It had to be done, but I'm still sad

myskyegirl

We couldn't take care of our cat anymore.  With the baby we just didn't have have time for her and she didn't have the space to run around like she used to.  She was being fed, but not loved the way she should be.  So we decided after I tried and tried to re-home her with someone I know, hubs had to bring her to our vet who has a shelter. 

I wasn't with him when he did it and I'm glad, but I'm still very sad. My poor Gypsy, I will always love you and miss you.  

theseaword

Ruh roh

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Oh.  Yeah, a shelter is way better than the home she is used to.  She will get all the love in that cage.  Good call.  

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Oh.

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But really, did you post this just to cause a stir on the board? 

Has it been slow lately?

Not enough shopping cart talk?

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pobrecita said:

I honestly think she has no clue.

myskyegirl

She needs attention and love, not just food.  I miss her, but someone will love her and take care of her the way she deserves.  That I don't feel selfish for.  

Not my cat, she is very affectionate and loves to cuddle.  We had to move in with my mil who has a dog that hates cats and my cat was relegated to the front hall, where at our apt she had the run of the place.  So no I don't feel bad that I want her to have a better life than what we are able to give her right now.  So give all the attitude you want, but I rather my Gypsy be loved than put to a hallway and only fed. 

Pips09

prncebride said:

She needs attention and love, not just food.  I miss her, but someone will love her and take care of her the way she deserves.  That I don't feel selfish for.  

Really? Who?

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prncebride said:

She needs attention and love, not just food.  I miss her, but someone will love her and take care of her the way she deserves.  That I don't feel selfish for.  

You sent her to a shelter to live in a cage and possibly be euthanized.

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How much love is she getting in that shelter cage?  

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And you supposedly tried to find her a home and no one wanted her.  So how much luck does this vet have in rehoming?  

You are seriously lying to yourself if you truly believe she's better in cage waiting to die.

myskyegirl

DragonBlood13 said:

prncebride said:

She needs attention and love, not just food.  I miss her, but someone will love her and take care of her the way she deserves.  That I don't feel selfish for.  

You sent her to a shelter to live in a cage and possibly be euthanized.

She not being enthanized, we brought her to our vet.  She's not going to kill a healty cat. 

myskyegirl

She NOT IN A CAGE.  We brought her to our vet who said she would find her a home.

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Hopefully the vet will euthanize quikcly instead of letting her languish in a cage all scared and alone. 

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prncebride said:

She NOT IN A CAGE.  We brought her to our vet who said she would find her a home.

You are seriously dumb.  There is no other explanation at this point.  

MrsT0514

Everything about this upsets me. There is absolutely no fucking way a shelter is a better life for your adult cat than the home she's used to.

As a cat owner, I can honestly say cats are pretty independent creatures. As long as their fed and housed, they're pretty well off. Im sorry but I wholeheartedly disagree with your decision to stick her in a shelter. Just a bad call, IMO. sad.

myskyegirl

Get it all our of your systems.  It's ok, burn me all you want. I know I did the right thing.  

I WAS wrong to think that you all wouldn't think I was a monster, that I should have known better on. So get it all out so things can get back to normal.    

Pips09

prncebride said:

She NOT IN A CAGE.  We brought her to our vet who said she would find her a home.

Our vet keeps our dog (and all the animals)in a cage when she's just there for the day for a procedure. Where do you think they are going to keep your cat for a long term stay? Just let her roam around the exam rooms?

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What cats need to be happy:

Food

Water

A place to sleep (doesn't even have to be comfy)

A litter box

And maybe a couple minutes of petting a day.

THAT'S ALL.

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Seriously though.  What did you think we would say?  

You didn't do the right thing.  You have time to make it right.  

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Do you honestly believe the cat is not in a cage at the shelter?  Where do you think the cat is while there waiting?  

How long does the vet keep the cats that aren't adopted?  What happens if a cat isn't adopted after that time frame?  

Did you ask these questions?  

SpaceGirlSpiff

We had our one cat who was very clingy to us when I was pregnant with DS, and we decided to get a second cat right before he was born to be a companion to her since we knew we wouldn't give her the same level of play and attention.  We didn't just get rid of her.  It worked out well, they love to play together.

Cats really are so easy compared to dogs... food, water, litter box, a little bit of interaction (like... little bit) and a place to sleep.  We manage to do it now with two cats, a toddler, a baby on the way and a small 2bedroom shoebox of an apartment that has no real space for them to run.

Please go get the cat... it is highly unlikely an adult cat will be re-homed and chances are good she could be put to sleep.... in the meantime, she is alone and in a strange place.

