Settlement aka I should be a psychic aka Updates

eg214

So I got a phone call from my atty today. She got a chance to talk to his attorney and the first thing she said was "I don't think he wants to pay his attorney anymore." BAM. Did I not say this? I was married to the man. Be it a short time, but I know him well. So basically he's offered up a "Leave me alone and I'll leave you alone" settlement. 

According to the Virginia child support calculator, he owes me like $10 or something a month (because the social security counts). I forget the actual amount but it wasn't more than $100 a month. If I agree to not go after him for that CS, he will give me full legal and physical custody. In addition, all visitations will be at my discretion with no overnights until I want. 

So he is basically pulling one of these numbers:

What a shocker.

So in a nutshell, he's walking away. I get what I want. And the CS can be modified/ordered at ANY TIME. I will have to decide when I return to work and need to pay for child care if it will be worth it at that time to go after him or not. As I've expressed before, I feel like the more I push and prod him for money, he's going to say well FUCK IT...I'm going to be in her life and take her then. I will cross that bridge when it comes though. For now, if this goes through, I can move, I can do whatever I want and not have to notify him. I have to notify the courts but not him. My only stipulations will be that he continue to pay for her insurance ($12 a month, I could never get it that cheap). I obviously cannot prevent him from seeing her, and that's fine...so I know he can take me back to court at anytime but my guess is he won't because of the cost...I mean we'll see...and I doubt he will make an effort to see her as long as we are living in VA or another state. The longer this goes on...the older she gets...the stronger her ability to communicate with me anything wrong and her wants. Also the longer it will be for him to find someone else, knock someone else up, and leave us alone for good. 

My mom has a friend at work who remarried and had a daughter. The girl was maybe 5 or 6 and the bio dad popped back in. The little girl was like HUH? No thanks. I already have a dad. And that was that. 

Anyway, that's my update. His atty did say he cant speak for ManChild but that he believed this arrangement was something MC would go for. My only fear is that MC reached out to me and I told him to let our attorneys handle it and he said something to the affect of fine, let's play ball. So I hope and pray he will still do this deal.

MinnesotaMomma91

Hope he sees reason goes with what his attorney advises

freeatlast2014

That all sounds very promising. Good luck!