Went to the Funeral Home today.

diamante1181

I could not stop shaking in the director's office. We had to endure the torture of being asked a million questions for 'statistical purposes' (gotta LOVE Illinois laws). It took all of half an hour, but they kept referring to Phoebe as a Fetal Death. I damn near snapped, this is MY BABY. SHE MATTERED. She was a baby, who was born alive, and then left. Why is this such a difficult concept to grasp? *sigh* Now we wait for her pictures to come in the mail, and for her cremains to come back. This is so raw, I really am beside myself.

lexusolsen

I'm so sorry that they were so insensitive. I hate that place. I hope you can find some peace now that the decisions have been made.

stefuge

((Hugs)). Dealing with the funeral home was so so hard. So many ((hugs)).

ikrystal

I'm so sorry, going to places like that is never easy.  I hate those technical terms as well, because it takes away from who our babies were.  Hugs to you. 

CheesyPeas

((hugs)) I'm sorry, hon.  I had some blood work done yesterday, and the order from my doctor had the words "fetal demise" on it, and although I know that was the case, I agree that terms like that seem to take away from who they were.  Phoebe most definitely mattered.  She'll always matter to you guys, and to all of us as well.

bunnybun4

big ((hugs))

Manada

I am so sorry. This is a huge hurdle for me too, just trying to get people to understand that lost babies are babies, and little people. They are always part of our lives and our families, and phoebe is definitely part of the world, she matters.

forevermyfenix

I'm so sorry. All of those irrelevant questions and "proper terms" that are not proper at all. Our funeral director for Fenix thought it was appropriate to explain why his cremation was so much cheaper than other places because "we get the machine heated up with an adult first so you pay less to cremate a baby." took everything in us to maintain composure as I'm sure it was torture for you as well. I'm so sorry. This is so hard.

msunshine123

I am so sorry they were so insensitive. Huge ((hugs)).

Maybe Joleisa

Big hugs...Phoebe definitely mattered and is very loved.

healz413

What a horrible experience!
Our funeral home director was lovely and I still couldn't stand being in that room and answering those questions and talking about cremating Tavin and Casey.
Sending hugs to you and thinking of Phoebe!

thiscoffeechick

I'm so sorry you had to endure such a painful experience. Phoebe is most definitely a baby and she absolutely matters. The world is a better place because she was alive in it. (((Hugs)))