I have not been very active in this board, but I am always checking the posts here for new ideas and suggestions or just seeing what experiences some of you are sharing. For a quick intro; My husband and I have decided to go for adoption after trying for very long to have our own child. We always wanted to adopt at least one child, but never thought it would be out only choice. In anyway, we are very happy and excited specially because with the adoption process, you know that you will have a child at the end. Eventually, that does happen.
First we thought about infant adoption, but the more I thought about it, the more I got scared. We have heard planty stories of moms that were matched and at the day they were going to get the child, something happens and all of the sudden they are back to zero. I dont know how I would react to that. I can only imagine that is extremely devastating and I dont think I can do it.
We thought about foster to adopt. The idea was a child or two under the age of three. BUT then I thought about what the program really is. Our country really try their best to get the kids reunited with the birth parents. What if I was with the child/children for months and then the birth parents are able to get them back?
I think it is pretty clear I am terrified of losing my child... I want to have a forever child! My husband really wants to have a child...We want to complete our family so bad.
Anyway, now I just learned about the "Minnesota Waiting Children" program. Those are kids already available for adoption. There are some younger kids, but most of them are older. Then we thought and thought adn thought a lot about it. What if we adopt a child who is up to 6 years old? How would it be?
I would like to ask all of you if you have adopted an older child. How old was he or she? How was your experience? Was it extremely hard?
Are there any more programs you guys would recommend?
In my heart, I believe that God is drawing our way to a special child. I know that somewhere out there, there is a child who needs us just as much as we need he or she. We just need to find wherever he or she is and we need help with that....
Thank you so much everyone and I cant wait to hear some stories and suggestions.