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Louie4real

Ladies! Hello!

I need some advice: so I have a choice to make coming up...I'm going back to finish my BS degree. I'm going back full time, and my mom offered to move me and the kiddos in with her so she could help.

Pros: I love my mom. We lived together fine two years ago when I was on bed rest. I could help out with her honey-do list since my dad died. I wouldn't need to work full time or worry about finances so much. She would help with child care for the younger two when my oldest is in kindy. And, I could finish faster...

Cons: I'd be giving up my single freedom. I love having my own place, and I'm proud of the fact that I'm making it on my own. I'd have to be a landlord again, as I would rent this place out.

Halp.

notkateanymore

I would move back in with your parents in a heartbeat.

Louie4real

Nursing, with an emphasis on public health.
I'm so close! I have about a year and a half of the core program left if I can swing going full time.

Louie4real

I would feel weird living at home again, like I failed at being a grown-up....but if I don't do it I'm looking at working nights, school in the afternoons, and being a mom somewhere in there. I don't think I can do it on my own and be sane.

orangegoggles

I would absolutely move in with your mom if you can finish your degree faster. It will make your life sooo much easier in the long run. Provided you have a good relationship with your mom, go for it! 

Louie4real

Kimbus22 said:

Louie4real said:

I would feel weird living at home again, like I failed at being a grown-up....but if I don't do it I'm looking at working nights, school in the afternoons, and being a mom somewhere in there. I don't think I can do it on my own and be sane.

Speaking as someone who barely survived working nights with one kid and is currently frightened of doing it with two, I'd die if I added school.

I've done it before...which is why I am considering giving up my fabulous single life to live with my mommy. :::twirls around nekkid:::

I just want the kids to feel stable and secure, and not like we will be uprooting every six months or so.

Louie4real

@MrsMuq‌ ...you're totally right. I was a lab tech working 12 hour shifts and going to school before I stayed at home for a year. I just can't do that as a single parent. If my mom is willing to help, I should/have to take it.

Louie4real

I'm just kind of realizing slowly that I can't do it all. It's a tough thing to come to, but honestly...I don't know how else to make it work. To be more financially stable, I'd have to work full time. To work full time, the kids would have to do daycare full time...at almost $4,000 a month. I'd have to be a damn neuro surgeon to afford that on my own.

I'm currently fine, I work just enough...I go out with friends, I save a little, but I want to be more than fine. I want more for my kids than "fine". I want fucking fabulous