Husband missing everything

Lizzymurillo12

So my husband is in the army and he is at a training where I can't be with him. In the beginning of my pregnancy it wasn't so bad. Now that our daughter is moving and people can start to feel her it's harder because he's not here.

His training ends in November 3 but he can only be here till December 12 my baby is due December 8 what if he misses the birth. I know he wants to be here really bad but the birth of a child is really unpredictable then to add the military on top of that damn I have no idea.

racheldiaries

I'm really sorry. I'm potentially in the same position of DH missing birth due to training and know positively he will be missing our daughters first year, well majority of it. He's Navy.

We decided on a joint Christmas present of purchasing a nice quality camera so I am able to document everything while he's away. I plan on being some what crafty and putting together albums and DVDs for him so although he won't be here physically to see things as they happen, he'll be able to see her grow through the documentation. 

Maybe that is something you could throughout the rest of your pregnancy? Create videos of catching LO moving around, vlogs of how you're feeling and how doctor appointments go, videoing how the nursey is coming along, ect.

I hope your LO decides to show up on time. 

taylojade57

Would you consider getting induced early? Some of the doctors around here will induce any time after 38 weeks for a legitimate reason... Or (worst case scenario) could your mom or close friend record the birth for you?
I'm in slightly the same boat. DH gets home in a few weeks, and is scheduled to deploy again a few weeks after LO is born. If baby decides to come late or the Navy decides to ship him off early (which has happened before), then there is a chance he won't make it either.
Keep your chin up, it will all work out!

Annya26

Sorry that you are dealing with this! 

I think that planning for the worst and hoping for the best might be required in this situation. As someone else suggested, a really awesome camera might be a great idea. Or you could hire a birth photographer to attend and document it for him. 

My partner wasn't at our son's birth, and it is a hard pill to swallow. The slideshow from that birth was probably one of the best gifts I could have given him though because it was as close as he would ever get to seeing and experiencing it. 

(Or maybe your husband could Skype/Facetime in?)

soulcupcake

It can be stressful. Like the pp said, you can plan for the worst and hope for the best. My first husband missed my first daughter's birth, and he arrived home for R&R the day before I had my youngest (he left when I was 4.5 weeks). 

There was a good chance he was going to miss his birth, but he tried to time his R&R right so he could make it.

Shortstack06

I can't imagine what you are going through. One of my best friends married her high school sweetheart right out of school and they have been stationed 3 different places, her daughters were born in Hawaii and he was there but the rest of her family couldn't be and she took it hard. I wish I could say it got easier for her, but she is preparing for his deployment that happens next year.

I would like to say Thank you though for him serving and the unfortunate sacrifices you and your child are going to make for us as a country.