Mid-Week Chat!

lgsdesigner

It's time for a little mid-week chat!

How is everyone doing? Anything new this week (crappy or happy)?

***It doesn't have to be TTC-related either...let's just chat to chat!

Let's see-- this week has been good and bad thus far. 

The Good: AF came Sunday which means I am now in the 1st cycle of TTC! I also landed two new freelance clients that are going to bring in some decent cash flow! Woooot

The Bad: I was late to work on Monday and Tuesday. The school traffic in my area is horrendous, and I really despise it. This morning I left 25 minutes earlier than normal, and got to work at 8 on the dot. :::whew::: 

Also-- I have a friend who has been my friend for 8 years now. I love her to death, but she is really competitive at times. My bachelorette party is this weekend, and she said she couldn't go because her BF was out of town, and she had to watch her kids. Fine. I come to find out he WILL be in town, and she is going out with another friend to go tailgate for the first Ohio State game. Heart.broken. She did this because she is really jealous I am engaged. We both got divorced at the same time, and my guy proposed to me after 11 months of dating, and she has been with her man for over a year and no proposal. Now-- it can take years for a proposal, but we got engaged sooner because we want to start a family and because we were really ready for that next step. I don't think her BF is because he has been a bachelor his whole life, has dated at least 50 women, and takes things casually. I feel for her, but seriously-- you can't come and celebrate my engagement with me because you didn't get a ring yet? 

So WRONG.

kelley72

sorry about your "friend" jealousy is ugly no matter the cause  @lgsdesigner but great news for you on all other fronts!  

yes, this week has been crappy, but I'm giving myself today to yuck it out (started midafternoon yesterday so I give myself an allowed full 24 hours of pissyme) and then moving on!

I'm excited for the long weekend!  College football starts!  Yahoo GOOOOOOOoooo DAWGS! Sick'em! WOOF WOOF!  WOOF WOOF!  yes I'm one of those

lgsdesigner

@Kelley72- Thank you. It just breaks my heart. She never used to be like this, but recently, she has become a little snotty and crazy competitive. Hopefully-- the 'old her' comes back, one day.

I am also a big football fans! Ohio State, specifically. Go BUCKS!!!

tmorash

I'm with @kelley72 on this: jealousy really is one of the ugliest traits. We all suffer it at one time or another, and sometimes it can be hard to see past it, but it should take a back seat to your happiness, especially when it comes to such an important occasion for you, @lgsdesigner!

My week has been pretty good overall; taking a trip to the UK next week, which is occupying my thoughts quite a bit! First signifcant travel with the BF, and we're both really excited about it.

Also, I'm in my TWW, which is the other thing I can't stop thinking about. It would be so great to tell my best friend (who I'll be visiting in the UK) the news. But I can't help but feel not-so-hopeful about my chances this month.

It seems like a number of romantic relationships around me are breaking down or imploding, and I'm feeling pretty fortunate that me and the BF have a solid and happy thing goin'.

I don't know a thing about college football, but it sounds exciting!! 

Austrogermokee

Let's see - I have about ten days left on my vacation cycle, so I guess I'll be back on the letrozole crazy pony within two weeks.

I had a few friends act out when I was getting married, for different reasons. Sometimes it was jealousy, sometimes they just weren't wedding people and they didn't care, and sometimes it was fear. Getting married changes your friendships, and your friends sometimes become afraid of losing you. So they push you away by flaking out or acting bitchy. Either way, the easiest thing to do was dive at it, straight on - "I noticed you've been acting different - do you want to talk about it?"

I think men get weird about weddings, too. I was out on Saturday with DH, our friend, and his friend. Any time the subject or marriage or weddings came up, friend-of-friend started ranting about his friends' wives and what he loathed about them. Usually it was along the lines of, "and now he doesn't want to party every night any more." I wanted to be like, "Look, I get that you're almost 40 and your most significant relationship is with your porno stash, but COME ON. It's not the fault of women that your homeboys outgrew you. It's your own fault for being that sad middle-aged dude who won't let go of his youth." Instead I settled for going home early, ordering a pizza and drinking wine in front of the TV, because who wants to spend a precious weekend evening listening to some man-child work out his jealousy and immaturity issues? Ugh. Okay, I'll stop ranting now.

wannabmama23

@lgsdesigner‌ sorry for the crappy friend! I have one who never wants kids...and loves to pepper me with reminders of all the things I'll give up if I have them. The funny thing is, she likes being around kids and I think will even be happy for me, but she just has a stake in proving that childless by choice is the greatest, so she points it out all the time. It's frustrating bc usually I'd talk to her about this stuff but can't when she dismisses it all!