ETA: And yes, she's in a cage.

myskyegirl

I just wanted to say thank you ladies for making me feel like a piece of shit.  I think I've been lambasted enough, but thank you for making me think I gave my cat up to satan, it's much appreciated. 

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I am not sorry for telling the truth.  And you are welcome for making feel as you deserve.

mstal0929

SpaceGirlSpiff said:

We had our one cat who was very clingy to us when I was pregnant with DS, and we decided to get a second cat right before he was born to be a companion to her since we knew we wouldn't give her the same level of play and attention.  We didn't just get rid of her.  It worked out well, they love to play together.

Cats really are so easy compared to dogs... food, water, litter box, a little bit of interaction (like... little bit) and a place to sleep.  We manage to do it now with two cats, a toddler, a baby on the way and a small 2bedroom shoebox of an apartment that has no real space for them to run.

Please go get the cat... it is highly unlikely an adult cat will be re-homed and chances are good she could be put to sleep.... in the meantime, she is alone and in a strange place.

This exactly. It's breaking my heart just thinking about it! poor thing 

Rach7170

This place is weird today. Also, where do you think the vet is keeping her? Letting her roam around the shelter or IN A CAGE like all other shelter animals? OMG

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prncebride said:

I just wanted to say thank you ladies for making me feel like a piece of shit.  I think I've been lambasted enough, but thank you for making me think I gave my cat up to satan, it's much appreciated. 

You gave up your cat to sit in cage all scared and alone while it waits to die.  We simply pointed out the falsities in your overly simple thinking.  As far as how you feel, the truth hurts. That's not on us.

ShakeyJakey

If cats are not super low maintenance someone please tell me now because that's the #1 reason I want a kitten and not a puppy.

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prncebride said:

I just wanted to say thank you ladies for making me feel like a piece of shit.  I think I've been lambasted enough, but thank you for making me think I gave my cat up to satan, it's much appreciated. 

You couldn't for ONE MINUTE think posting this here would gain you sympathy?  

You got rid of your CAT because you didn't have enough time to pet her?  COME ON!  

Cats don't need much.  They really don't.  

My cat is a complete jerk, but he is my jerk.  He is happy at home whether I'm there or not, whether I can pet him or not.  He is home and happy.  

You could have at least said that you kid was allergic.  Sheesh.

SpaceGirlSpiff

ShakeyJakey said:

If cats are not super low maintenance someone please tell me now because that's the #1 reason I want a kitten and not a puppy.

They are wayyyyy lower maintenance than a puppy.  Go get you a kitteh!!

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The only time someone can honestly say that they don't have enough time to take care of a cat is if they are dead.

DragonBlood died, she doesn't have enough time to take care of her cat, need to find him a new home.

And even then, Bob would probably find a way to survive.

jorkz821

MermaidsMagic said:

ShakeyJakey said:

If cats are not super low maintenance someone please tell me now because that's the #1 reason I want a kitten and not a puppy.

I really suggest getting an adult cat over a kitten. Kittens, while freaking adorable, are unpredictable. Adult cats in shelters already have their personalities, are trained and tend to be better around humans. Just a thought.
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I hear OP might have one she's looking to unload....


....Too soon?

angelashly

@ShakeyJakey‌ maybe pp can get her cat back and get it to you. Win win

Jdogs12

twolittledogs said:

I have two dogs and a toddler and a baby on the way.

The dogs still get attention...

Same here.  OP you are delusional.

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Bob is googling your address and is going to come pay a visit to you.

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nanabanana06

Wow, I just can't believe you thought this would be ok? I volunteer at a shelter. You wanna know what happens to cats that don't get adopted quickly enough? They get euthenized. My shelter runs whole months where adult cats are free to adopt and we still have to euthenize some. It's sad, but it's life. You gave your cat up cuz you had a kid? That's so pathetic. Animals are part of the family, not an accessory to the family. Sure, times can be busy. However, it's a cat. Cats need food, water, and some place to sleep. They are more low maintenance than a goddam hamster. Go get your cat back before it's too late. There was no reason to give that cat up besides complete selfishness. Your going to get zero sympathy from me. I have 2 kids, 2 cats, and have raised 2 puppies now since Cade's been born. I think you can handle a freaking cat.

nanabanana06

Also, Stella says to rub mah belleh!

SpaceGirlSpiff

Old picture of my kittehs, Ella (dilute tortie) and Loki (Black manx)...this was not too long after we got Loki to be a companion to our first, right before DS was born... I had to capture that she had finally accepted him and that they finally lerved eachother .... look  how shes hugging him, aw.

They provide plenty of entertainment to one another.