arguments about finding out the Gender

poppeloppie

I understand everyone has their opinions about this and it's okay not to always agree. With our first we found out and it was a lot of fun doing the gender reveal, this time I really want to wait just because I would like to and it keeps me wondering for a little longer wich I'm okay with but not DH he refuses to and we get in arguments about it to the point where I feel I'm wrong for not wanting to find out. Am I? I know I don't have all the say it's a mutual agreement but we don't agree what do I do? He said he could find out and not tell me but I know the chances of him slipping up and saying he or she in the next 6 months is pretty much 100% and finding out that way would make me so sad.. help?

boxerrrmama85

Unfortunately finding out the sex is a decision only you and your husband can make. Present your side and take into consideration his side. Good luck.

dreemkin84

When we were team green with DD it was definitely something we both had to do. Although I know couples that have successfully made it to the end with only one person knowing. You'll have to figure out what works for you.

And no you are not wrong for wanting to be team green...but neither is your DH for wanting to find out. GL!

jennjilljo

Sounds tough. I don't think it would bad for only him to know unless he's terrible at keeping secrets or likes to use that type of information against you. I would never trust my DH to keep it quiet but that's because he can't wait 3 days to give me a present on my birthday, much less keep a secret for months on end.

Neither one of you are wrong for wanting to know our not know but have you consisted a compromise where you get the sex put in an envelope but he had to wait a certain amount of time to open it, like he can open it on new years or Christmas day?

Eta: words

mishka29

Ooooo that's tough. DH and I have always been on the same 'need to know now' page.

If you agree he can find out then pick a nickname and he has to stick with it when referring to baby.

Sahara6971

My husband and I could not agree either. He wanted to know and I didn't. We didn't argue about though. We simply decided to flip a coin this time around. I won!

Neesey

We are in the same boat. DH wants to know but I don't. We agreed to wait since we found out unintentionally with our failed ivf round. Once I explained my reasoning too he agreed. I don't want a ton of pink or blue, I want him to tell me, etc. he said he's having a hard time bonding not knowing the sex. I've been better about getting out the Doppler for him so he can hear the heartbeat. We also settled on a nickname so I think that's helping too.

Ducktale

I think you of course know it's not wrong to want to wait, just like it's not wrong for your H to want to find out. Only you two can decide.

Also, the correct term is "sex".

poppeloppie

Thanks for these amazing advice! I love the suggestion to wait till 30 weeks! And also flip a coin I think I'm going to combine those two and flip a coin at 30 weeks! So happy right now great solution!