how do you deal

kenziebug22

With bad days?

I've felt really down all day with so much on my mind and can't seem to shake it. Ive cleaned my entire house got all the laundry done did some school work and i found i had so much time to still think, and LO slept allll day so besides feedings and changings i was alone with my thoughts.

I'm going to try taking LO for a walk in the morning, but what are some things you ladies do to cheer up, I want to have fun with LO, keep busy tomorrow and hopefully get out of this funk.

argonne

I try to keep busy. It sounds like you have some pretty bad days, though. Keep an eye on this and talk to your OB/MW if it stays like this. My bad days are usually because I'm frazzled after chasing a 4yo and dealing with a nb at the same time. I never really get down like you're describing.

kenziebug22

Ive been trying to keep busy, guess i was looking for ideas outside of the house, not much you can do with a 6 week old. Its not PPD or anything like that i just have a lot going on in my personal life that i wasn't going to post. I shouldve explained it better i suppose

missilini

Do you have a friend you can visit? Several times a week I go to my friends house. It's just a nice change of scenery. The other day we spent the whole time searching Pinterest on our phones, but it was nice to be out of the house even though I would probably be doing the same at my house. I also recommend a walk with LO. I try to take one everyday just to get some fresh air, listen to good music, and just be away for an hour or so.

livkight

I second the walk! It's free and it gets me out and moving. DH and have only one car so I'm usually "stranded" at home unless I drive him to work. The days that I don't have an interaction with people besides DH are pretty hard. I am hoping to join a moms group (like MOPS) this fall as well.

Ekg688

Sometimes I'll take DD to the mall and just window shop. Gives us something to do and we get some exercise. We'll look for holiday outfit ideas, cruise the sale racks, etc.

I've really wanted to go get a pedicure. It would be easy because you just sit there and you can easily feed, entertain, and sleep LO. I just worry about her breathing in the chemicals

Nichole8787

Reach out to some girlfriends. Having coffee with a friend even in your own home makes all the difference in the world. If it wasn't for my friends stopping by or quick trips out with baby to meet them I'd be seriously depressed . I've always been a firm believer that women NEED friendships with other women. Best girlfriends can make a world of difference.

Nichole8787

And if thou ever need someone to talk to you can private message me. I hope all gets better soon. Hugs!

kenziebug22

livkight said:

I second the walk! It's free and it gets me out and moving. DH and have only one car so I'm usually "stranded" at home unless I drive him to work. The days that I don't have an interaction with people besides DH are pretty hard. I am hoping to join a moms group (like MOPS) this fall as well.

This is the same situation here so i understand you feeling "stranded" me and LO did take a walk this morning and I'm feeling a lot better

kenziebug22

Thanks you all made me feel better about having a crap day

lindslalala

Getting out of the house once a day is key! Also, if I cleaned my whole house and did laundry I'd consider that a very good day!

TricksyPixie

I have ppd, so bad days I am familiar with. I usey own personal coping mechanisms- art, so drawing or something. Meditation. Try to think of the happiest thing I can. Go outside if I can. Try to do something. Otherwise... Sometimes, you just have to feel what you feel. You know?

kenziebug22

TricksyPixie said:

I have ppd, so bad days I am familiar with. I usey own personal coping mechanisms- art, so drawing or something. Meditation. Try to think of the happiest thing I can. Go outside if I can. Try to do something. Otherwise... Sometimes, you just have to feel what you feel. You know?

I used to love drawing, i should try to find time to get into it again- forgot all about that haha. And you're right sometimes you do just gotta feel what you feel. Honestly i've probably been pushing this crap to the back of my head for so long its probably good i let it come out a bit.

TricksyPixie

kenziebug22 said:

TricksyPixie said:

I have ppd, so bad days I am familiar with. I usey own personal coping mechanisms- art, so drawing or something. Meditation. Try to think of the happiest thing I can. Go outside if I can. Try to do something. Otherwise... Sometimes, you just have to feel what you feel. You know?

I used to love drawing, i should try to find time to get into it again- forgot all about that haha. And you're right sometimes you do just gotta feel what you feel. Honestly i've probably been pushing this crap to the back of my head for so long its probably good i let it come out a bit.

When I'm visiting my parents or in laws and they are holding her, I take advantage and sketch. I have a small sketch pad I keep in my purse along with a pen and pencil. I also draw if she is napping. Started doing yoga while she is napping too. And I allow myself to feel like crap some days. It's unrealistic to think you will be happy every day. Today is a crap day for me, so I am doing myself a favor and allowing it and a little junk food.

kenziebug22

TricksyPixie said:

kenziebug22 said:

TricksyPixie said:

I have ppd, so bad days I am familiar with. I usey own personal coping mechanisms- art, so drawing or something. Meditation. Try to think of the happiest thing I can. Go outside if I can. Try to do something. Otherwise... Sometimes, you just have to feel what you feel. You know?

I used to love drawing, i should try to find time to get into it again- forgot all about that haha. And you're right sometimes you do just gotta feel what you feel. Honestly i've probably been pushing this crap to the back of my head for so long its probably good i let it come out a bit.

When I'm visiting my parents or in laws and they are holding her, I take advantage and sketch. I have a small sketch pad I keep in my purse along with a pen and pencil. I also draw if she is napping. Started doing yoga while she is napping too. And I allow myself to feel like crap some days. It's unrealistic to think you will be happy every day. Today is a crap day for me, so I am doing myself a favor and allowing it and a little junk food.

I definitively take advantage when my mom is here and helps out with him, she'll take him so i can have an hour or so of me time knowing its the only time i get a break so that's nice, sorry you're having a bad day today and funny you mention the junk food i was just thinking of going to get stuff to make a hot fudge Sunday

TricksyPixie

Sometimes junk food is the best cure. Yum, chocolate ANYTHING!

kenziebug22

AnotherDreamer said:

I agree with others about getting out of the house, reaching out to friends, going for walks, etc... When it was just my DS and me I would take him for walks during the day, go to the library, go to the zoo with friends/family (invested in a membership with guest passes), or just visit family/friends for a little bit. I also spent time doing things I liked: playing video games, reading, watching TV, craft stuff, etc... I also started working out while he napped: yoga, jogging on the treadmill or doing other at home aerobic workouts.

For me it was good to fill the time when DS was little. With the twins and DS now I don't have time, so I'm struggling because I can't get out or find the time to do anything.

You are a champ in my eyes with the twins, i feel like im just now getting more comfortable with things and DS is 6 weeks (then again i am a FTM) i guess the biggest thing is figuring out and being more comfortable with me time. Just seems like that's very limited being a single patent and only having my mom to help, we'll get there..

mrscutforth

I had a bad day last week.

I fed both kids and snuck away for an hour for a DIY facial and a hot bath.

ghostof5letters

I get out of the house and visit people...anyone. With DD1 my grandmom was in assisted living. I visited her almost daily just to get out of the house. She was always excited for a visitor.

Now all relatives and friends are fair game.

lamarei

I take my Wellbutrin everyday DH helps when he gets home, gets us out for a walk, even if it's just around Walmart. Takes us out for ice cream or dinner. I gave myself a pedicure and waxed my poor eyebrows and lip yesterday. I felt almost human again.