Im contemplating no baby shower..partly bc its so damn stressful, my mom makes everything so complicated and drove me insane with my bridal shower. Im 4 months along and its already starting. She means well but I can't take the stress, she can be really negative and often I wind up planning the entire thing. Honestly, I really don't like being the center of attention and I moved so I would need to travel 4 hours and lug everything back home anyway. My husband and I are waiting to find out what we are having so we only want the bare minimum which in some cases is quite costly (car seats, strollers, etc) so I feel bad asking people for big ticket items like that. My thought was to have a small lunch with only the women I am close to in my immediate family (mom, mother in law, sisters in law, a few cousins, no more than 10 ladies) with no gifts, just a nice time together and maybe have a larger party for the baptism with men and women later on. More low-key, baby is center stage, not me, no opening gifts. Is that totally weird/make me a crappy person to not have one? My husband worries Ill "miss out" but says I should do what I want. Is anyone else thinking of no shower?