Feel so b**chy- what can I do?

WildFlower2350

My husband is a bit of a workaholic.  He puts in nearly 70 hours a week give or take and often tries to be at his desk by 6:00am.  He chooses to go in at that hour, he is not required to by any means.  That being said...he sets his alarm for around 4:15 am on most days...yet he NEVER hears it or he repeatedly hits snooze for a good 30-40 minutes.  This has always driven me crazy b/c I don't normally wake up until 6:00-6:30.  Now that I'm pregnant I'm more tired and have a teeny bit less patience.  So I either elbow him and tell him to turn it off or get up.  As of late, I just sleep across the hall in the guest bedroom.  Its so sad to not be in the same room as him but he won't change his alarm to a later time.  Im so tired it throws me off to get that interrupted sleep at that hour.  Obviously when baby arrives I won't be sleeping at all but for now...what can I do?  Is it wrong to go across the hall for a decent night sleep once in a while?

MrsLaLaBug

either sleep in your room, chance your sleep being interrupted, and tolerate it(if he really won't change the alarm), or sleep in the other room, with no interruptions, and quit complaining.

MammaWolf7

Are you able to change his alarm for him to a later time? Will he notice if it's changed?

lookame3639

FI does this type of thing. Sets his alarm and leaves it go off for awhile, I elbow him and he either gets up or he sleeps until I really elbow him. It's not a big deal now because I get up with him to pump since i had an early baby then go back to bed. It annoyed me but I just got used to it after awhile.

AusDad

Your Husband sounds like he is really unreasonable. There is no way that I would do that to my wife (she is 17 weeks pregnant) and also has trouble sleeping at the moment, I do whatever I can to her get those few extra hours. 

The nights that I wake up early to watch football (soccer) I sleep on the couch or in the spare room so that I don't wake her unnecessarily 

The extra sleep is important for you and the babies growth

hopanka

Your H is selfish. Maybe he should go sleep in the guest room. Purposely waking up your SO after they explain it really bothers them is beyond rude. It's 4 am!

robsbabygirl08

My husband sleeps with a fan next to the bed and with my pregnancy congestion it is driving me nuts. He knows this, but won't turn it off. So I go sleep in the guest bedroom, or he does. I don't feel guilty at all. And neither should you. It's definitely not worth arguing over.

Maebb

I had this exact conversation with DH on Friday. He typically sets his alarm for 5 even though he snoozes until 5:45. And usually I have to elbow him to get him to turn it off because he will just sleep through it.

So I asked, "Could you please set your alarm for 5:30 so that you only snooze for 15 minutes instead of 45? I have a really hard time getting back to sleep when it goes off multiple times." He agreed. Maybe you could do some kind of compromise like that. If your H refuses, I would keep the comfy bed for me and make him sleep in the other room.

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allrightmeow

Is there some reason he can't move his ass to the guest room?  

runnergirl4

How rude - I'm sorry but that's just really inconsiderate. My husband has done this - once. I threw a fit. You are not being bitchy. He should either get up when the alarm goes off the first time or HE should go sleep in the guest room. 4 am is EARLY. You need your rest.

schnitz9

I can absolutely relate.  I actually work from 6 am-3 pm.  My alarm goes off at 4:30 and i lay in bed for 45 mins. My hubby gets a bit annoyed sometimes as he doesn't have to be at work until 8 am. Been doing it for a while so he's so used to it by now.  The difference is it is not my choice to be at work that early.  Those are my hours.  If it was my choice and I was inconveniencing my spouse I would be a bit more compromising.  Why are you in the guest room?  He should be in there if its that bad.  What kind of alarm is he using?  Is it the loud beep or music?  What about an alarm with sounds and having it louder?  It would be loud enough to wake him up but soothing enough to help you sleep.  

shellybean3788

I rolled my eyes a bit when I first read this post. Karma's a bitch.

Now my DH is doing the same thing. 

Instead of your standard alarm clock, he has chosen to blast "Harder, Better, Faster, Stronger" on his Ipod alarm system at 4:30 every morning, and he can't get up until he has listened to at least half the song.

I can now say, I feel your pain.