FFFC

nursewinnie

I've recently started watching Gossip Girl on netflix. The acting is horrible, and the plot lines are stale. And yet I still watch episode after episode.

zazu13

AprilMay9 said:

I'm sorry that just makes me so s

MissWhis said:

I started CIO tonight. Baby A fell asleep after about 25 minutes. I'm still watching & listening to Baby B thrash around and scream on the monitor at 47 minutes.

They are 5.5 months. (I don't know how many weeks.

Good thing these confessions are "flame free."

Yes it is, even though the above comment is a flame disguised as a comment. I am sad, too. I have my reasons and have done enough research to feel OK about my choice. For now...

Bluebird2318

I know you didn't go into detail, but please don't misunderstand what the "cry it out" method actually is. It doesn't mean letting them scream until they pass out. You have to go in and comfort them at regular, predetermined intervals, starting with small intervals and gradually extending them. 

zazu13

Bluebird2318 said:

I know you didn't go into detail, but please don't misunderstand what the "cry it out" method actually is. It doesn't mean letting them scream until they pass out. You have to go in and comfort them at regular, predetermined intervals, starting with small intervals and gradually extending them. 

Yes, I agree. That is what I have been doing. 3 min, 5min, 10m etc... decided to separate them into two separate rooms (probably should have in the first place) when Baby B woke up A. Now B is asleep in the other room and starting over with A. B s a squaker and a thrasher - even happy and awake. Scream might not have been the best term, but I know their cries and this is her mad squawk.  Thank you for offering suggestions.  I do welcome them.

Twins are hard and lately I've really sucked at it.

ETA: just did my interval check and B still asleep and A asleep. 

zazu13

eme520 said:

Just when I thought I was in for a boring Friday night...

You're welcome.

zazu13

eme520 said:

@zazu13 I can't imagine how hard twins must be. Hope it works for you. You certainly don't suck at being a mom!

Thank you. I just have sucked at enjoying it and sleep is a huge factor right now.  Doin' my best

smushi

AprilMay9 said:

I hate how every comment about formula is prefaced with breast is best. We get it.

But my tittays..... They really are just that awesome. Insert motor boatin' gif.

BiggerinRealLife

MissWhis said:

zazu13 said:

I started CIO tonight. Baby A fell asleep after about 25 minutes. I'm still watching & listening to Baby B thrash around and scream on the monitor at 47 minutes.

They are 5.5 months. (I don't know how many weeks.

Good thing these confessions are "flame free."

I'd say you were new 'round here, but then I checked your username. We've gone soft!

This isn't directed at the first poster, just a general inquiry about when our FFFC actually became flame free.

babym6705

It's a little late, but I use baby powder!!! ::gasp!!!:: I put a little on his bum during diaper changes and he has never had a rash. I think the whole it's a choking hazard thing is BS! (unless you are a moron who is pouring so much on that it creates a giant cloud of powder or you pour it in the baby's nose/throat.)

dmosquera4

i was telling hubby how ive been sweating lately and it doesnt stink (i used to stink really bad) and even the days that i dont shower it doesnt stink, he says you should take a shower everyday i got so pissed off and said mmmm yes i try but there is other things is my mind before showering, he said well you find time to go grocery shopping why dont you find time to shower or maybe when the baby is napping..... i told him he needed to shut up cause i was about to punch him in the face big time 

also he gets sat an sun and i still dont get a break from LO, then he ask why are you so cranky?

asshole i dont get a break or days off like you do so a "honey let me take the baby go take a shower or a nap" would be nice instead he goes ocd and starts moving shit around the house then i go, can you hold the baby? he says well i was about to go wash the cars, mmm no your not here you go and i went upstairs and went on my ipad. i mean fo realz

pbandjmom

My DH has been out of town for a week and then working non-stop at our rental apartments for a week. I am pissed that he's been gone so much, so I told him to give the baby a MOTN bottle so I could get some sleep. I knew it would be a disaster for him and I heard everything but just pretended to be fast asleep through it so he could have some of the "quality baby time" I've new having.

dmosquera4

@sandbridge1030‌ love it! Maybe I need to do that too!

nicole mackenzie

I feel slight resentment that I can't foster animals anymore

DH isn't comfortable with most behavior issues you see in a foster.

I have a baby now

Dogs like to bite my baby of an 80 lb German shepherd

My cat is friends with my dog so doesn't run or stay away from unfamiliar dogs like she should

So I can't foster dogs anymore even if it would save their lives....

Makes me mad, sad and frustrated

zazu13

eme520 said:

@zazu13 I can't imagine how hard twins must be. Hope it works for you. You certainly don't suck at being a mom!

Night 2 - 15 min of fussing followed by 10 hours of sleep ( for them, not me, since I checked on them every hour!) no regrets so far.

cd92007

@sandbridge1030‌ I know the feeling. DH is really great, but he cannot seem to get DS to sleep. Ever. This weekend I was a little frustrated that he got to sit on the sofa and watch TV while I tried (for over an hour!) to get DS to sleep so when he came in and offered to try, I said ok! I knew it was going to be a disaster, but I sat on the sofa and just listened. Sometimes they need a little help understanding how much hard work we moms do!

cd92007

zazu13 said:

eme520 said:

@zazu13 I can't imagine how hard twins must be. Hope it works for you. You certainly don't suck at being a mom!

Night 2 - 15 min of fussing followed by 10 hours of sleep ( for them, not me, since I checked on them every hour!) no regrets so far.

@zazu13‌ that's great!! I feel like I'm getting very close to the point of stepped CIO.. It takes me hours sometimes to put DS down

avidkeo

babym6705 said:

It's a little late, but I use baby powder!!! ::gasp!!!:: I put a little on his bum during diaper changes and he has never had a rash. I think the whole it's a choking hazard thing is BS! (unless you are a moron who is pouring so much on that it creates a giant cloud of powder or you pour it in the baby's nose/throat.)

Your not supposed to use baby powder?? FFS are we going to wrap all our kids in cotton wool in 20 years time, or will that be not allowed because of risk of germs!!

Its called common sense! I use a little baby powder, but I don't do the pouring thing, I tip a little into my hand and rub it on where needed - use WAY less that way anyway!

avidkeo

cd92007 said:

@zazu13 I can't imagine how hard twins must be. Hope it works for you. You certainly don't suck at being a mom!

Night 2 - 15 min of fussing followed by 10 hours of sleep ( for them, not me, since I checked on them every hour!) no regrets so far.

@zazu13‌ that's great!! I feel like I'm getting very close to the point of stepped CIO.. It takes me hours sometimes to put DS down

Honestly, stepped soothing was the best thing I ever did. No regrets. So I say if you are ready and think LO is, do it.

zazu13

cd92007 said:

zazu13 said:

eme520 said:

@zazu13 I can't imagine how hard twins must be. Hope it works for you. You certainly don't suck at being a mom!

Night 2 - 15 min of fussing followed by 10 hours of sleep ( for them, not me, since I checked on them every hour!) no regrets so far.

@zazu13‌ that's great!! I feel like I'm getting very close to the point of stepped CIO.. It takes me hours sometimes to put DS down

I'm sorry @cd92007‌
I was dealing with that, too, for both night and naps. We have had two good days now and I have been shocked at how little crying there actually has been at sleeptime. They were actually thrashing around in my arms before with me trying to rock them to sleep so that wasnt always no-cry anyway. I just put them both down for naps and one went right to sleep and the other rolled and squawked some and required one soothe/check- in then she went to sleep too. Do what you think is best.