Feeling bad

bridetobe9132013

I feel like my DD cries ALL DAY! It doesnt matter what I do... everything I try, she cries. I hold her in every position I can think of and she cries even more. I just dont understand what to do. I start to get angry and have to put her down and walk away. Anyone else have to do this? I feel like a horrible mother.

bridetobe9132013

I can't wait for that to start happening... I hate this age!

QOTR

I'm sorry you're having a bad day!   You're not a bad mother.   Just a few seconds ago, I told my husband that I have no idea what I'm doing at any one time.   Sometimes I just have lucky guesses. 

bridetobe9132013

I guess I just hate that I have no control. I feel like my days are spent trying to figure out why she is crying.

bridetobe9132013

@Kimbus22‌ I think you just made me change my mind about having a second baby lol

bridetobe9132013

Thank you ladies!

LunaBug924

I feel this way a lot too. My DD is not exactly a snuggly baby. Sometimes when she cries I just want to hold and rock her, but most of the times that just makes it worse. It breaks my heart and I even find myself getting mad at her for not wanting to snuggle me. That's when I put her in the crib where I know she is safe and walk away for a few minutes. I did this the other day and within 5 minutes she fell asleep. I guess I should be thankful that she's learning to self soothe, but I never intended for CIO to be a method. It's just really hard when you're trying to give them all your love and attention and all they do is scream in your face.

Ugh, thanks for posting this. It's nice to know I'm not alone and that I'm not a bad mom.

bridetobe9132013

@LunaBug924‌ i'm sorry you are dealing with this also! I dont understand why me holding her would make it worse I am getting so stressed over this that I am ending up with headaches and exhausted every day. I keep telling myself that it's just a phase but I feel like it'll never get better. I'm not happy others are dealing with this but I am so glad to know i'm not alone. I seriously dont know what I would do without this board to come to. I have people I can talk to but I feel like my sister is always comparing my DD to how her kids were, which isn't right. All kids are different. Today I was helping my sister move and I left early because DD was losing her mind and my sister said "I dont know how you dont go crazy." That offended me because it seems like a nice way of saying that DD was driving her crazy.