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TTC After a Loss
pink*sheep
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Intro and vent **other people's pregnancies mentioned**
pink*sheep
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I hope I'm doing this right...here's my story:
I went to my ultrasound expecting to be at around 10 weeks on 7/31. Found growth only went to 6 weeks but dr wanted to check again in a week. I knew it'd be a horrible week but on Monday evening I started bleeding (very lightly actually) but dr told me to go to er where they confirmed still no growth, so this Wednesday I had a d&c. This was my first mc. Here's the vent, now, everyone under the sun I know is pregnant. It was hard enough after a coworker outed me accidentally and then having to tell everyone about the mc. I would have been closing in on 12 weeks and due 2/27/15. Now every damn story on my newsfeed is someone else announcing their due dates (which by the way are all saying March, and I think to myself, wow that seems early to tell). I thought I was handling this well, but I swear I can't stand pregnant people. I really thought I would be done crying. My heart breaks that we even have to have this group.
I went to my ultrasound expecting to be at around 10 weeks on 7/31. Found growth only went to 6 weeks but dr wanted to check again in a week. I knew it'd be a horrible week but on Monday evening I started bleeding (very lightly actually) but dr told me to go to er where they confirmed still no growth, so this Wednesday I had a d&c. This was my first mc. Here's the vent, now, everyone under the sun I know is pregnant. It was hard enough after a coworker outed me accidentally and then having to tell everyone about the mc. I would have been closing in on 12 weeks and due 2/27/15. Now every damn story on my newsfeed is someone else announcing their due dates (which by the way are all saying March, and I think to myself, wow that seems early to tell). I thought I was handling this well, but I swear I can't stand pregnant people. I really thought I would be done crying. My heart breaks that we even have to have this group.
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Re: Intro and vent **other people's pregnancies mentioned**
Me (34); DH (35)
BFP 11/25/13; Heard strong heartbeats for 3 weeks; Natural MC (1/15/14)
BFP 11/11/14 EDD 07/21/15 hoping for our rainbow!
I too recently suffered a MMC at had a d&c at 10 weeks. Currently I feel like everyone around me is pregnant. DH and I told our families at 7 weeks, but only a handful of really close friends. My mother on the other hand had told her whole office at work about it. In turn I made her turn around and tell them about my loss.
I hope you an find comfort here. I know this board has done wonders for my emotional healing. Welcome! (((Hugs)))
DH & I are both 28 Together: 12 years Married: 09/24/2011
BFP#1: January '12 - DD1 09/16/2012
Preterm labor 31 weeks. Monitored for Hellp and diagnosed with oligohydramnios July '12
BFP #2: 06/25 - EDD 03/05/15 MMC confirmed 8/1 - D&E 8/4 retained tissue discovered 8/20
BFP #3 11/24 - 12/15 Heartbeat detected - DD2 07/29/15
Dx: Me: Recurrent Pregnancy Loss; DH: Low Morphology (2%)
BFP#1: MC 3/1/11 at 6w1d - EDD 10/21/11
BFP#3: MC 2/8/14 at 4w5d - EDD 10/13/14
BFP#6: CP 11/6/14 at 4w2d - EDD 7/14/15
IVF #1 with ICSI & PGS: May/June 2015, ER 6/3/15, 17R/17M/15F
IVF #2 with ICSI & PGS: July 2015, ER 7/16/15, 16R/11M/9F
PGS results = 6 normal embryos (4 boys, 2 girls)
FET 9/23/15 = BFFN
PgAL welcome
Married 6/11/2011
Me & Hubby: 34
TTC journey started 12/2012
BFP #1 6/5/2013, MC confirmed 6/26/2013 @ 7 wks
BFP#2 8/25/2013 MC confirmed 10/16/2013 @ 12 wks (D&C 10/18)
Diagnosis: unexplained RPL, unexplained IF.
Also have hypothyroidism
Started TTC again 12/2013
IUI#1:Clomid CD 3-7, Trigger'ed CD 12. IUI CD 14. BFN
IUI #2:Letrozole CD 3 - 7, Follistim CD 9, Trigger CD 10, IUI CD12. BFN
Current plan: IVF with PGD. Antagonist - Vivelle Protocal. Stim start 12/1. ER 12/14.
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/502498
I was going to deactivate my acct all together but I'm part of a running group who run for for kids with disabilities, and it's how I communicate with my "buddy", so I decided to just delete the app from my phone to avoid any compulsion to "check" the app. I appreciate the support, esp bc I really didn't expect to need it. I know our time will come (again, we have a 4 yr old), and it's nice to be amongst some very kind company
Started TTC Nov. 2011
1st clomid cycle June 2012- No response :: HSG August 2012- Left tube blocked, right tube clear :: 2nd clomid cycle Aug. 2012 BFN :: 3rd clomid cycle Sept. 2012 :: BFP Sept 30th :: DS born 6/15/13 :: BFP #2 7/29/14 M/C 8/5/14 :: BFP#3 10/20/14 DD born 7/1/2015 :: Applied to be surrogate April '17 :: Transferred 1 Embryo for IFs Dec. '17 :: Surro Babe born 9/11/18 :: Started 2nd Journey May '19 :: Transferred 1 Embryo for new IFs 9/24/19 :: HB 138 at 6w6d
DX: Septate Uterus. Septum resection 6/4/13
My Ovulation Chart
***Warning: Other's pregnancy mentioned***
know you're not alone. I avoid my FB account on days I'm having a hard time and I work with two women who are pregnant - one of whom tricked her husband into getting her pregnant for a fourth time and seems awful proud of that fact - so I know what it's like to feel like you're surrounded by pregnant women. You're going to have good days and bad days and they're all normal. It's okay to feel how you do, you don't need to apologize. Take care of yourself.
BFP 4/8/14, MMC 5/5/14, D&C 5/9/14
BFP 8/26/14 Due date 5/8/15
BFP #1: EDD 05/27/2014 (D&C 10/17/2014)
I'm sorry for your loss. I also have an older child (almost 3.5), and am part of a bump-spin-off FB group, where it feels like everyone has already had another kid (or 2!) or is getting pregnant. I'm staying away from that group for now.
hugs, and I hope you find the support you need here! I know I have.
TTC#2: started June 2014; BFP on 7/22/14; EDD 3/31/5; MC 8/3/14
CRB (aka L): born 3/21/11 (35 weeks, 5 weeks in the NICU)
October 2011 - DS (7)
July 2014 - Stillborn DD (24 weeks)
August 2015 - DD (3)
April 2018 - 5 week loss
DX Endometriosis 2/2002 (lost left tube due to a cyst), PCOS 6/2010
BFP - 10/18/2012, EDD - 6/26/2013, Baby Girl lost at 22 weeks (T21), D&E 2/15/2013
BFP - 4/23/2014, EDD - 1/2/2015 Twin Boys lost at 12 weeks, M/C 6/25/2014
My chart here All ALers welcome!
BFP #1 05/03/12 DD: 12/18/12
BFP #2 05/26/14 MMC: 6/26/14 D&C: 7/18/14
BFP #3 10/09/14 MC 10/24/14