Letting one fuss without waking up big brother

jchytil

Hi everyone  I have a little girl who is about to turn 1. She does not consistently sleep through the night its hit or miss. However we are ready to start doing some modified sleep training. Her room is right next to my sons room. With my son around the age of 1 we started to let him fuss a little more at night to let him try to go back to sleep on his own which worked. However with my little girl she is very loud! and if I let her fuss she starts screaming so loud so of course I run in to soothe her because I dont' want her waking up big brother. How did you guys handle letting your youngest try to put themselves back to sleep with out waking up a sibling in the same room or a room that is close? 

bookworm982

Usually my 25-month-old DD is a wonderful sleeper and sleeps through any noise my 12-month-old DS makes. DS still feeds multiple times a night on bad nights, and she hardly ever wakes as he fusses and I go in and out of their shared room. DS has to put up with DD talking to herself as she falls asleep, but he never wakes either. (DS goes to bed first.) The first night they shared a room was tough, but within two days they both became sounder sleepers and rarely hear the other throughout the night.

Last night, DD had a diaper leak, and in the process of changing her and the bedding, she woke too much. That started 2.5 hours of crying for one thing or another before she finally fell asleep. DS slept through the first 2 hours of it (even as we were in and out to try various things like songs, holding DD's hand, a midnight snack, etc.). It was rough, but it was doable and way worse than anything we face on a usual basis or you should face sleep training your DD. I just share the experience to show how soundly kids can sleep even in the same room as a crying sibling.

Honestly, the benefit of getting your DD to learn to sleep well will probably outweigh having to teach your DS to sleep through more noise (if he even wakes). Both will be better sleepers in the end for it. Just make sure you can get a nap in if you have a couple rough nights in the process.

krazyinsane

DD#3 was still in our room until last month and waking pretty much every night but was no longer nursing just wanted in the bed with DH and I. I moved her bed into the girls' room after an especially rough night. She has slept through the night ever since!!! The bigger girls can get up and go potty and all without her waking up!
I think my snoring was waking her up to come to bed with me!! LOL

I wouldn't run right in to calm her since that's not teaching her to self soothe which is sort of what it sounds like you want. I'd pick a Friday night and do it so you have the weekend to get everybody used to the new arrangements.

jchytil

Thanks guys for the input I think we will try this next weekend and see how it goes.