Is our relationship supposed to distract me?

lmtrmama

Hello! I am wondering about my relationship with my fiancé. He is WONDERFUL to my daughter and acts completely like a biological father to her. Our first child is due any day now...and I feel NOTHING. Nothing at all towards him. I don't know if it's just the stress I go through with my daughter's father, but I have zero passionate feelings or loving feelings whatsoever. I miss him when he is at work sometimes and that is about the extent of it. Do any of you feel the same way in a blended family, or is it just me? I feel so awful for even thinking these thoughts, but being a single mom was easier because I got to just hang out with my baby with no one else to distract my attention!

ambrvan

I don't think it's a blended family thing. I think it is a relationship thing. Everyone goes through ruts, but it is important not to become stagnant. However, I think in the last weeks of pregnancy, as long as you don't want to kill him, you're doing fine. Lol!

bayside14

This is not a blended family thing or even a relationship thing. This is just a *you in your relationship* thing. True, at the end of pregnancy, you're extremely focused on your baby and how your life is about to change, aches and pains, etc., but I gotta tell ya, I feel for your fiancé that you have no loving feelings for him at all. My only advice? If you're so caught up with the stress of your daughters father that you can't pay loving attention to the man in your life now, you're gonna wear yourself very thin. Let. Him. Go. Focus on your future and what's right in front of you!! Good luck!

lmtrmama

Thank you both!  Your advice made me cry a little...which is reminding me that this is probably hormones! lol!

bayside14

Definitely hormones!! Give yourself a break and don't think so hard about it all right now

mrsroylong

It's probably hormones! Just wait till you see him with your guys new baby! You will swoon!