Going out

bridetobe9132013

So I have no desire to go out and do anything. I am perfectly fine sitting at home with my daughter. I do enjoy occasionally going places but I usually am ready to go home within a few hours of being out. Is this normal? I always see posts about moms joining mom groups to get out and I worry there is something wrong with me because I don't want to.

flockofmoosen3

If you are unhappy then it's a problem. Like, you are feeling lonely or dissatisfied something. If not, then you're fine. I would, however, consider joining a group if only for your LO's sake. I think it is good for kids to get plenty of interaction with other kids even before school begins, despite a parent's personal feelings about going out. Maybe you can go places where he can just run around and play with others but you don't have to interact with other ppl?


I joined a mom's group (im very anxious about that stuff sometimes) to force myself to interact with adults other than my husband since im staying at home now. For me, it keeps me connected to the world.

bridetobe9132013

I think once she gets older I will definately go out to get her out. Does it benefit a 3 month old any? We do go out to the store and occasionally a friends house but I just prefer to stay home! I do feel anxious, stressed and sometimes sad though

bridetobe9132013

I did have a friend over today and all she wanted to do was one up me with what her 5 month old does!

delatl

I'd love to get out but my baby is fussy and it's hard to take her places. My pedi told me there was no reason to go out at this age except for your own sanity. She gets plenty of stimulation at home.

usernewname

bridetobe9132013 said:

I think once she gets older I will definately go out to get her out. Does it benefit a 3 month old any? We do go out to the store and occasionally a friends house but I just prefer to stay home! I do feel anxious, stressed and sometimes sad though

Depends on your LO. DS starts getting squirrley after a couple days at home. And so do I. Even a walk with him helps us both. He likes to get out and about. 

Is there something that makes you anxious about going out? A what-if?

bridetobe9132013

A friend of mine has 2 boys ages 1 & 2 so I feel anxious if we go there because they are very rough with little one so I cant put her down. My house isn't baby proof so they destroy my house if they come over. I guess I get anxious with her around other kids.

flockofmoosen3

I understand your fear there...if it's encouraging for you, I took my girl to a library event at 2.5 months old. I held her the entire time but she loved just looking at everyone around her, and two different toddlers actually brought toys to her so she could play. I thought it was so cute and sweet of them.

thefussybunch

I'm with you @bridetobe9132013. But I don't feel like joining groups or going places because my DD hates the car. It makes going anywhere really difficult. She's not sleeping well either, so we're both tired and grouchy. Right now it's best for everyone if we lay low for a few more months.

bridetobe9132013

Its nice to see the different opinions! Im happy to know others like to stay in also but its encouraging hearing that others have great experiences going out Kailey is doing better with car rides and only cries when the car stops. She used to scream constantly in the car. The past few days her reflux has been acting up again so that's another reason why i'd rather stay home!

sisterjanet

Our library has a baby story time once a week.  Something like that might be a good idea if you have it.  Then you're getting some out of the house time/practice, some early literacy tips, and some interaction for you and for your baby.

Jennyinheaven

Can I interject a question, What do you do with your baby all day at home? I don't mean this rudely I am genuinely curious. Today we dont have anywhere to go until 12ish and right now Im at a loss. We have woken up, got dressed, ate twice, played on the floor/playmat, read a story and played in pack n play with minnie toy, now what?

hatrats

We get out to go to the store and stuff, but in general I prefer staying home because it's kind of a pain to get all ready to go, and then there's always the risk of her crying, and the logistics of getting her into my front carrier or lugging the heavy infant seat around.  Unfortunately, I have to go back to work in a couple of weeks, so she will get plenty of socialization at day care.

flockofmoosen3

My trips out with baby girl are not always smooth, just to clarify. For one, the biggest disadvantage to EBF and having very little stored BM is that when we are out for a long enough period, she has to eat. This means either BF in the car for 30min before even entering the store, or finding a suitable chair in the store that I use for 30min while I'm anxious to keep moving. And then if she gets over tired she screams for 5-10min the car on the way home until she falls asleep. All I can do is hope the ride puts her to sleep, but if I have passengers back there with her, it's too distracting and she can't sleep and just screams instead.

Despite all this trouble, I still go out whenever I have the chance (usually immediately after a nap and meal). We have a Graco travel system so she stays in the car seat in her stroller or I have practiced using the chicco carrier at home so I am good at that by myself.

I think im best described as an introverted extrovert. I love being in crowds but I hate talking to ppl and im terrible with small talk. am always iimpressed with ppl who seem to know just what to say.

Sorry this got long! Enjoy staying home! Watch any good movies or shows to recommend?

ETA: autocorrect

bridetobe9132013

@jmcdyer‌ I am the same way! Not a talker. Kailey wakes up between 7 & 8am. I keep a formula container in her bathroom upstairs so I feed her in her rocking movver in her room, then we come downstairs and I put her in the swing or bouncy chair to keep her upright after eating. I usually make my coffee and breakfast at this time. I get her out and give her time on the floor (she loves her playmat) and read to her. Then we kind of repeat throughout the day. Eat, play, sleep. I do make sure to talk to her alot and give her lots of time on the floor to move!

pistolpackinmomma

I go out because my kids (especially the toddler) get antsy when we don't go somewhere. I've noticed naps for both kids are better if we at least go for a walk.