Names

mallory4284

So I was just bored and perusing the Baby Name forum and can't really fathom asking a bunch of strangers for their opinion on my name choices.... Or spelling preferences if I feel like going again the grain with "traditional" spellings.... I don't care to know the opinion of my family, let alone strangers. The way I figure it, it's my child and if I like the name, that's all that matters.... There's really no point to this, it's just a thought I had while reading everyone's opinions about other people's baby names....

I personally plan on keeping our names private until the baby is born and we "introduce" it to the world... Just because I don't want anyone's unwanted opinion about what I choose....

But on the subject, how did you pick your name(s)? Family name? Just like the way it sounded? Or other?

2MamazInSeattle

It sounds like you have a good ideas of what is important to you around naming! Yay!

For me, named Jennifer in the 70's, it was very important not to have a popular name, so anything in the top 100 was out. We also did not want a 'made up' name - we kind of feel like those are saying "hi my parents were trying too hard to be different" (we have some specific friends, er, acquaintances, in this category whom we did not want to be like). That said, it was important that we not have any "yoo-nique" spellings, that it sounded like it was spelled/was spelled like it sounds. My last name is very short and simple, yet, I have to spell it every time because "s" and "f" sound so alike. I did not want her to have to spell her first name too...assuming she will have to spell her last name.

What we did want was a French name (J is 100% cajun), something familiar but not popular, and that met the above criteria. In the end, once we found out it was a girl I asked her "What about Simone?" and she said "I LOVE that name." and I was like "if you're serious, we are done." And Simone it is! We had all along decided on J's gramma's name for her middle, so it's Simone Louise. Before we came up with Simone we had toyed with using our two maternal gramma's names as a 'safety net' name.

I had hoped to maybe share it here (to 'get it out' someplace so i didn't burst)  and otherwise keep it under wraps, but J told her mom who had it on Facebook in mach 10, so it was 'out'. The fun part of it being out is that we have called her by her name the whole time, got to decorate her room with it, and got some really sweet personalized baby gifts with her name on them. Only one person seemed kind of 'meh' about her name, everyone else has loved it (genuinely it seemed) so we haven't had to deal with any negativity.

HTH! And you are wise to stay off the Baby Name board - they are super against funky spellings, a lot of time trendy/popular names, etc. One site I used a lot that just gave me ideas was www.nameberry.com - it is a little more sophisticated and made me look at/think about names I'd never have thought of. Even if I didn't like them, it sometimes made me thing of others that were interesting and different.

mallory4284

Thanks for the website suggestion!! Sounds like you had a pretty easy time picking a name! That's awesome!

We have our boy name pretty much set in stone (my parents and sister know it but it will be a secret to everyone else)

J insists that when we have a baby that it has her last name (personal reasons that I understand but it still bums me out because she has 2 brothers to carry on her family name and my dad is the only boy in his family and had two girls, so my family name stops with him and me) so our boy's name is Wyatt and his middle name will not exactly be my last name but it's pretty close so I'm not going to disclose it here!

I had been set on Mason for a girl when we first started but after 2+ years, I've started changing my mind about it so we're kind of back to square one for a girl name.... Which undoubtedly means we'll end up with a girl when we do get pregnant lol

2MamazInSeattle

We had a loss before this baby at 16w that was a boy and we never did come up with a name! It wasn't easy for our girl but when we nailed it, it was a done deal. We went through A LOT though before we put Simone on the table! Good luck!!!

trisholio

It was fairly easy for us because we each had a girl named picked out already. Then we talked about boy names and family names, we actually have a couple of family names in common. So we came up with two boy names and two girl names. I learned to not ask people what they thought, I told them what names we had picked out and left it at that. People really do give their opinion whether you ask or not, so I learned to just brush it off.

