I want to say goodbye here too in case someone here no longer lurks on the main board
Good morning ladies
I hate to start the morning off like this and I hate even more that I am even writing this. I gave in last night and I tested at 11 DPT (for any newbies that don’t know my story, it is in my siggy). Something in my heart told me it was not going to be positive and to test then so I wouldn’t have to go to work in tears or break my husband’s heart on our anniversary tomorrow when we get our beta. DH and I sat together and prayed before I took the test and afterward I was too scared to even look so my husband had the unfortunate honor. I knew by his expression that it was a BFFN. I knew then that it was over but he wanted me to take another test from a different package (since the other package had been sitting in the cupboard since April 2013) this morning. Yet another BFFN. I think that was the most painful part- hearing the hope drain in his voice and hearing his heart break from the umpteenth time.
I feel shattered and empty but at the same time, I feel normal. I’ve realized just how abnormal and foreign the idea of having a baby has come to be and I hate that I even have that feeling. I have so much anger at my own body. Before I knew that my babies were unhealthy so in my heart and head I was able to eventually justify those losses, but knowing that these embryos were completely healthy but that my body rejected and killed them... I can’t comprehend that. I was able to get pregnant with abnormal embryos, why couldn’t I get pregnant with healthy embryos?? I wish I knew what the future holds, but I know in my gut that it will likely be having to accept life without being a mother.
Like I told my check-in ladies this morning, after 16 months of being on this board, and not anywhere closer to getting my rainbow, I think it is best for me to step back from The Bump. We’re not sure if we want to pursue embryo/egg adoption (if we decide to go that route) and it will likely take us a few years to save up since we have drained our bank accounts doing IVF. I just know I’m not in a good place to give support. I probably haven’t been for a while and I apologize for that. You ladies deserve so much that I just can’t give right now.
For all those on TTCAL now and for friends that have moved onto PGAL and PAL, words can’t describe how much you mean to me. You’ve helped me through the most difficult times in my life and there is nothing that I can say that can express my sincerest gratitude. You’ve encouraged me when I felt hopeless and lost, you’ve understood and shared my deepest fears, and you made me a part of a community when I felt so isolated from the rest of the world. For those that have sent PM’s along my journey, I am so appreciative of you and all your amazing support. You ladies mean the world to me. I’m so thankful that I found this board and I truly, truly thank you all from the bottom of my heart. Please know that I will be thinking of you often and wishing you all the very best. My deepest hope for all of you is that you get your beautiful rainbows. You deserve them and so much more.
TTC since April 2012
BFP #1, 10/03/2012 - EDD 6/15/2013 - MMC 11/15/2012 - D&C 01/04/2013
BFP #2, 04/06/2013 - EDD 12/17/2013 - MC 04/19/2013
6/12/2013 Diagnosed with Balanced Translocation (12 & 16)
IVF #1 with PGS: 10/2013: Canceled 9/27/2013 for issues with genetic lab
IVF #1.5 with PGS: 11/16/2013: Canceled. 11 eggs retrieved, 9 mature & 9 fertilized, all unhealthy embryos
IVF #2: 1/22/14: Canceled. 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 7 fertilized, all unhealthy embryos
IVF #3 with PGS: 5/10/2014: Switched to FET in July. 10 eggs retrieved, 9 mature, 8 fertilized, 2 healthy embryos!
FET #1: 7/31/2014: Transferred 2 nearly perfect (6AA, 6BA) healthy embryos- BFFN
Laproscopy: 10/2014: Healthy uterus
IVF #4: 12/8/2014: Canceled. 17 eggs retrieved, 15 mature, 10 fertilized, all unhealthy embryos
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Re: XP: Goodbye
BFP #2: EDD 9/3/13~~Slow HB at 1st U/S~~MMC -Loss on 2/13/13
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TTC #1 since June 2012
Current Status: IVF with ICSI and PGS
Genetic, RPL, SA and Fertility testing = Normal/Good HSG = All Clear
BFP #1 12.30.2012 || Blighted Ovum 02.05.2013 || D&C 02.11.2013
BFP #2 09.10.2013 || c/p 09.12.2013
BFP #3 12.1.2013 || mm/c 01.15.14 || D&C 01.21.14 chromosome abnormality
May 2014: Residual HCG and retained tissue found
05.13.2014: Hysteroscopy D&C to find and remove retained tissue
June 2014: Tissue sample results indicate a partial molar pregnancy
May - Aug 2014: TTA for monitoring and testing
08.21.2014: Hysteroscopy to remove minor scar tissue - the result of 3 D&Cs
Sept/Oct: IUI #1 Femara + Bravelle + Ovidrel = BFN
Oct/Nov: IUI #2 Femara + Ovidrel = BFN
Nov/Dec: IUI #3 Femara + Bravelle + Ovidrel = BFN
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dream 1 CAME TRUE 2.13.2010
<dream 2> 12.2011
2.10.12 : 4 weeks
6.17.12 : 10 weeks
10.10.12 : 4 weeks, 6 days
12.13.12 : 9 weeks, 1 day
4.6.13 : 4 weeks, 4 days
10.27.13 : 5 weeks, 6 days
4.2.14 (IVF #1) : 4 weeks, 1 day
6.19.14 : IVF #2 Negative
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