On the football front, I'm a huge football fan, do fantasy for pros and watch college like crazy (even though my team perennially sucks)...hubby and I got $400 in flight credits from a screwed up flight earlier in the year and are trying to find a good college game to go to! We live in New England and want to do just a weekend trip so have been narrowing down our options. He's never been to a big time stadium so he just wants a good game and atmosphere. I hope we can find one that's close enough and somewhat reasonable tix!

lgsdesigner

@tmorash- Wow...the UK? That would be a dream for me. Always wanted to travel somewhere cool, like that. I really hope you have a great time, and good luck in your 2WW. I hope this is your cycle!

@Austrogermokee- You know...you make a good point. Maybe I should ask her why she is being like that? I mean-- we have been through a lot together, and have leaned on one another for support many times, so for her to do a complete 180 and push me away like this? Well-- it hurts. I think once the wedding is over, I will talk to her. She is also upset I am TTC. She wants another child, but her BF doesn't want kids, and she is feeling a little depressed.

And LMAO at "Porno Stash"...bwahahaha!

My fiance's older brother is like that. He is a 42 yr old lifer bachelor who says "marriage is a downer" and "he just likes to f*ck for fun". Ummm...ok. 

Furthermore-- we found his brother's porn one day. They were NASTY "I'm losing my virginity to you" porn. Or "Teen" (really 18 yr olds acting like they are 15) porn. *gag* PERVERT.

@wannabmama23- Go to an Ohio State/Michigan game. You won't be sorry!

meredithcarole

@lgsdesigner‌ Sorry your friend isn't able to put aside her disappointment and envy to celebrate with you. Perhaps she is taking it much harder than she is letting on. Talking to her after the wedding is a good idea.

The good: I have almost completed the bathroom update I started in our master bath. I will post pics when it is totally done, probably Sunday.

The bad: I am not positive I am going to get my regular days off while my mother is visiting and she is upset about it (as am I). I need to talk to my boss today. It never occurred to me to request my normal weekend.

The ugly: I am trying very hard to contain my envy of my BF who is KU. She has her first OB appointment either today or tomorrow and I am avoiding inquiring because I know she is going to send me a sonogram pic and it will (literally) bring me to my knees. Not that I am not happy for her, but I am just profoundly sad for myself. Anyway, that's enough with the self pity.

kindershlitz

@lgsdesigner sorry about the friend thing.  Sounds like you are having a fun party so her loss and hopefully she does come back around.  You are going to show the cake, right?  

 Yea football! But I'm a Spartan and my husband is a Wolverine so it can get interesting. However we agree about the Bucks...

@meredithcarole, hope you are able to receive that text in privacy.  I was at a bday party for the 3 yr old last night and someone from the other side of the family announced a pregnancy in the other room. I don't really know them so I pretended not to hear, which I know is rude, but it stung for sure. 

good: DH has three days off next week! he gets so few we are looking forward to some travel

bad: forecast calls for rain  

lgsdesigner

@Kindershlitz - Oh you bet I will post cake photos! I will post some fun pics too. I will be wearing a really awesome red dress I bought for the occasion, so I will post pics of me in that, too.

MelissaMiso

The bad: I'm out again this month. AF came today...early. I left work early totally bummed out to wallow in a falafel and greek fries...and some ice cream. I'm going to cave and make an appointment with my OB/GYN to start getting things checked out.

The good: I start school next week

(edit: poor grammar)

shannonm97

Sorry @lgsdesigner to hear about your friend, 

The good: only one more day of writing lesson plans. Friday we have a school wide all day activity.  All the lessons are written for us. 

The bad: tested again this morning and still negative. I know it is still early, so haven't lost hope, but my butt is so sore from the pio shots that I really hope this is our month!