Jazibel

EV kind of picked our names.  We have a very feminine last name so we wanted boys names that weren't too creative. Alexander (Kaden's middle name) is my brother-in-law's first name and Scott (Owen's middle name) is a family name on my side.  When EV posed Owen as a name I just loved it right away.

Twochickshavinachick

We have a shortlist of names for each sex - six for girls names and three for boys - that we plan on trying out just between us for a while (only half way through and we don't want anyone poo-pooing our fave names for the next five months) We chose them for different reasons.  Some were picked because one of us would like to honour a relative/close friend, some because we really liked the uniqueness factor of a name we had come across and there is one that is based on an old nickname of mine.

maybe once we get it narrowed down (after we know the sex and through elimination) we might consider telling select friends/family members whose opinions we value the final choices.

mallory4284

@winstan1‌ I like the tradition! There's a silly little tradition in my family that makes it a little harder for naming. Starting with my dad and aunts, everyone on my dad's side of the family have double initials (example first and middle initials are MM, my sister's are JJ, etc.... And it goes down through all my cousins and even my niece and my cousin's new baby)

It just makes it a little more challenging because some letters are harder to find two good names with. For instance I happen to really like Owen and Quinn, but O and Q names are hard to come by so it'll take a while to find a good name that flows well with it!

J's mom's side of the family actually has the tradition that every girl shares the same middle name of Marie but she's not close with her mom so she says she refuses to carry on that tradition (which I'm okay with because my middle name happens to be Marie too and I think it would be weird for us all to have the same middle name lol)

moonlitwish

We picked one name for a boy and one name for a girl as part of our coparenting agreement we had to submit to our therapist prior to him giving the ok for the 1st insemination. We haven't decided on middle names because we can't come to an agreement on a last name since neither of us want to change our last name. I'm not sure if there's some law that's going to require our kid have my last name. We literally just picked the first names out of the air until we both liked one.

2brides

I had liked the name Grayson when I heard it several years before we even started dating. L liked it and it was an anagram of her father's name. We hunted through baby books and somehow stumbled on Carter. We loved the name, the connection to a great President, and how it fit with Grayson. Because Gray had a connection to L's father, we gave C's my father's name as a middle name and we debated FOREVER about G's middle name. We finally settled on James as a connection to Jimmy Carter and how it sounded together.

mallory4284

@RobertJane33‌ I was wondering the same thing about the therapist thing! Other couples don't have to submit names to their doctor (or therapist for that matter) so why should we?? Weird....

moonlitwish

RobertJane33 said:

@moonlitwish: Why did you have to submit names to the therapist?  This seems like such an odd thing to have to do.And I'll admit, I'm a bit sensitive about the whole pre-clearance from a therapist thing - ours was absolutely terrible in an almost offensive sort-of way.  

The therapist want to make sure we talked about it. I told him we talk about everything. That's why I haven't murdered her yet! Lol. I too was a little peeved at even having to see one, but he did give us ideas on what to tell our kid about their origins (kid friendly terminology and such). Still don't think that was worth the extra $325 that I could have put towards another sperm vial if this iui doesn't work.

mallory4284

moonlitwish said:

RobertJane33 said:

@moonlitwish: Why did you have to submit names to the therapist?  This seems like such an odd thing to have to do.And I'll admit, I'm a bit sensitive about the whole pre-clearance from a therapist thing - ours was absolutely terrible in an almost offensive sort-of way.  

The therapist want to make sure we talked about it. I told him we talk about everything. That's why I haven't murdered her yet! Lol. I too was a little peeved at even having to see one, but he did give us ideas on what to tell our kid about their origins (kid friendly terminology and such). Still don't think that was worth the extra $325 that I could have put towards another sperm vial if this iui doesn't work.



Dang that's a steep price! We only had to pay like $100.... We also did ours over the phone because we live so far away from our doctor.... It was still annoying though.... I hated it. J was much better at answering the questions. I was too afraid I was going to say something wrong and have her tell us we weren't ready.... Which I think would have been total BS....