Being alone

Alyssa&bby

Does anyone else feel like they're going to be alone after the baby gets here.. Idk how to handle this, I'm so emotional rn & can't think of DH not being around to raise our child

erinchrisitne424

Why do you feel that DH wont be around to raise your child? 

Alyssa&bby

He's in college & playing on a Varsity soccer team erinchrisitne424

Dani0329

I'm nervous too, DH is in the military. I am fortunate that our families will likely come help in the first few weeks if he gets sent away. It will be an adjustment, but you can do it!

reneenearl

My situation is different but I can relate to feeling alone. We have a 2 yr old and now this little one on the way. We both work full time and have opposite days off. I work 8-430 PM and he works 11pm-7:30AM then add commuting times into that. I go to work in the morning and he stays with the toddler. When I get home he goes to bed so he can leave for work later that evening. We only are each other in passing.

I will tell you that you learn to make it work and what I find to be a positive about it is that we definitely cherish our time together as a family more often. The time we have together we spend doing fun things together and paying more attention to each other.

MuffinMom14

I have no reason to think this way at all, but my fear lately is that something will happen to my husband, and I'll be left alone. It's morbid. I can't stop thinking about it.

DaniGrace89

During my first trimester my hormones were playing tricks on me to the point where I firmly believed DH would leave my daughter and I after is born.

I don't know if what you are going thru has something to do with pregnancy hormones, but just in case it does, try to take it easy. I almost let these thoughts drive a wedge in our marriage. Now things are amazing. Once I hit 13 weeks I stopped hating DH.

pnwlover12

SPurp13 said:

I have no reason to think this way at all, but my fear lately is that something will happen to my husband, and I'll be left alone. It's morbid. I can't stop thinking about it.

This happened to me with my first. I was constantly afraid something would happen to DH - like worried everytime he got into the car.

Klavanga74

Do you work and will you be going back to work?  Are you also in school?  Even if you are, check around for some local mom's groups.  When my first was born I started going to a local mom's group when she was about 5 weeks old and it was a Godsend.  People all in the same situation that I was in, or close.  I made some of my best friends at that time.  I don't know what I would have done without them.  Try meetup.com for your area and see if theres' anything existing.  There's MOPS (which is geared towards Moms with preschoolers, but would probably be open to someone with a newborn), also local churches.  That's where I found my group and we had plenty of members who weren't members of the church.  It's totally normal to feel overwhelmed - esp with all DH has going on, but know you're not alone.  It just may take a little time to find "your people".