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February 2014 Moms
Meghan14
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SAHM check-in 9/2
Meghan14
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I'm back!!!!!!! 
I haven't read all the way through the check-ins from when I was gone, but I'm looking forward to reading them tonight with a drink.
I haven't read all the way through the check-ins from when I was gone, but I'm looking forward to reading them tonight with a drink. What were your successes this week?
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week?
What helped save your sanity?
Topic for the week: Let's talk relationships. What has changed? How are you handling it? (Emotional with your partner, sexual, friendships or family- whatever you need to talk about.)
GTKY: What shows are you currently into?
Feel free to bring up any other thoughts, feelings, or concerns you are having.
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Re: SAHM check-in 9/2
What were your successes this week?
There were no fights between ANYONE, on either side of the family. We all just quietly talked behind each other's backs because that's much healthier, right?
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week?
In chronological order:
Flying with LO.
Dealing with a new place.
Dealing with my mom who alternates between thinking I'm Super Mom and a neurotic nut-job.
Driving from Cape Cod to Maine while LO screamed, even after DH got in the back seat with him.
Dealing with H's family.
Teething.
Refusing to nap in a new place so lots of walks and naps on mommy's chest.
Dealing with my crazy sister and her dogs.
Flying back ALONE with an exceptionally cranky LO. I walked that aisle like a crazy person.
Once home, I think we were all fighting something. All any of us wanted to do was nap.
Going to Texas Children's Hospital this morning for tests. (all is fine I think).
What helped save your sanity?
DH, coffee, beer, & wine.
Topic for the week: Let's talk relationships. What has changed? How are you handling it? (Emotional with your partner, sexual, friendships or family- whatever you need to talk about.)
I will come back on answer later... I typed enough under challenges
GTKY: What shows are you currently into?
I watch 1 or 2 shows a day when home with LO during bottle time, something that will hold my interest, but I don't care if I miss something. Bones is my current show for this. I'm looking for something new when I finish it... a friend recommended White Collar and Fringe. Thoughts?
I just finished OITNB. I was crazy in love with the final 2 episodes.
I'm looking forward to Blacklist this fall.
Feel free to bring up any other thoughts, feelings, or concerns you are having.
I really need to catch-up on TB.
Welcome back, @Meghan14!
What were your successes this week? I think getting DD in the car and going to yardsales for a good chunk of Saturday. We got some decent things, and DD was pretty good the whole time.
Also, we are surviving the first round of teething!
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week? I think the biggest challenge/struggle is one I'm starting today. I stepped on the scale and realized I am at my heaviest weight ever. Even heavier than I was when I walked in the hospital 39 weeks pregnant. I haven't really done anything ridiculous to have gained 50+ lbs in 6-7 months, so I am going to make a doctor appointment. (I have PCOS, and a history of thyroid issues, so I'm hoping something there is out of whack--at least it would explain things). I don't eat super unhealthily, quit drinking soda, quit eating out, etc.
What helped save your sanity? Getting out of the house. Actually being able to spend a little bit of money (we budgeted to have some for the yard sales). My aunt came to visit over the weekend, which was nice.. DH even complimented me the other day!
Topic for the week: Let's talk relationships. What has changed? How are you handling it? (Emotional with your partner, sexual, friendships or family- whatever you need to talk about.) Overall, the relationship with MH has changed quite a bit. I don't know if I have changed a bunch, or what, but he does/says so many things that irritate me! He has been working weird hours, and not getting his schedule very far in advance, which makes it hard for me to schedule MY work hours, and daycare. We just seem to be stressing each other out all the time. I am definitely looking forward to our trip in a few weeks!
As for other relationships... I don't know. Neither MH or I had many friends pre-LO. We used to do more with SIL & BIL, but their son is 10, so they still go to movies, etc, and we can't because of LO. My side of the family seems more willing to visit. My parents and all my siblings have made at least one trip down to meet LO so far... which is kind of surprising. (Our daughter's funeral was the very first time they visited us-the second time was our wedding. The third time was meeting LO.) Usually we visit them once a year.
GTKY: What shows are you currently into? We DVR so many shows. Most are MH's (Mountain Men, Bering Sea Gold, Gold Rush, Lizard Lick Towing, etc). I watch them all, but am not really INTO a show atm. I have a DVR timer set for the new season of Awkward (FFTC?)
Feel free to bring up any other thoughts, feelings, or concerns you are having.
dx PCOS 2007
BFP #1 (natural) 12/23/2010. Stillbirth due to IC 4/2/2011
TTC #2 starting 03/2012
RE starting 07/2012
05/2013 BFP on a Letrozole (Femara)/trigger!
Cerclage, Procardia, Makena, GD (with insulin), MBR, and we made it!
Our Angel was born sleeping at 20 weeks due to IC.
Welcome back @meghan14 Sounds like your vacation was definitely challenging. Hope it was good to at least get out. We are traveling with LO in November 6 hours south in the car. Hoping it goes well since he’ll be older.
