to keep going, but for right now it is worth it.

You basically have to do your own cost/benefit analysis and decide if it is worth it to you. Right now, for me it is - once DS goes to middle school and has larger issues to deal with, I want to be home.

argonne

I'm also with @Matthew930‌. Working makes me a better me. Honestly, while I love my children to death, I am not made to be a SAHM. I need professional adult interaction. As an engineer, I like being creative and solving problems.

1982Babies

Well, I went back to work.  It was time, and I did it.

If you want it, do it.  Jump in!  Go for it!

lowen83

With DS 1 i stayed home with him for 8 months but wanted to work full time(only worked one day a week at a big box retailer to have some adult time). So when I took a job at a bank I was thrilled to be working again and talk to full size humans. I'm a people person so I need to be around them.
This time DS 1 is 3 and DS 2 8 weeks I want to stay home so bad!!! 4 days after DS 2 was born DH started working at his dream job where he will double his income at his precious job by April of 2015. So my thoughts are that I need to go back to work for the income. My family finally has a chance to get ahead financially and move forward. Our only debt is our home which be built in 2008 and my car so our dream of paying it of really early is only a reality if I am working. We want to be able to help send our boys to college which is something neither one of our parents helped with. Oh and DH says the reality of us putting in a pool is only a reality if I continue to work! Maybe I can talk him into a new Ford 150 crew cab truck too!

Now, none if that matters to me. Yes I want a pool, yes I want to pay for their college, yes I want to not have a house payment but I want to be home with my kids for the next 5 or 6 years more!

DH works 12 hour rotating first and third shifts and I commute to a 8:30-5:15 5 day a week job so we also have to rely on others to help care for our children.

Maybe I'm older and wiser this time around or maybe I'm just crazy but I just want to be home with them!

Nicole3&counting

I love being at home and set up our lives so I could. I work non stop with owning my own business now but still will not get a sitter because i stayed home with the first three and it is important to me that miss H gets the same. But that is what is important to me and makes me a better mom for my kids.

The advice I give people when they get married is to base their livestyle on only one income. That way if you decide you want to stay home once you have kids you have an option, and if you decide you love your job and that working is for you then you can do that as well. Either way you have an awesome savings account and you have the choice when the time comes. The worst is when someone wants to stay home and they cannot. That can bring on major mommy guilt.

Skeemer

TexasGirl81 said:

Hmm... Well... I wasn't really thinking about the salary. It's more for the career itself. But I'd miss my daughter so sorely. I love spending every day with her! And I want more kids! But I crave the rewarding career. I crave a second purpose, my first being a mommy! But it's so much work... And like I said, I love being with my daughter. I just don't know how to do it. How do I have it all?

I know exactly what you mean. This may sound cheesy but do what your heart tells you to do. Or raise the kiddos for a little but, then start that rewarding career that you want.

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