attention not wanted: a belly touching thread

ssstephanie214

Ugh,

I just walked into school and some guy I barely know comes up to me, gives me a disgusting kiss on the cheek, and actually touched my belly. I was so surprised that I actually went speechless.

I'm pissed I didn't get to use any of my preplanned reactions. And that my face punching reflex didn't deploy!

I could use some similar stories right now.

uncharted01

One of my husband's coworker's wife (follow?) actually bent down and kissed my stomach. Repeatedly. I wasn't even showing. It was cringeworthy.

absolutelymaybe

I would be more pissed about the kiss on the cheek, honestly. But unwanted belly touching isn't cool either.

I would flip my shit if a stranger did it. One of DH's friends gave me a kiss on the belly at our coed shower on Saturday. It didn't bother me. In fact, he kissed me on the right side of my belly and I said, "What? No kisses for Willa!?" so he kissed the left side, too. He asked if he could feel the babies kicking and I said, "No...they're breech and they're kicking me in the cooch right now." He agreed we're not that good of friends :-)

missnacholover

The only person who has touched my belly is my sister, so I don't mind. 

I'd probably rage if a stranger/non family member did it.  I'll probably get annoyed if MIL does w/out asking.  I think to avoid I'll probably let them know when the kid is kicking.

ssstephanie214

@uncharted01‌ HAA that is so, so weird.

I always thought I'd flip out, I'm not a passive person, but I was stunned that it really happened. Shocked into passivity. Get your guards up, bellies are getting bigger

Dana633

This annoys the shit out of me!  I mean I don't go around touching people! Why just because we are pregnant, people feel the need to touch us?  I'm not a touchy, feely type of person!  This isn't an effin magic lamp!  Don't touch, rub, nothing!

AnnieRoo13

To be honest I don't find belly touching that weird because my belly doesn't feel like a part of me. I know that's really weird to say, but I kind of forget it's even there until I look in the mirror or walk past a window and scare myself. I also wear a belly band under all of my clothes so I have an extra layer of protection.

missnacholover

Dana633 said:

This annoys the shit out of me!  I mean I don't go around touching people! Why just because we are pregnant, people feel the need to touch us?  I'm not a touchy, feely type of person!  This isn't an effin magic lamp!  Don't touch, rub, nothing!

Truth.  Even though there's a baby in there, it's still a woman's body.  You don't go around touching strangers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

marajay6

I've only had 2 people touch my belly without asking. Both were older woman that I know and I wasn't too upset by it.  And my friend's 5 year old asked if she could touch my belly and feel the baby. I let her, but the baby wasn't moving at that time and I felt kinda bad.

tigerpawie

I've had two who asked if they could touch and I graciously let them and warned them in advance that the baby is chill! When my BIL and SIL finally arrived to my house from Germany, BIL dove in and grabbed my belly before I could react, SIL tried but I angled away from her when I hugged. Ugh! ASK!!!

I went bowling with the in laws last Saturday night. FI and I showed up and MIL was so excited to show off my belly to her best friend and her mother, she tried to grab and (assuming) rub it. I quickly moved my huge purse in front to stop her and said no. FI told her that she should ask first and that I'm not comfortable with belly rubs. I feel incredibly bad for reacting that way but I felt like the attention was on me and I was uncomfortable with that. I told my friend about it and she pooh pooed my concerns. I told her that it depends on individuals and if she is fine with belly rubs so be it but *I* prefer that people ask first and I have personal space issues. I'm huggy only with FI and my kiddos.

Miss Holiday

I cringe anytime someone who is not my DH tries to touch my belly.
Everyone who knows me knows this is not ok.
My MIL is convinced that because I have a bump, the bump itself is her granddaughter and thinks this gives her the right to do as she pleases. It's awkward and uncomfortable and really pisses me off!
That's why I had my shirt made
I posted it once before, but will share again for this thread

Love4Science

I've only had two people touch my belly besides DH.  One was my hairdresser who's also my coworker and a woman I consider a friend, so I was OK with that.  The other was a coworker I'm not as close with but still like - she's like the school's Italian grandma (in everyone's business, but cares a lot about everyone) so I let it go (she brings me cupcakes from the culinary class, so, fair trade).

