Hey Twin Mommas! clicky poll!

runningmama14

This is just for fun. I met a woman this weekend who is 20 weeks along and had just found out the day prior that she was having twins. It just got me thinking about how much that would have rocked my world that far along, then I felt silly because I can't even imagine before ultrasounds were standard practice.

So when do you find out you were having twins? Feel free to share how you think it would have changed your reaction to find out at a different point.

And answer even if your twins aren't this pregnancy!

runningmama14

Lol! There aren't that many. We'll just have to be patient!

But seriously, my brain still can't comprehend finding out about twins at 20 weeks. The lady had a Doppler she was using and said she had repeatedly picked up two heart beats. When she asked her doc, she just said that sometimes they echo. So she was kind of suspicious of twins going in.

mommymeg143

I can't wait to see the results.  Stuff like this intrigues me!!

scarlet3egonias

I voted as a twin mom even though we lost one at 14 weeks.

I had a viability scan at 5(ish) weeks and confirmed the pregnancy and all was good and normal.  Then went in for some light spotting at 8 weeks and they were like "well everything looks good, but there are TWO in there"  I about fell off the table.  I screamed some explicits like every mother of the year would.  I can't imagine finding out at 20 weeks - thats just plain crazy.

absolutelymaybe

We found out we had two sacs at 5w4d and two heartbeats at 6w4d. 

We did IVF and transferred two high-quality frozen blastocysts (one was a grade AA -- considered perfect -- and the other was an AB), so we had been preparing for the possibility. I don't think we were really all that surprised (I was more surprised it actually worked at all than there was two). I can't even imagine how it would feel for people who spontaneously conceived twins, though. 

so72409

We were injects+IUI IF'ers, so we knew there was a chance for multiples, but believe me, whether it's 6 weeks, 16 weeks, or more, it's still a jaw dropping, crazy experience to hear those words....and see those little beans/babes on the screen.  

I  have an acquaintance IRL that had spontaneous twins and they didn't find out until roughly 20 weeks.  Her MW said she was measuring ahead and sent her over to another clinic for an ultrasound.  They were beyond shocked to find 2 babies in there.  I can't even fathom finding out that "late"--it seriously took me from weeks 6-22 to finally grasp what the hell was about to happen!  Oh, and she had her babies at 34 weeks--giving her roughly 14 weeks to process/plan/prepare for twins.  It sort of sends me into a panic just thinking about that!

runningmama14

so72409 said:

We were injects+IUI IF'ers, so we knew there was a chance for multiples, but believe me, whether it's 6 weeks, 16 weeks, or more, it's still a jaw dropping, crazy experience to hear those words....and see those little beans/babes on the screen.  

I  have an acquaintance IRL that had spontaneous twins and they didn't find out until roughly 20 weeks.  Her MW said she was measuring ahead and sent her over to another clinic for an ultrasound.  They were beyond shocked to find 2 babies in there.  I can't even fathom finding out that "late"--it seriously took me from weeks 6-22 to finally grasp what the hell was about to happen!  Oh, and she had her babies at 34 weeks--giving her roughly 14 weeks to process/plan/prepare for twins.  It sort of sends me into a panic just thinking about that!

14 weeks! That makes me wanna break out in hives!

The lady I was talking to didn't say whether they were spontaneous, but from a few things she did say, I assumed they were. I wasn't about to ask and become the topic of rant thread on some other bmb somewhere about rude stranger who had the nerve to ask :-)

I do remember reading an article a few months ago about a couple who had surprise twins (like found out on delivery day at the hospital). She had 3 ultrasounds prior but because the type of identical twins they were, they shared a sac and must have always been right next to each other, so one was blocking the view of the other. That would panic attack time for me!

absolutelymaybe

@runningmama14 - I know it is next-to-impossible with all the monitoring I've had and don't really think it would happen, but stories like that make me worry I'm having triplets and they just can't see one. I have no freaking clue what I would do with triplets. They'd outnumber us. Not cool!

On one of the early ultrasounds, we were talking to the tech about whether they shared the same sac or not (they don't). So we said, in all likelihood, both of our embryos took and neither split, making them more than likely fraternal and not identical twins. She said something like, "Oh, well one still could have split..." and I started to panic. I told her "Oh my god! Please tell me there aren't three in there!" She laughed and said, "No, only two."

MsMolly520

We found out at 7 weeks. We did IVF (FET) and even though we transferred two embryos, it was still a shock. We transferred two the first time and had one baby (DS) so just figured that's what would happen this time around too. 

There was such a small window of time to get things done while I still had the ability and agility that I don't know what would have happened if we found out halfway through!

MrsC430

We found out at my first U/S with the RE @ 6w5d. Like @absolutelymaybe, it was more of a shock for us that IVF finally worked than it was finding out it was twins.

I can't imagine finding out at 20 weeks though! Crazy. My Dad is also a twin, and my Grandma has told me that back when he was born, she didn't know she was having twins until the second one (his twin sister) popped out lol. Surprise!

morrkim

absolutelymaybe said:

@runningmama14 - I know it is next-to-impossible with all the monitoring I've had and don't really think it would happen, but stories like that make me worry I'm having triplets and they just can't see one. I have no freaking clue what I would do with triplets. They'd outnumber us. Not cool!

