I give up.

dani727

Would you consider watching porn with him? It can be fun...just sayin!

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sirisha716

My h goes against stereotypes too in a lot of ways .. He never watches porn. He is also weird about sex while I am pregnant n breast feeding. My porn watching days started because of those dry spells. I have a higher drive/need. Thankfully, this pregnancy has been better so far in terms of bedroom action.. But yes if he ever made my watching it an issue, my solution would be for him to give me more action.

When you are ok n driving it, if he still chooses porn over the real thing, then there is an issue.

jacqueleen1

Porn is no biggie to me. At this point i agree with many PP that I would rather he watch porn than try and have sex with me right now. If it is affecting your sex life on a seriously negative level you need to speak about it with him. But if your mad about it because your "jealous" he is watching naked women on movies then I think that is a different issue altogether. You need to talk to him, hear him out, let him hear you out. Is this a new habit? Or has he always liked watching porn once in a while and you have tried to change that fact about him. Nothing is going to be resolves unless a grown up conversation occurs. I wish you luck. 

lhill88

You have a good range of opinions already. I just wanted to send creepy internet hugs. I feel the same way you do. I'm totally against porn and strip clubs and DH knows it. Luckily, he's been very sensitive to my feelings when bachelor parties and whatnot have come up. There would be lots of tears if I caught DH watching porn.

I agree with pp about trying to get him to talk to you when you both have time at home. It's important he understand why you feel the way you do about it. Maybe that'll change his views too and be a little more understanding.

Whitfry

I agree that porn is a very couple by couple issue. There are a lot of people who have a major issue with it, and others who find it a great bonding experience that helps add spice to the marriage. I think that the main issue is making sure that the porn is not actually replacing you - and you will only be able to find out that answer through open communication with your hubs. 

Why was he watching porn in the first place? Is there something he gets from that that he doesn't feel he is getting from you for whatever reason? Is it just the quickest and most effective way for him to rub one off? Is he curious? Are there activities in the videos he watches that maybe you aren't interested in trying or that you haven't discussed experimenting with before? This could be a really good opportunity for you guys to have what may be a much-needed discussion about your sex lives and the level of satisfaction you are both feeling. 

I know my husband watches porn sometimes, so do I. And sometimes we watch it together. And sometimes we get new ideas to try out. Sometimes he watches it when I'm not home and then gets his rocks off, and sometimes I do the same. We're pretty open about it, but there have been times in which I have felt like he watches it too much or becomes too invested in it. That's when we have a frank conversation and come up with a solution. Usually that solution involves him watching it less and us upping the ante in our bedroom. I often find that when he's watching it a lot, it's out of laziness, lol. 

This doesn't have to be a huge stumbling block in your marriage, it could prove to be a really good opportunity to talk honestly and strengthen your relationship and sex life.