However, when I go back to school next week I expect a lot more problems.  Not looking forward to that.

jmichlik

The only people besides DH who have touched my belly thus far were my aunt and mother, and honestly even that pissed me off. My mom did it in the middle of my sister's wedding and just kept grabbing at me asking if baby was moving. No matter how many times I told her to stop she kept at it and I was really ready to smack her at the end! I'm actually a fairly laid back person most of the time and things don't bother me very often, but this just annoyed me to no end.

turtles7

I haven't had a stranger touch my belly yet and don't mind if friends, family or co-worker touch it. I never had the opportunity to touch a pregnant belly before I got pregnant so I've always been curious. Figured there will be others who are just as curious and ask co- workers if they want to touch if they ask if she is moving. Every time I ask they are really excited to touch.

shan24

We drove up to my parents' house for my shower this weekend. My mom has not stopped touching my belly. We went out to dinner and she was rubbing it in the parking lot on the way back to the car! I finally told her to stop and I think she was offended but I don't care.

hidingangel82

My parents were never affectionate people, so when they want to touch my belly, it makes me happy, it's kind of like an early hug for the grandbaby, lol.
I've had a few older ladies at work touch my belly, and they were so excited, it was hard to be upset.
I guess you could say, if they are invited to my shower, they are ok... strangers? Random package carrier or wedding guest? SO creepy and not ok!

MrsLillyG

I don't mind it.  I've had lots of people touch.  99% have not asked first.  I haven't had a stranger touch though. that would be weird.  I actually remember my cousin's wife complaining when she was pregnant about people just touching her belly.  The first thing she did to me when she saw me as a pregnant lady was grab for my belly. lol

highbornhunter

I think I must be giving off a vibe of "touch my belly and die" to strangers.  For the most part, the only people who have touched it are people I know - family, friends - and none of them have done more than a quick pat or a gentle touch.  No full on fondling or rubbing like I'm a Buddha, lol.  The closest was a someone at my husband's family reunion who I hadn't met before touching me. She was a sweet older lady and so congratulatory that I didn't mind too much, plus I didn't really want to be rude to my FIL's brother's girlfriend (follow that? I didn't and I wrote it) in my FIL's house.

Deardra77

shan24 said:

We drove up to my parents' house for my shower this weekend. My mom has not stopped touching my belly. We went out to dinner and she was rubbing it in the parking lot on the way back to the car! I finally told her to stop and I think she was offended but I don't care.

u r my hero! :-)

Cici3913

I wouldn't want people touching my belly when I'm not pregnant, I don't know why they think just because there is a baby in there that they can touch it whenever they want!! I have had multiple strangers touch my belly. So annoying. I don't mind if it's family or friends AND I have offered to let them feel her kick. But I don't like anyone just randomly touching me

meeshybee

So far I haven't had any strangers try or even ask. Maybe I've go the bitchy pregnant woman vibe, too. I've got my "Sorry, I'm not a Buddha" line ready for them, though!

MuchlyGen

The only person who touches my belly without asking is my mom. I love my mom so much and I'm glad she's excited about this grand baby... but it makes me so tense and irritable. She doesn't just touch, either, she /rubs/, and speaks in baby talk to my baby, calling her "Ellie Wellie." 

GRAAAAAAH RAGE. 

I don't know why it bothers me so much but it doessssss.

She finally felt the baby kick last night. I'm hoping that will satisfy her for awhile and diminish her need for invading my hamster ball.

shan24

MuchlyGen said:

The only person who touches my belly without asking is my mom. I love my mom so much and I'm glad she's excited about this grand baby... but it makes me so tense and irritable. She doesn't just touch, either, she /rubs/, and speaks in baby talk to my baby, calling her "Ellie Wellie." 

GRAAAAAAH RAGE. 

I don't know why it bothers me so much but it doessssss.

She finally felt the baby kick last night. I'm hoping that will satisfy her for awhile and diminish her need for invading my hamster ball.

Yep! That's what my mom does too! The occasional pat I don't mind, but it was like she was giving my belly a massage. In a parking lot. Too much, Mom. Too much.

Cici3913

shan24 said:

MuchlyGen said:

The only person who touches my belly without asking is my mom. I love my mom so much and I'm glad she's excited about this grand baby... but it makes me so tense and irritable. She doesn't just touch, either, she /rubs/, and speaks in baby talk to my baby, calling her "Ellie Wellie." 

GRAAAAAAH RAGE. 

I don't know why it bothers me so much but it doessssss.

She finally felt the baby kick last night. I'm hoping that will satisfy her for awhile and diminish her need for invading my hamster ball.

Yep! That's what my mom does too! The occasional pat I don't mind, but it was like she was giving my belly a massage. In a parking lot. Too much, Mom. Too much.

My mom kissed my belly today. Blech!!! Super awkward.

melsod

This is my 3rd baby bump & during my first pregnancy I quickly learned that people have no sense of personal space when there is a baby involved.  In fact, my husband's ex-wife even touched my baby bump with our first.  We are definitely not friends & she is constantly telling my step-daughter that she would like me to die (actual words) so I have no idea why she would even want to touch my bump.  It still makes me mad when I think about it.

I'm not a touchy-feely person.  If you don't sleep with me & I didn't give birth to you.... then don't touch me.

luvalways77

Glad I have not ran into anyone like that. That sounds so creepy. The only two people who have touched my belly is my MIL and my husband. I wish you had recovered faster to react, though, cause he deserved a slap in the face.