New to 3T

BeckyM613

Hello Ladies!
I hope I am in the right place. My husband and I (DH is 29 and I'm 27) have been TTC for 17 cycles now with not even so much as a late period. We also recently moved from Virginia to California because DH is in the military. That means, in addition to dealing with the stress of trying to get pregnant, I have to deal with the stress of TriCare. Who's with me? I went to my doctor on about cycle 9 to talk about my options. He told me that he would put in a referral to see a reproductive endocrinologist (RE) and that DH should go get an SA. When I called to make my appointment with the RE, I was told that my referral was never made. I was mad. A few months later we found out that we were going to be moving to San Diego. We decided to "take some time off" even though we never really stopped trying. I just stopped testing and tracking everything. It actually helped improve our sex life because the pressure was gone. We have now been living in San Diego for two months and we were hopeful that the reduced stress and new lifestyle would be conducive to conceiving. Wrong again.
After the first visit from AF once we moved, I called my doctor out here and scheduled an appointment. First of all, I LOVE my doctor here a bazillion times more than my last doctor. She actually seems like she knows what's going on. She explained to me that my first referral probably didn't go through because I had not had any preliminary testing done. No one told me about said testing. My new doctor explained how there are many fertility issues that can be treated without the need to visit an RE. She ordered a ton of bloodwork and a pelvic ultrasound. I went for the first round of bloodwork later that week, the rest has to be done on AF day 3 which should be in about 7 days, and I go for my ultrasound in two days. I also have a "well-woman" appointment coming up during which I hope to discuss with my doctor the results from all of the tests and what my options are.
I know I am very new in this process, but I am feeling relieved that the ball is rolling in the right direction. Now I just have to get DH to get the SA done.

Keep your chin up, ladies! We are all on this crazy ride together!

shirleymaeby

Welcome!  Sending up the bat signal to @iputketchuponketchup who has dealt with TriCare and can give you some pointers.

MrsLolaSky

Welcome! I hope you can get everything figured out soon! Good luck!

EmilieT10

Welcome and sorry that you find yourself here. Good luck with testing and hopefully you get answers soon!

theholmanherd

Welcome! I hope your stay is short and sweet

Radiantly

Welcome, you've found the right place! Sorry you're having trouble but good to find a good Dr.  I guess I skipped the referral b/c I am over 35, so when I made the appt with an RE they didn't need a referral.

BunnyBerry

Welcome! So sorry they gave you the runaround about a referral. 

Sorry, too, that lower stress didn't make a difference for you. At least that's an answer to the obnoxious people who always tell us, "Just relax and you'll get pregnant!"

I'm so glad that you have coverage for treatments! That sounds like great coverage. Hopefully you'll hardly need to use it, of course.

Since you already have an IF diagnosis, I would be very wary that the doctor is hoping to solve your problem without seeing an RE. The reality is, with regular periods, after all this time there may be more than one thing wrong. I would not want to waste my time, money, or trouble on treatments that may or may not be a solution until an RE ruled out issues with a full panel of testing.

And do follow Ketchup's advice regarding monitoring...meds without monitoring is like playing Russian roulette with your health and fertility.

BeckyM613

Thank you so much ladies! And thank you so very much @iputketchuponketchup! I will definitely keep all of that in mind when I go! I may even print it out and study it so I will be on top of my game!
A friend of mine who had twins through IVF at Walter Reed in MD told me that someone told her that San Diego really is top of the line as far as infertility treatments. I am actually very happy that we got stationed out here.
I'm still new to the area and I have to drive into downtown San Diego for my ultrasound and I'm freaking out about the drive and finding parking at the hospital. I guess it's a very small price to pay if it helps us have our baby finally.

Much love to all of you wonderful ladies!

catlover790

Hi and welcome! It sounds like the other ladies already covered most everything but I too would try to get the RE referral as soon as you can. I hope you get some answers soon!!

sbju2012

Welcome and good luck with your tests! Hope your stay is short.

kushie77

Welcome, sorry you find yourself here, but this is an amazing group of women.  

Ketchup is brilliant, both in knowledge and comic relief.