Ok ladies. (lady's), I'm at a loss here. How would you respond to this wedding invitation.
The invite was sent to just DH. Not even Mr. DH, just DH. The response card just says names with a blank and then number attending.
DH knows/grew up with the groom and I have met them both a handful of times at gatherings. (Mostly weddings) Not really close at all.
Here is my question: Am I invited? Is DS invited? From my knowledge of invite ettiqutte. Only DH is invited but that seems strange to me I guess. If they are just being really informal with their invites, does that mean me and DS are invited? Just DH and I? Just DH?
Maybe I'm overthinking it....
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I don't care to offend...and that's tacky, but so am I AND I would say bring the whole fam damily. It sounds very vague and if they wanted to limit it or have no children, I think it should have been included so I'd write all three names in the blank and go from there.
Edit:That IS IF you even want to go. I don't typically get excited about events that are for people I barely know...just sayin..
Seems weird that they wouldn't at least invite you since they've met you before. Our rule for our wedding was you only got a plus one if you were in an established relationship with someone. (We did have someone ask if he could bring a date, we said yes since he told us they'd been together for a while. We found out later he lied to us and didn't even end up bringing her).
If you're all that worried, I would call and ask them to clarify.
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However, my darling future SIL is planning her wedding and doesn't understand etiquette at all. She randomly put +1 on some people's invites and not others, based on if she thought they would bring a guest or not. Maybe this person just doesn't know any better?
Agreeing with PP's, names on envelope are invited. Should say "Mr. & Mrs.". I'd assume I wasn't invited. Tacky to not invite a spouse.
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I am with the apparent minority in guessing that since you are married, you are invited. I think this is a safe assumption because they were so informal in addressing the invitation to one head of household. And included that space for a number in attendance. ED: and names!!
The most recent wedding I was invited to was a friend from college who had prewritten "1" in such a blank space on the RSVP. Thought it was a good move to avoid this precise confusion ! !
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When my BIL and SIL got married, DH and I had been dating for 6 years, were living together, and I had vacationed with his family several times and spent holidays with them (and we lived out of town from them). The wedding invite was just addressed to DH, so I informed him that meant I wasn't invited. However, it turns out that DH's mom (who put the invite list together), my BIL and my future SIL didn't understand invite etiquette and just assumed I would be DH's date. I found it to be annoying, but they just were not informed of (nor cared about) etiquette.
If I remember correctly for my invitations I did inner and outer envelopes and specified on the inner who was invited. I think I used this from TK:
https://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/wedding-invitations/articles/addressing-wedding-invitations.aspx
Examples:
Mr. and Mrs. John Smith on the outer and inner would have said "Mr. and Mrs. Smith, John and Jane" if their kids John and Jane were invited.
Mr. John Smith on the outer. If Mr. Smith was in a commited relattionship I would put that person's name ont he inner too.....if he were allowed a guest it would say "Mr. Smith and Guest" for someone I didn't know.
Never just one person from a married couple though.