I decided to re-post as I don't want to be misperceived as a horrible person based on what the responder wrote. I deleted because I am extremely sad about current family situation and was kinda shocked at the first response I received. I decided I wrote nothing wrong, so I will re-post. I apologize for deleting, but I am very emotional over my situation right now.
I have had a very horrible month with a variety of stressors and have shed alot of tears. Due to some family drama, 2 of my close family members who originally were planning on hosting a baby shower for me (not scheduled yet, just told they would be hosting one for me ) and I are not speaking terms. It has gotten extremely ugly which has been hard on me since we were very close.
Yesterday, my good friend offered to host a shower for me as she knows what is going on in my family. The mere thought of it lead me to tears as my family situation has been very ugly and hurtful. She knows what is going on in my family and she understood when I said I need to think about it.
The thought of having a having a baby shower without my family present would be extremely hard on me emotionally (and would inevitably bring up questions on that day from people who don't know what our going on). I am just not sure what I should do on accepting her gracious request.
I asked what people thought I should do (should I accept my friends offer) because as I (like many new first time moms do) could definitely use the items that ones often receive at a shower but not sure I can handle having a shower emotionally without my family present.
Me: 40, DH: 42
TTC: May 2013
TX: IUI #1 with Follistim. Canceled due to too many follicles (10 + that were large); BENCHED