On one of the early ultrasounds, we were talking to the tech about whether they shared the same sac or not (they don't). So we said, in all likelihood, both of our embryos took and neither split, making them more than likely fraternal and not identical twins. She said something like, "Oh, well one still could have split..." and I started to panic. I told her "Oh my god! Please tell me there aren't three in there!" She laughed and said, "No, only two."

I'm nervous about this too, but since our twins were spontaneous it's not likely. I was having a garage sale this summer and was talking to this lady who found out at her a/s and it was almost missed. The second baby was up in her ribs.

I found out at my dating u/s. The thought had crossed my mind because all my symptoms seemed more intense, but I took it as dealing with a toddler this time and each pregnancy is different. It was still a big shock when she said they were 2 sacs. Especially since there are no twins in my family.

Eta posted before finished.

so72409

runningmama14 said:

flutterbuggie said:

I do remember reading an article a few months ago about a couple who had surprise twins (like found out on delivery day at the hospital). She had 3 ultrasounds prior but because the type of identical twins they were, they shared a sac and must have always been right next to each other, so one was blocking the view of the other. That would panic attack time for me!

I seriously puked in my mouth while reading that. How freakin crazy would that be. I have a friend who's baby "girl" came out with a penis (after multiple time being told they were team pink). I thought that was crazy, a whole other baby is ridiculous!

Eta stuck in the box :-(

KatieOz920

I voted SS... I know this kind of sounds like BS, but I somehow knew before the first ultrasound. I'm an identical twin and I've been joking with my sister for a good 2 years that I would be the one to have twins (the idea of having kids scared me for a long time). When I got pregnant I just had it in my head that it was twins- enough so that I was silently coaching myself not to be disappointed if that wasn't the case at my first ultrasound. And sure enough the tech showed us 2 little gummy bears at 8 weeks My mom didn't find out with me and my sister until she was 7 months- that was her first ultrasound. But she knew something was up because she felt so much bigger than she did with my older sister

MsMolly520

absolutelymaybe said:

@runningmama14 - I know it is next-to-impossible with all the monitoring I've had and don't really think it would happen, but stories like that make me worry I'm having triplets and they just can't see one. I have no freaking clue what I would do with triplets. They'd outnumber us. Not cool!

On one of the early ultrasounds, we were talking to the tech about whether they shared the same sac or not (they don't). So we said, in all likelihood, both of our embryos took and neither split, making them more than likely fraternal and not identical twins. She said something like, "Oh, well one still could have split..." and I started to panic. I told her "Oh my god! Please tell me there aren't three in there!" She laughed and said, "No, only two."

This has secretly been one of my fears this pregnancy. And same thing -- I have no clue what I would do with triplets (plus DS!). I know with all the monitoring they would have caught something by now (I hope!). Just the thought gives me heart palpitations.  :-SS

so72409

Oh you would know if it was triplets :-) some good friends of ours have triplets-2 boys and a girl- all fraternal. There was no mistaking on her u/s! Then again, if there were IDs in there I could see how that would be easier to miss....

@KatieOz920‌ --are your twins ID or frat? That would be pretty cool if they were ID since getting spontaneous IDs is kind of like the lottery!

Amandakea15

I found out at 6weeks I had some spotting and really didn't know what was going on since at the time DD was 6 months. When the tech turned the machine and I seen two babies I started to hyperventilate. It was April 1 so I thought jokes on me. There is truth behind your body just randomly releasing eggs after you are recovering from delivery. My fiancé is a fraternal twin and his mother couldn't figure out why she felt like she had kicks under her ribs and her cervix at the same time. She didn't find out until 33 weeks then delivered 1 week later. I don't even know how I would have handled it had I found out later on.

zamboni00

We found out at 7w. We were waiting on AF to start our first IUI when I got a BFP instead. Went in for an u/s with the RE and even he was shocked. It was April 2nd, so, just like @Amandakea15, I thought it was a joke.

I'm not sure if I was more shocked that we were actually pg, or about the twins!

runningmama14

Looks my first poll option should have been named "confirmatory/dating"! That's where it's at for most of you! Maybe the fact that all the mommas on here found out so early is why the 20 weeker story surprised me so much!

Love seeing the answers and replies!

mb314

My friend didn't find out about twins until her anatomy scan!  The pregnancy wasn't planned either so it was a double shock for her! 

lisalynnmama

We found out early -- between 5 and 6 weeks -- because I was being monitored due to the hyperemesis.  Twins run in my family and no one in my generation had had them (and my family is one of prolific breeders!) so I fully expected to get them.  We are the last ones to have kids and I kept telling my husband to expect them.  I felt so vindicated when we saw the two babies on the ultrasound!  Ha.  

I have had several minor freak outs since finding out about having twins mostly because it sounds to daunting to take care of them along with a three year old, but I am mostly excited.  I cannot imagine finding out at 20 weeks.  That would have totally thrown my Type A personality for a loop!

runningmama14

KimmieS1756 said:

I found out at 6 weeks 3 days. I had gone in at 4 weeks 3 days knowing nothing except I got a positive pregnancy test but I had Mirena so I needed to get checked out. Doctors office pregnancy test confirmed I was pregnant and HCG blood draw confirmed I had high levels. Ultrasound that day did not show anything yet so they said I must be too early and rescheduled an ultrasound for 2 weeks later. Went in to the next ultrasound to check and make sure everything was ok and viable and 2 babies popped up on the screen instead of 1. I said a few things outloud that I don't think the techs ever expected a pastors wife to say.

Holy cow! Twins on mirena!  I would have made up new cuss words.