@armfruit hugs to you! DH leaves at 6am to go to work and gets back from class around 7 twice a week….not every day and I am grateful but it makes for long days! We’ve moved twice with LO now and it is by far insane. Highly recommend getting a sitter for a few hours here and there if you can!
What were your successes this week?
Surviving another week and continuing to feel happy about life. Seriously, last Sunday in church we were singing a song that is one of my favorites and I got emotional. It was the first time in a long time that I could remember being so happy and content with life. It was a great feeling.
Also LO can sit up unassisted about 90% of the time Yay! He also will hold is own bottle….and I’m not sure how I feel about that!
I made a small batch of baby food with pears, apples, zucchini, and plums. It was fun to feel home-makerish!
I also hosted a play group with ladies from my church on Tuesday and 3 moms came. It was fun to meet them and feel like I am starting to make some connections in our new neighborhood.
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week?
LO is really tricky to entertain. He was cranky all last week. No sign of teething (he cut 2 teeth and we hardly noticed!) but just onery. I’m not a wonder week fanatic but I’m guessing it was that or just finally adjusting and realizing this is our new home.
What helped save your sanity?
Getting out on walks and a few trips out to the store in which LO behaved great!
Now that he can sit up, he’s more interested in TV here and there, which serves as a great distractor when toys just aren’t making him happy. (Yeah….he’s been exposed to TV plenty already. Call me a bad mom but it was survival and sanity…now I try to not have it on as much or just music so it’s not silent all day for us)
Topic for the week: Let's talk relationships. What has changed? How are you handling it? (Emotional with your partner, sexual, friendships or family- whatever you need to talk about.)
Things have definitely changed for DH and I. We were married for 3 years before deciding to try for a baby (which we got pregnant first go around). LO was an extra cranky and difficult baby so the adjustment was hard. We were not happy with life and so our relationship struggled for a bit emotionally/physically. I still struggle to sit down and spend time with him, but we are doing better. He’s happier now that we have sex more than the obligatory once a month I was providing. J
My parents live close but have an hour commute each way to work. We see them once a month if we’re lucky so it’s like they’re not here. My MIL is a widow, and is unemployed. I thought I might strangle her during pregnancy. It’s lessened and some days are better than others. But I think inside I just don’t like the idea of having a closer/more frequent relationship with my MIL than my own mother.
GTKY: What shows are you currently into?
We currently watch Parks and Rec….we used to watch Bones, Burn Notice, and did some Sherlock for a bit. Used to be into Parenthood but my husband got sick of the drama so when it comes to Netflix I get to binge watch that by myself. We don’t have cable so we’re confined to old shows on Netflix. I also discovered Scandal in May and it is totally my guilty pleasure show. I know my husband won’t pay for me to watch it on Amazon Prime so I’m going to have to watch what I can online and wait for it to come to Netflix.
Welcome back, @Meghan14! I hope your trip was great, but I'm glad you're back! As for me, I've transitioned to FAHM (Fake at Home Mom), but I'm at home three weekdays, so I hope that still qualifies me to play here. (I really, really hope it, because I'm enjoying getting to know you all better, and I look forward to Tuesdays so, so much!)
@bookshelves Happy Birthday! And I'm keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
@armfruit yay house, yay feeling better!
@joybaby5 when is your trip? Soon, right?
What were your successes this week? Made it through DH being away, first week of DC, LO's first cold, and got myself ready for school. All at the same time.
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week? See above. Ha! In addition to the above, LO has decided fighting sleep is in again, he can't decide how many times a night he needs to nurse, and he's trying too hard to crawl and I'm just not ready to be the mom of a crawler.
What helped save your sanity? My mom. She came to hang out Thursday-Sunday, which was part of the time DH was gone. She helped so much the first night of LO's cold and also went to school with me on Friday to help me finish my room. She always reassures me that I'm doing okay, even when it seems like all hell has broken loose. We got in some mom-daughter time without LO on Friday and Saturday, and I needed that SO badly.
Topic for the week: Let's talk relationships. What has changed? How are you handling it? (Emotional with your partner, sexual, friendships or family- whatever you need to talk about.) We'll start with DH -- I feel like sometimes we're just two people who live in the same house. By the time LO is in bed for the night, we're both spent and not in a place to have a conversation (let alone anything else). Plus, TBH, after LO goes to bed, sometimes I just want to be left alone in some peace and quiet without having to take care of anything. I'm not worried about our relationship or anything, but it's definitely different than before. My friendships have always been weird. I have all these friends who I can go months without interacting with, but then when we're together it's like we were never apart. So nothing has changed there. My bestie is going through some hard times, so we haven't had the carefree time together we usually do. Between LO and her issues, it's all serious stuff. I feel like I've gotten closer with my mom (which I didn't think was possible) and my sister (which I'm happy for).
GTKY: What shows are you currently into? Mistresses (which is over). Below Deck. Project Runway. I'm looking forward to the return of my shows in the fall -- Grey's, Scandal, Criminal Minds, etc I watch too much TV.
