*Possible BFP mentioned* IUI August 21, 2014. Hoping for BFP. Anyone else on the same schedule?

Jen82J

Today is 10 days after my IUI, and I got a positive pregnancy test this morning and yesterday morning. I had been testing every-other day last week, so I tested Sunday, Tuesday, and Thursday. I had faint positive on Sunday and Tuesday, but on Thursday I swear there was nothing, not even a shadow. I figured that meant the Ovidrel was out of my system. Then I tested two days later on Saturday and got a faint line again. It was definitely a line, not a shadow. And I got another one today. I'm getting really excited, but I'm worried that the test on Thursday that was negative was just a fluke. Maybe the test didn't work right. I'm using those Wondfo test strips, and that particular one had a few vertical streaks on it, but I still swear it was negative. Is it possible to have it be negative one time and the next time be a false positive due to the meds? Or should I start getting excited? Only 4 more days till I will know for sure, but it is killing me!

emmuffy

I think you should consider adding bfp and siggy (signature) warnings to your post. Most people here have never been pregnant and some people want the warning to avoid reading what can be upsetting information to them. I wish you good luck, but I don't know if you are pregnant. Perhaps see if you can get an earlier blood test.

stace2524

We are on the exact same cycle! But I am absolutely petrified of the false positive so I haven't done any home pregnancy tests, am trying to wait until my beta on Thurs but may squeeze one in Wed AM! Here's hoping we both have some good news soon!

Jen82J

I don't know if I can get and early blood test or not. They have not given me orders for one. I think if I still have a positive on Wednesday, I might call and ask. I will probably keep testing until then, even though it's going to drive me crazy. I think you are probably going to be better off, stace2524, for just waiting instead of testing like I have been doing. It's impossible to know anyway. My last IUI (October 2013), I was getting BFN's for several days and ended up getting my period early, which ended all doubt I'm hoping that the positive tests this time around are a good sign, but it could just be that the meds are taking longer to get out of my system. Good luck to you!

Jen82J

My post does not mention a BFP. I still don't know anything for sure. I can't know that for 4 more days. I see no reason to put a warning on that. As for my signature, when I created that, nobody was doing warnings at the time. I apologize if my having two children already is rough for you, but I don't understand why I have to warn people that I have children.

lebradford

Jen82J said:

My post does not mention a BFP. I still don't know anything for sure. I can't know that for 4 more days. I see no reason to put a warning on that. As for my signature, when I created that, nobody was doing warnings at the time. I apologize if my having two children already is rough for you, but I don't understand why I have to warn people that I have children.

Wow, @Jen82J‌, you're a real peach.

daydreamernyc

Jen82J said:

My post does not mention a BFP. I still don't know anything for sure. I can't know that for 4 more days. I see no reason to put a warning on that. As for my signature, when I created that, nobody was doing warnings at the time. I apologize if my having two children already is rough for you, but I don't understand why I have to warn people that I have children.

Wow, how insensitive of you. Someone says that what you are writing about might upset other people and instead of saying, sorry, I didn't realize that because I haven't considered myself as pregnant. I will add a warning. Instead you get defensive. 

At the end of the day, it doesn't matter if you think someone would be bothered.  What matters is to be kind and considerate to your fellow community members, especially if you are here to give and receive support. 

You don't have to fully understand something to show kindness and compassion. 

heathereb23

@Jen82J‌: if you do not see that you are being insensitive, you are definitely in the wrong place. Most of us have never been pregnant and you have 2 children and a possible BFP. Also, most everyone here is doing IVF because IUI either didn't work or was not going to work for various reasons. I hope this helps you to understand where PP are coming from.

Jen82J

So it's considerate of all of you to attack me because I have had two children? You know nothing about me. My firstborn son is severely disabled. He is 9 years old and is confined to a wheelchair, has seizures, and is tube-fed. While I am blessed to have him, you people seem to assume that my life is just peachy. It took me 5 1/2 years to have my second child. So don't think I don't know what infertility feels like. I've been waiting another 3 1/2 years to get pregnant again. My friends all around me are popping out kids left and right, but do I say anything to them about how it bothers me that they are pregnant? No. I think it is better to celebrate with them. Isn't that what we are all here for, to be happy for each other when they finally do get their BFP (which I repeat, I have not found anything out yet)? I will delete this post after it is done with, since you all find me so offensive. I was simply responding to a less-than-polite comment about what I should have done, which had no consideration for my feelings whatsoever.

