Hi all! New to this group, but it seems the perfect place for some advice about this situation:
I have medical complications that mean having a
healthy baby naturally would be very difficult. My BFF and I have
jokingly talked about her and my DH having s** and her carrying the
child and then giving it to us. This was just a fun joke we had over
drinks one night. Well, she very recently brought it up again and said
in all seriousness that it is something she would do for me. Obviously
the s** with my DH would not happen, but it would be done through
artificial insemination - her eggs, DH's sperm.
I figured DH
would quickly say no and we'd move on, but when I mentioned it, he was
much more receptive to the idea than I anticipated, so now it's
something we're seriously talking about. As this is completely uncharted
territory for me, I thought I'd get some practical, unbiased advice
from you girls.
Some answers to potential questions you guys might ask:
- My BFF already has a 4 yo daughter, who is healthy, adorable and smart. - She was married, but is now going through a divorce. She is seeing someone, who also has a daughter. -
We would definitely involve a lawyer to draw up any formal contract
prior to conception and after the baby was born, I would formally adopt.
DH would obviously not have to worry about that. - She and I have been friends since we were 7 or 8 years old, so this is not a passing friendship. -
DH and I have talked about adoption, but decided not to due to the
costs, low chance of getting a child (at least within a few years) and
the fact that DH really wants one of his own/his blood. IVF was also talked about, but again, the costs, low chance of working and the risks/complications...
have any other questions, feel free to ask. I'd love to just hear
people's thoughts on how this could work or even if you think it