Feel free to bring up any other thoughts, feelings, or concerns you are having. I'm liking being a FAHM. Which gave me some guilt because I felt like I shouldn't like to be away from him! But I do. I don't mind dropping him at DC and going to do my work. I look forward to picking him up; I call to check on him, but I'm not a basketcase.
I am aweful and haven't participated in this in...months I think. Please take me back. It's been insane.
What were your successes this week?
Survival is always seen as a success to me. It was a close call, it felt like.
I managed to make and stick with a meal plan all week. No take-out, or frozen dinners once. Haven't done this since before DD was born.
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week?
H just got a different job/promotion. Last week he had wonky hours. It's going to take awhile to get us all on a sort of "schedule". his "regular" hours have started this week, so hopefully we'll pan it all out.
Also struggled with a fussier than usual baby - which I'm attributing mostly to teething. She cut one top tooth over the weekend, the next one is (please, oh god, please) any day now.
What helped save your sanity?
Nothing extravagant. We've seriously discussed that we WILL be getting a second vehicle later in the fall/before winter. I will hold onto this. Very tightly.
Topic for the week: Let's talk relationships. What has changed? How are you handling it? (Emotional with your partner, sexual, friendships or family- whatever you need to talk about.)
Plenty has changed. I definitely don't talk to my friends that don't have kids as much anymore...surprisingly I also don't talk to the ones that do a whole lot more. Moving where we did I think is also playing a role in the disconnect here though, not just DD.
Relationship with H has changed a lot. I feel like we don't talk to each other enough. Something I'm trying to work on...I don't feel as connected with him, which also leads to feelings of loneliness.
GTKY: What shows are you currently into?
HGTV kick. My favourite is Leave it to Bryan.
I'm also watching Friends. Started form the beginning when DD was born...I'm on season 8 now. I don't watch a lot of tv, especially with DD awake.
Getting LO to sleep in a pack n play in other places.
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week?
H and I are having a lot of problems. More about that in the later section.
What helped save your sanity?
Being able to take LO and not having to rush home for nap time since she now will sleep in the pack n play.
Topic for the week: Let's talk relationships. What has changed? How are you handling it? (Emotional with your partner, sexual, friendships or family- whatever you need to talk about.)
Things are pretty strained. I had PPD and he is still trying to recover from that, as am I. But I'm to a point where I'm honestly thinking of leaving. If I have a concern or need support with something, he will tell me that I need to talk to my therapist. Basically, he has no emotional availability for me or LO. I don't think that he's really enjoying being a dad and has some depression himself. But he won't talk to anyone for it and he'd rather blame how he's feeling on the fact that I had PPD and on me.
GTKY: What shows are you currently into?
The Good Wife, The Bridge, Ray Donovan
What were your successes this week?
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week?
Trying to get things done now that LO is CRAWLING! and he's everywhere! i can't even go pee without hearing something go crashing to the floor. luckily its only been DVDs and books. were getting a baby gate this weekend to help block off the entertainment center. but man I'm exhausted. i just follow him around all day and make sure he doesn't get hurt!
What helped save your sanity?
I purchased a walker last week and its been amazing being able to put him in the walker and let him roam around the kitchen and living room. i don't have to worry about him getting into anything and its awesome.
Topic for the week: Let's talk relationships. What has changed? How are you handling it? (Emotional with your partner, sexual, friendships or family- whatever you need to talk about.)
well...ill talk about it here because i haven't talked about it with any of my IRL girlfriends bc I'm almost ashamed of it...the BF and I haven't had sex since summer of LAST year!!! not once. we've recently started fooling around, but theres been no attempt at having sex. and i don't know how i feel about it. i miss it, i want it. but then at night I'm just too exhausted for it. and the BF wakes up for work at 445am so trying to mess around during the day isn't an option. i don't know. first i felt too gross and scared bc of how much i tore during labor. but now, like i said, i just don't know what it is. both of us are just like whatever about it. I'm worried its going to become something serious soon. i mean, its been over a year! >.< ugh.
other than that we've been good. things were rocky at first with the LO bc the BF felt ignored, and i felt like he wasn't helping as much as i was hoping he would. but things are great now. other than ya know..sex.
GTKY: What shows are you currently into?
omg TV is my total vice. we watch so much TV. right now were catching up on Ray Donovan on showtime. SO good! and i recently got HBO Go so I'm rewatching all 6 seasons of Sex and the City. and I'm watching the Sopranos for the first time. Soo good!
and this week was the finale of both Real Housewives of OC and Keeping up with the Kardashians! agh. i hate to love those shows but i do.
one last tv show..Sons of Anarchy starts soon! YAY!!!
so I'm starting school this week after not having taken classes in five years! I'm so nervous! i had my first homework assignment due last night! i did good but i stayed up unil 1130 finishing it after the LO and BF went to bed. I hope its not as hard to take three classes as I'm expecting it to be
have a good week mamas!!