How to break it to family that we won't have a big birthday party?

FutureRitchie

So I am 31 weeks pregnant and my son will turn 3 in a month (so I will be 34-35 weeks.) My family and in-laws are expecting a big birthday party but I do NOT feel like cleaning/hosting this year. I would consider having the party elsewhere, but there is nothing near us (we live in a small town in east Texas) and then everyone would want to stay the night and not make a day trip since they live 3 hours away.

Any way to break it to them that we won't have a party this year?

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carryon23

Just tell them you won't be having one.  DD turns 4 on 9/14 - 10 days before my EDD. We are having her party at her gym class on 8/23.  I am very thankful we have the option to not have it at my house.  When I was pregnant with DS in 2012, I was about 34 weeks along and had just immediate family and a few close friends over for DD's 2nd bday.  It was rough......I wouldn't do it that way again.  DS will be 2 on 10/24.  My plan right now is to just do something with immediate family.

bohemianlc

Regardless of what they may think, you don't owe anyone an explanation. If you really feel like giving them a reason, just tell them it's too much for you to throw a big bash at this point in your pregnancy, as @dragonmom35 suggested, and leave it at that. But honestly, I really don't think you even need to say that much.

megs2011

Like pps have said, just tell them no. They are grown ass adults that should be able to understand.

My girls 2nd bday is 8 days after my EDD. They will be getting 2 small family and close friends parties (my parents and inlaws don't get along so I'm keeping the separate). They had a big 1st year bash last year.

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jaminjeff

My DS' birthday is 11/11.  I'll have a c/s by 11/21.  I've already told my family they can come over for pizza and cake (both that my husband will order and pick up) on a Friday night.  I then told my MIL that she can have whatever she wants (she'll go all out) at her house on Sunday afternoon for my DH's family.

His first two birthdays we had large parties, but that's because of the family size.  I figure we'll be back to that next year, doing joint parties for the two of them.

See if anyone else wants to have something, particularly if they seem offended that you're not up for it.

JSS1002

I don't think you have to tell them anything.  Just don't schedule a party.  The end.