Jen82J

It looks like my signature has now been deleted. I was having trouble with that feature the other day, so it never got properly updated. I need to add into it the 4 failed IUI's I've had in the past 2 years.

heathereb23

Jen82J said:

Isn't that what we are all here for, to be happy for each other when they finally do get their BFP (which I repeat, I have not found anything out yet)?

If you were a regular on this board, then you could expect people here to be happy and supportive when you get your BFP. You cannot drop in on a board full of women struggling to conceive (again, for the 1st time) and be defensive and disrespectful, and expect us to be supportive. That is something you earn.

jencity9

Jen82J said:

My post does not mention a BFP. I still don't know anything for sure. I can't know that for 4 more days. I see no reason to put a warning on that. As for my signature, when I created that, nobody was doing warnings at the time. I apologize if my having two children already is rough for you, but I don't understand why I have to warn people that I have children.

The reason for the request for the BFP warning is because you do mention that your tests were negative and became positive again which generally means the trigger is out of your system and you are getting positives which means likely you are pregnant and we ask for a warning. Just like in real life it can be difficult to hear of yet another person getting pregnant. Sometimes it is easier to hear, but on bad days it is difficult to hear.

I think also it might be just a matter of choosing the board that is the best fit and introducing yourself to the group. I know it feels like it's just an online forum so why not just ask questions, but these boards really do become like a family. As for the children issue, this is considered a safe haven sort of for women who do not have children due to infertility. (Some do but they either use a warning and/or do not mention older children very often). I know we all have different struggles in our lives. But as it pertains to infertility, we do ask for certain considerations. For instance, I have been trying to conceive my first for eight years. I have had surgery, four failed IUIs, (two canceled cycles), and just had a failed IVF. So these issues are very sensitive to me. I am currently facing the possibility that I may never be able to have children while at the same time I plan on IVF #2. Typically women who are working on IUIs will find a lot of support at the Trouble Trying to Conceive Board, and they recently added a similar board for those trying for additional children.

Jen82J

*Warning: Mention of possible BFP, children, and IUI.

Rather than delete the above posts, I think I need to explain myself better, now that I've read all of the above comments. I really am not a mean person, and I do care about the feelings of others. The reason I did not read the New to Infertility post is because I am not new to infertility. I have been part of this forum for over a year, I just haven't been active due to other things going on in my personal life. When I was last on this forum, it was for IUI and IVF people, or so it seemed. The discussion board is called "Infertility," not "IVF Patients." Perhaps it would be a good idea to re-title your "New to Fertility" post "Rules/Guidelines for those New or Returning to the Forum." I also DID mention that I was talking about an IUI cycle in my title, so I feel that is a disclaimer in itself for anyone who might have trouble reading about IUI's because they have had to move on to IVF.

The other thing I just want to say is that I DO struggle with infertility. I would probably never have the ability to conceive on my own without fertility treatments. I was only 22 when I had my first child (not trying to be insensitive), and that was probably a 1 in 10,000 chance. I didn't know I had PCOS at the time but had always had slightly irregular periods. After he was born, things only got worse. It wasn't until I was 26 that I finally found out what the problem is. So, while you might define infertility as someone who has never had a baby, I believe that is an incorrect definition. Basically you are all saying I am unwelcome here, so I will leave. I really am not a bad person, but we obviously got off on the wrong foot. I do hope that you will change the title of your rules/guidelines post and let people know what this board is really for so that this problem will not happen to someone else.

Jen82J

This is the description for the Trying for a Sib group. "This board is a place for people TTC a sibling for their child(ren) and having difficulty doing so. This board for you if you have been TTC for 12+ months or 6+ months if you are AMA and been unsuccessful conceiving a sibling at all or have experienced one or more losses in the process. This is a great community for people who have not reached a diagnosis of secondary infertility quite yet but want to have a safe place to talk about the trials of TTC while having children already." I guess I am not a good fit for that group either because I DO have a diagnosis.