Pregnant with baby number two!!

nymom1015

We just found out this morning, I'm pregnant with baby number two. We have a 17 mth old little girl. I'm happy they will only be two years apart. I'm just starting to panic about being a full time working mom. It's hard enough with one. I work a stressful job. I'm out of the house by 7 am and not back in the house until 7:30 because I commute to manhattan everyday. There's no way I can find something closer to my home on the same salary. Being a stay at home mom isn't an option right now. Luckily, my husband sells insurance and he's home two days during week-days. So te other three days the babies will be in daycare from 7 to 6:30, my husband will pick them both up. I just feel so guilty, sometimes I just feel like a weekend mom . Can anyone relate? Any tips/ advice? Thanks all!

rodiesmum

Congratulations on baby#2. There is no such thing as a weekeend mom bec when youre home by 730, you start your 'second shift'. Besides you are working because you need to provide for them.
Youll find your new groove after delivery and when you get back to work. It will be hard and overwhelming at first, but ladies here have done it and are doing it great. All the best.

MommyAtty

I had #2 4 months ago, and mine are just under 2 years apart. I also work a very demanding, stressful job. It's rough, but it's completely workable. I think I hit my groove again much more quickly this time, and my kids are thriving, happy, and healthy. That's what matters.

potbellypig

Congrats, very exciting morning for you!!

Regarding guilt, I heard this quote once and tell it to myself daily: "Behind every great kid is a mom worried she is doing everything wrong"

2 kids 2 years apart here. Went back to work when baby was 4 months. What made life easier for ME:

- formula feeding. I breastfed #1 and for a variety of reasons chose not to this time. I find it easier.

- frozen/easy/crockpot meals

- cleaning lady

- getting a sitter to come one evening a week so that I can, while at home, tidy, work out, study etc. DD thinks sitter is her friend as I'm still home, but I get stuff done (DH works insame hours and I'm by myself a lot otherwise).

- ALWAYS MULTITASKING

You definitely will hit a groove, but it can take a while. Good luck and congrats again!

nymom1015

thank you all so much, this really helps a lot, sometimes i feel like I'm alone - I dont know other moms who work such a hectic job with long hours.   Most of my friends are teachers, and they all say "I don't know how you do it" or "I could never do that with kids".  I'm like Thanks alot, "friends" lol.  

BabyHope2013

@danielleM1981 I feel the same way. I am out the door by 630-745 am and don't get home from daycare pick-up until after 6 p.m. I'm on my own till usually almost 7 p.m. most nights and manage to get DS bathed and dinner on the table every night. But don't feel alone. I don't know  how I do what I do every day, but I just don't think about it and somehow it all gets done. 

We don't have a second child yet, but hope to get pregnant sometime in the next few months. I wouldn't stress about anything yet. You still got nine months to just keep doing what you have been doing.

nymom1015

I really shouldn’t haven’t made the “weekend mom” comment.  Because you’re all right.  Although I get home, as soon as I set foot in the door, my LO is right there with her arms open ready for me to pick her up,  then we eat dinner, I change her, and we read a book, and usually fall asleep together. 

I’ve tried looking for jobs closer to home, even with a $10k paycut, that’s how much I can afford, but it’s so hard in Long island to find anything even close to what I make in Manhattan. I’m in the fashion industry so I think Manhattan is the place for me.  Maybe when they start school, something will change.  Of course I stress over that A LOT, how I want to be there for them more when they start school, but I guess I’ll cross that bridge as it gets closer, I still have 4 years for that lol.

blessed2585

Congrats on baby number 2 that is exciting. I can understand your feelings, take one day at a time and things will work out. I will keep you in my prayers!

TheBorg7of9

Working mom of two here. My sons are 22 months apart. I'm actually finding the second baby easier because I know it will get easier quickly. Anyway, I am a lawyer. I leave work at 5:30 then do an hour or two of work after their bedtime. Is that possible for you?

litzo27

Congrats!! I'm a mom of 3 although thankfully with a shorter commute. But I can definitely related to the stress and the guilty feelings. Don't worry - you'll do great! Do you commute by train? I know tons of finance people who live in LI and commute to Manhattan and do a lot of work on the train. Can you do something even if it's drafting emails or planning your to-dos? Even if you can't do work maybe you can do some stuff like shop for groceries to be delivered, do your Amazon shopping or clothing shopping, organize photos?