Feeling blue (sorry, Debbie Downer on a Friday)

flyingsaucer

Lately I am feeling unhappy. I feel really guilty about feeling unhappy, because I am so fortunate in so many ways, but still, I am feeling unhappy. To make a long story, DH has a new job (this was not really a choice, something that had to happen) for the last 2 years. He has to work very long hours and often 6 days per week. I feel like I am often alone and always struggling to take care of everything home and kid related. I work full time too. I cut back to 30 hrs a week when DH took this new job to try to balance things out a little. I often feel like all we do is work and/or run around trying to take care of our responsibilities and we are enjoying life less than ever before. Our house has been on the market for 2 years and is not selling (and we have very little space). I am struggling with child care/work schedules and trying to balance being a good mom and do a good job at work. I feel like I suck at both, home and work cuz I am stretched too thin. My car broke down today and it's gonna cost like a million dollars to fix it. Ugh. Sorry for the pitty party. Vent over.

theimpossibleastronaut

Huge hugs to you. I'm sorry you are feeling like this. I wish I had some awesome advice, but I don't. I really hope things look up soon.

Try not to be too hard on yourself. I'm sure you're doing the best you can with how hectic your schedule is.

ShakeyJakey

((Hugs)) that is a lot to deal with. I don't really have any advice either but feel free to vent any time. I hope things start going your way soon

klondikebar

Big hugs. I'm sorry you have so much to deal with. I hope things improve soon for you.

littlestjerry

Vent away, that's rough. I try to focus on one day at a time, but I know it's much easier said than done. I hope things start looking up for you soon.

smlowe9311

Hugs to you. No advice but I do know how you feel. Mil just went into the hospital for what will probably be the last time after an 18 month battle with lung cancer. Dh isn't doing too well understandably plus he's still struggling to connect with our 11 month old dd. We both work in the school system so we are off for the summer but it still feels like I'm the only one cleaning and cooking and taking care of dd. Plus I go back for pre-planning next week so dd will be in a new day care and in anxious about that because she got kicked out of her last one because she was "too much to handle". Hello she's 11 months old. She's going to need you to hold her sometimes and get down on the floor with her.

Sending good vibes your way @flyingsaucer‌

RondackHiker

Big hugs. Please don't feel guilty. You are entitled to feel sad and overwhelmed.

I can relate to a DH with long hours. It's exhausting to not have him around. I found it helps to find friends whose DH's have similar schedules. They are more willing to hang out during typical family times.

BluepointToasted

RondackHiker said:

I can relate to a DH with long hours. It's exhausting to not have him around. I found it helps to find friends whose DH's have similar schedules. They are more willing to hang out during typical family times.

This.
Finding friends who are in the same boat has helped me tremendously. It helps to pass the time and keep the LO busy. Evenings can feel realllllllyyyyy long when you are by yourself.

Hang in there. Vent here whenever you need to.

lifesaverz

I'm sorry you're in that situation. I have been there before & I know it feels crappy. And it's really tough when you feel like most of the home responsibilities are on you, that can really wear you down. . I agree with PPs that maybe it would help to try & spend some time with family or friends, just to have a little more socialization so you don't feel like you're always working/taking care of things. And sometimes it helps just to get it out like you did. Hugs!

flyingsaucer

Thanks everyone for your responses and the encouragement. Sometimes I just need to complain :-). I appreciate being able to come here and do that! @smlowe9311‌ , so sorry to hear about your MIL. That must be tough on all of you guys.

fancynewbeesly

*hugs* That is hard. DH just started working overtime and more hours at his job and we are definitely feeling the effect of him not here as much. Last night DD almost fell asleep on the living room floor because she wouldn't go upstairs until Daddy came home. 

FalconCrest

Hugs to you